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I was talking to a girl a few years ago. She was really interested in me and wanted a relationship. I kind of pushed her away because of things I was dealing with. It definitely seemed like a rejection from her viewpoint. I always felt awful about rejecting her, so I apologized and told her what I was thinking. I said it was my fault and she didn't do anything wrong, and that she is great. I told her it was my anxiety and depression and I didn't handle it well and I didn't want to reject her. I owned up to everything, took full blame and shared what I never was comfortable sharing with anyone. Her response was to ignore my apology and then post a picture of her all Dolled up trying to look as good as possible. Her hair done, makeup, trying to look like an Instagram model. She doesn't always post pictures like this, so the timing felt intentional. My impression of it was like a, hey, I'm great this is what you're missing type of thing.

Noone owes anyone forgiveness, but I am put off by this response. I went from feeling sad I hurt her feelings to feeling grossed out by her character. I told her she was great, and it was my anxiety and depression, and she responded like I had rejected her. I don't know, no response at all would have been one thing. But to kind of rub it in someone's face with a "Screw you im the bomb" post after someone talks about dealing with depression. That seems kind of messed up to me.

Where do you stand? Noone owes forgiveness or her response was a red flag?

There is a girl who I really screwed up with. I ended up hurting her but I didn't mean things the way they came off. I tried to apologize right after but she wasn't interested in listening to me. Now its been 15 years. I just talked to a former friend of hers, so I have been thinking about her a lot lately. I dont know if it will come off weird but I feel like if the truth could be spoken then she would forgive me. What do you think? How would you guys feel.

I had this happen a few moths ago. I had 4-5 prior conservations with this young woman. She never mentioned being in a relationship at any point (I was listening carefully for that). I very cautious with her because I didn’t know her age but I was guessing she was in her mid 20s and I was 40 at the time

I finally gathered up my courage and asked her one day if “she would like to get breakfast”. She smiled and said “thank you but I have boyfriend”. I apologized and said I didn’t know and said I wouldn’t ask again. I was disappointed but also relieved that she smiled because the last thing I wanted to come off as was an “old creep”.

But later I came to believe she was lying. I guess I get why. It’s the best way to spare a man’s feelings and also prevent him from keeping trying. But I really don’t like being lied to. Rather her say “thank you Joey but tbh I am just not interested in you that way.”