I feel uncomfortable and disgusted whenever my husband touches me. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I love my husband, and we've been married for three years after meeting at work. We're both divorced and went through premarital and marriage counseling to strengthen our relationship. During counseling, my husband revealed he didn’t find me attractive and thought I looked unhealthy. At 5'3" and 152 lbs, I was a bit heavier, but that was my weight when we got married, so he knew my appearance.

Shortly after, I found out I was pregnant, and my body changed even more, now 10 lbs heavier. I've been working to lose the baby weight but struggle with the slow progress. His comments have left me feeling deeply insecure. I hate how my body looks and how he touches me. It’s been over a year, and his remarks still haunt me, affecting our intimacy. I feel disconnected from him and wonder if our marriage can recover from this. I need help moving past these feelings. What should I do?

[ohsheeT]

I think you need to find yourself I think you need to do something for yourself. And take 30 minutes a day and walk at a very fast pace breathe in through your nose breathe out through your nose that's the only way you're going to get good clean oxygen that will clear your mind within a week to a week and a half you'll see a difference you will feel the difference and your whole attitude about everything will start changing the moment you see a change within yourself.
To be honest with you it sounds like you're more disgusted with yourself than your husband.

And that's because you know what you have to do but you're just don't do it get motivated do it for yourself 30 minutes a day for 30 days I guarantee it will change your life walk for 30 minutes a day at a very fast pace and see what happens in 30 days once you start feeling better just because you're getting oxygen to your brain and your body and your organs but once you start feeling better with a clear mind you will start looking better and when you start looking better you're going to want to be touched and loved and held.

You can't do that for yourself then it's never going to happen because you're the only person that can do it you can't blame anybody for anything except for yourself anyway you're the only person on the inside of you that can make you happy you're the only person on the inside of you that can make you sad make a choice what do you want go after it get it quit being lazy get off your ass and go do it..

Sorry I had to say it like that but it's true and you know it's true so do something for yourself love yourself again that's what it will all start all over and things will change

[gag6474]

there's nothing wrong with u. your husband said he didn't find you attractive from then on u did not want sex. tell him about how insecure it made you and how it lowered ur libido to nonexistent

also try to get in shape and dress nice for him so he can lust after you again

[msc545]

Get some professional help.

[slatyb]

Continue counseling.

[jahaims]

You are immature