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Some people argue against marriage for a variety of personal, social, and financial reasons. Here are a few commonly cited reasons why some men choose not to get married:

1. **Legal and Financial Risks**: Divorce can be financially devastating due to alimony, child support, and division of assets. Some men feel that the legal structure of marriage disproportionately affects them in cases of separation.

2. **Loss of Personal Freedom**: Marriage can require compromises on independence, personal time, and decision-making, which some men might be unwilling to sacrifice.

3. **Changing Social Norms**: With the rise of cohabitation, long-term relationships without marriage, and acceptance of various family structures, some men feel less social pressure to marry.

4. **Fear of Divorce**: Given that divorce rates can be significant in some countries, some men avoid marriage to prevent emotional pain, financial loss, and the stress of a potentially complicated breakup.

5. **Negative Experiences**: Some men may have seen unhappy marriages in their families or among friends, which influences them to avoid marriage altogether.

6. **Prioritization of Career or Personal Goals**: Some men may choose to focus on their careers, personal growth, or hobbies, feeling that marriage could interfere with their aspirations.

7. **Perception of Modern Marriage Dynamics**: Some men believe that the traditional benefits of marriage no longer apply due to evolving gender roles and societal changes, making it less attractive.

These perspectives don't apply universally, and many men still see great value in marriage depending on personal, cultural, and relational factors.

I know you've seen many questions on this site asking about your BODY count. So many people think that the most important number is how many partners you've given your naked body. That's important, to some extent, but how many partners have you given your heart? How many times have you been in love?

I've been in love 8 times in 53 years of relationships and marriage. The level of mutual commitment in some of the early relationships did not compare to my later relationships, but the feelings were there and the loss of each of those relationships had a very significant impact on me. One of those relationships lasted 17 years and each of the others lasted at least a year.