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Let's call my ex boyfriend for LUKE

Yesterday me and my best friend were texting about work and she suddenly texten this👇, but I tried to play it cool=

She= By the way, would it be okay if I come in contacted with Luke again? I don't want to do it behind your back, that's why I'm asking☺️

Me= As friends or a date?

She= Friends

Me= I was going to say that no matter what, you don't need my permission for that. Sure it's uncomfortable, to be honest, but I would never stop someone from being friends or anything with someone.

She= No, I know that! But I still wanted to ask you because I didn't want to go behind your back, you're still my best friend❤️

Me= That's my honest answer. Well thought out, that's my honest answer anyway.

She= And if you had said no, I wouldn't have contacted him

Me= Cute, but it's okay

She= Okay, good to know❤️
Me= yes

Story = so in 2023 me and this guy Luke dated from May- August, but broke up because he says he had issues with his family and work and is so stressed and can't jungle everything rn or give me the kind of man I want rn. So I thought that I should not be a burden and just accept his excuse and break up. During the first week we were dating , I had asked my friends if they knew him. my best friend sayd she knows him and that they had a small crush on each other when they were teenagers and he had kissed her on the cheek and run. I felt uncomfortable and even tho I had began to like Luke a lot, I was ready to end it, but then my best friend sayd that I don't need to end it because they don't have feelings for each other and that I should not let it come between me and love. So I trusted her words, but still felt uncomfortable and wanted to hear Luke's side of the story too if he likes her or if they were together of something long ago. He sayd no and a assured me that it was just a small crush back then and he doesn't feel anything for her. So I trusted him and felt less ucomfortable.

God I was blind...

Hey Guys and Gals!

Hope you're all having a great week!

I was chatting with a friend to coordinate our next meet up and we kept looking at calendar dates and sighing at one another, "I can't meet that day, I'm busy." Of course this was a genuine "I'm busy" however there are a number of people who use the "I'm busy" as a catch-all excuse to brush someone off as well. It sort of looks like this:

• (Blanket claim prior to invites.) I'm a really busy guy/gal...
• (When meeting a person and asking their availability.) I work late (with no end in sight for the foreseeable future)...
• (When meeting a person and asking their availability.) I tend to get really busy...
• (When a meetup is suggested.) I'll check my schedule and get back to you...
• (Last minute cancellation of a meetup.) Oooh. I can't. Next time...
• (When a meetup is suggested.) Sure. We'll talk...
• (My personal fave...) I'm a busy person (when you already know the person well and know they're not busy).

Obviously in the case of these and similar brush offs the person is just saying they can't be bothered to spend time with YOU. So I then feel bad when I do use the expression "I'm busy" (or it's equivalent) even though I genuinely AM very occupied with some project or client! (Sigh... )

So now I'll put it out to the group (and please be honest):

1. Do you use the "I'm busy" copout?

2. How often?

3. With whom?