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Long story short fighting with boyfriend over his 4-5 day disappearing hanging with other people and chicks, and then when I go anywhere even a gas station for 35 min to an hour hanging out with my friends he gets upset and wants me to break down my reasons well on day 4 I said I didn't want to continue the relationship with how much he takes off never tells me where he's going makes me worry and never replies to me. Never helps at home with the baby.. so I finally say point blank in black and white, WHAT ARE YOUR INTENTIONS WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP? he says he will move out, I'm a fucking bitch, he can't stand me, and he will come pack his stuff.
Later 6 hours later asks if he can come get clothes I say yes. He shows up to sleep and repeat the cycle of taking off once awake. NOW 4 days after finding out his intentions I've tried distancing myself, Detaching etc. And He sparks another argument with me which I say why does it matter that I cooked dinner with my family last night I deserve social interaction too besides just kids all day. He says it's not fair cause he doesn't get to go out. He will count me 1 hour with my family but his 5 to 8 hour hangout at the neighbors wasn't getting out. Then I blow up saying, Were not together so who gives a fuck and he's like oh now we're not together I'm like no we haven't been together since you told me your intentions. I used to love him so much but the controlling behavior only seems to be getting worse. To the point he tells our neighbors he was going to smack the fuck out of me. Like what man does that? If someone told you that they hate you and their intentions were to leave you, then, by all means why does he think we're now working it out? Yea I've been civil. Civilly waiting for him to get his shit and go. Then says he doesn't know what makes me think he didn't want to still be with me? Like I'm more into self love after this experience. I asked point blank his intentions yet I'm the bad person now.

My cousin and I had a falling out after she did something I asked her not to do revolving a guy…She is transgender and at first I told her to look on his page then I said never mind bc I realized I may not be able to trust her. I felt upset because I was not over the guy and it took me a year to really stop hurting….. I was telling my mother about it and she unknowingly admitted to me that she did snoop and she tried to see if he would reach out to her…. which hurt me soooo deeply. Instead of addressing the issue or supporting me, my mother brushed it off and continued to act as if nothing was wrong between us. This made me feel betrayed and dismissed, and I’m finding it hard to move past it.

she said things like “she wouldn’t do that “ “take responsibility for involving her” “ you’ve done things too” ( I would never try to talk to someone else’s person)…

I feel extremely hurt..

Do you all mind adding your country to your response? I’m curious to see if there is a correlation between outlook and culture.

I find my view of attraction aligns more with the French perspective than the country I currently reside in, which seems to most often conflate and limit the idea of attraction with finding someone aesthetically pleasing.

thanks! 💚