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Have you ever dealt with friends who are in silent competition with you? How did you notice? What is the best way to deal with friends like that?
What did these friends do? Did they, for example?

* Minimising your success.

* Go mute when you tell them about your success, accomplishment, or just good news?

* Try One-Upping you.

* Show "Copycat" Behaviour. (for example, you tell them about becoming good at playing basketball and suddenly they want to play basketball too when they were no interested before you said/showed you are getting good at it.)

* Forcing Competition: They act as a "rival friend" rather than a supportive peer.

A example, you're interested in dating a woman or guy, and suddenly your friend wants them too or the person to be interested in them more than you or wants their attention as well, claiming the person you want to date is just fun to be around etc).

* Did they maybe try to hijack or try to dismiss a compliment someone else gave you in their presence?

(For example a women complimnting you on your looks and your friend stepping in and tells the woman someing like ''Oh he is just tall, all women love tall guys'' .

Or another example a guy calling you beautifull in front of your friend and your friend telling them ''it's because she is wearing make up''.)

Let’s say there’s a room empty save for 10 men, and they’re all talking about various things. One man makes a derogatory joke about women, the usual thing where the punchline is women are stupid/sluts/only useful in the kitchen.
Three men laugh at the joke, because a good joke is a good joke! They’re not going to let political correctness stop them from enjoying a good laugh.
The remaining 6 men are made uncomfortable by the joke.
Three of those six still laugh in a sort of uncomfy chuckle, they don’t want to be left out of the group even if it’s kinda gross.
The other three remain silent, they don’t want to encourage that kind of behavior by laughing at it. They change the subject.
At the end of the night, all ten men go home, the joke is not mentioned again. Who are the good men?

i've been thinking about this question lowkeyly since shortly after trump was reelected, since that's when i really noticed the manosphere & the heritage foundation's agendy and all the other 'good' stuff. i feel like at this point most guys my age are at least somewhat contaminated with manosphere or alt right talking points (i even personally know guys that are kneck deep into that shit) which is really scary to think about. it's pretty concerning namely because i definitely don't want to risk accidently dating or worse, marrying & having kids, with a genuine misogynist who worships fresh&fit and nick fuentes. especially if you factor in potential rolling back of no fault divorce, birth control, etc. a lot of those dudes pretend to be normal or downplay what they are, so it's often hard to know, especially in the beginning. even if you get with a normal dude, there's a big risk his algorithm eventually ends up brainwashing him. even if these guys don't end up on the farther end of the spectrum, they still end up with ideas and attitudes about women that feel remniscent of the 80s, and that's pretty terrible already.

now about the question, i know that this touches every age bracket but it's heavily concentrated on gen z dudes and younger. i'm in my mid twenties (the age of my profile is muchhh older, thought it was slightly funny when i created my account years ago) for reference. i'm really most attracted to guys my age, never been that much of a daddy appreciator or anything, but i think it could maybe be more wise potentially? to date older at this point. i feel like millenials are much less contaminated by this type of stuff, or am i wrong? (atm that refers to 30-40yos). could maybe consider younger gen x (like 45-50something yos), though i'm typically not very physically attracted to men those ages and there's the risk that if they're willing to date a woman in her mid 20s it could mean bad things about their real beliefs and attitutes to women.