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I’m insecure about everything. Like I couldn’t get into a relationship. These insecurities are just a part of how I live my life I guess

For the record I am definitely guilty of:

• Posting about politics (often)
• Using profanity
• Getting in heated (even hateful) arguments
• Talking in depth about dirty/explicit sexual topics for entertainment. However I do much less of that nowadays.

But I remember first posting on GAG literally 14 years ago. Back then it really was more focused about dating and romance issues. Never posted about politics or anything unrelated outside men and women interacting.

I was also more open back then. This included admitting difficult (and embarrassing issues). Insecurities I was struggling with. But nowadays I’m rarely if ever that open. Reason being I am usually not in the mood to get blasted by some idiot troll.

Anyway I got in a real heated argument with one person on GAG yesterday. She unnecessarily hit a very deep nerve with me at the wrong moment. I responded back with sheer vitriol and wished the worst on here (which I later recanted). It wasn’t productive for anyone either way. Not good for her. Not good for me. Not good for anybody who read it.

However that made think harder. What if there was version of GAG that:

• Didn’t allow any slurs, labels, insults, explicit profanity. You can still post it but it the word will immediately get censored.
• Only focused on relationship issues
• Would only allow a PG version of sexual issues
• Wouldn’t allow any postings/opinions about politics (no matter where you stand).
  
  

Sure it sounds really boring and dull at first. But I can’t help but wonder how many people give up on this website at some point. Especially women. Or how many people come here just to “ventilate” vitriol. Or how many people come here for “talk” porn.

What about people who just want to post honest questions and get honest (respectful) responses. A respectful response isn’t always what you want to hear but what you NEED to hear. The difference is knowing the poster really wants to help you vs. enjoying throwing shade.

Is the belief or ideals of Monogamy inherently toxic?

For example Hollywood ideals we have come to know such as true love and soulmates demand both partners to be perfect for the entire marriage or relationship! Or otherwise it was never true love!

When we all know that human beings are inherently imperfect creatures, make lots of mistakes, and grow and change as person over time including our interests and dislikes.

Jealousy, suspicion, and mistrust is a huge part of monogamy! even though they will never admit it they will always have some doubt in the back of their heads. Why were they nice to x person or say x to that person or act in x way.

There are so many stipulation to marriage such as limiting interactions with the opposite sex, obligatory huge expensive weddings, obligatory expensive wedding ring, obligatory children, etc. etc.

If by some chance you are both miserable, divorce is a taboo and frowned upon and you are forced to stay with a person you hate for the rest of your life! And if you do get a divorce both partners fight tooth and nail to get as much from the other as possible and get control of the kids. etc. etc.

What do you guys think? Is it fair to trap a person to be with you for your entire life for your own selfish desires, beliefs, or insecurities?

What is wrong with loving every human being instead of being forced to just be with one for your entire life?