Search Results: qualities in a person

29F, have been told I’m pretty/attractive, have a younger face which is how I could be deemed as cute instead. When I tell you I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually want to date, I get attention from guys in person but it’s usually the questionable ones. I’ve been told on and off in the past that a guy I found attractive would look at me/found me attractive but never did anything about it (I’m too shy to also). I don’t have any in person friends as I work remote & sadly only rely on dating apps. The guys I match with I find attractive but not sure if I’m just unlucky (likely the case) or it’s dating apps as a whole but for some reason it doesn’t work out for a multitude of reasons. If those guys actually noticed me in person I would feel a little bit more secure. My thing is I’m pretty old in my opinion, as most people my age are married & have kids. I only have a str under my belt from a few years ago when I was in my early twenties & have been single since. I have this mindset that if I was actually attractive, I would’ve had quality guys lined up by now. Since that str, I’m very selective & am even quicker to stop something in its tracks if the guy does something that turns me off/isn’t what I’m fully looking for. I think dating has treated me very unfairly as “pretty girls” don’t deal with this, unless I’m missing something. And I’ll add this even though it shouldn’t matter that much in the very early talking stages: I don’t care about sex much at all, maybe overthinking it but unsure if that vibe is picked up on being so reserved.

TLDR: would you also think you’re unattractive if you’re almost thirty & don’t ever get attention from guys you’d actually consider dating?

It seems like people only select a partner purely just base one emotions/feelings and infautation but not seek important qualities such as these for instance, don't actually take the time during the vetting process:

- Does the person even shares similar goals?

- How do they get along with their families or are they all dysfunctional?

- Are you guys compatible in other areas?

- Besides the great feelings and passionate love and sex... yes he/she is the love of your life but what other great qualities they have?

So do you think falling in love is overrated? I get that being in love is a great experience but is it really worth staying when the person if you guys don't share anything in common at all and will then likely have arguments once the infatuation period fades?

Or do they not? 28F, getting matches on the apps aren’t the issue it’s just always the usual: convos fizzling out, ghosting, not a good match, weirdos etc. I usually don’t message guys first, I swipe right on profiles first once in a while but I usually match with them once they like me first. I used bumble before almost 2 years ago & never again, the guy seemed normal but he was one of the most annoying people I’ve met & I only knew him for 3 days. The point I’m trying to make is: do you all actually put yourselves out there when matching with guys on the apps/in person or do the quality matches just come your way? Asking since you’re attractive & it’s usually assumed the guys will come your way… or am I generalizing? Can’t help but feel like good looking women don’t have to work to find someone

28F, maybe you other women my age don’t have this issue. I know I’m not a 10 but I’m told I’m cute/pretty & never get attention from quality guys in person. I get it every once in a while from the guys you don’t want, I’ve been told in the past that I’d get looked at but the guys never did anything about it (and sometimes those were actually the guys I’d consider). I’m on and off dating apps, on there I get the matches & msgs but it just doesn’t work out: I experience the typical ghosting, fizzling out, taking too long to reply etc. There were some times when one of us would admit we weren’t feeling it & while I was guilty of this sometimes, I just figured if I was really attractive I wouldn’t be having this issue. I’ll add that I’m reserved & not very friendly, also on the lower end when it comes to sex drive (which isn’t that uncommon for a woman). Don’t think those play a big part but figured I’d bring it up, I just think it’s kind of unfair & at the point where I’m feeling even less of an urge to try whenever I decide to download the apps again. I can’t help but think it’s not my fault 🤷🏻‍♀️