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I usually just assume someone is being friendly/considerate. There's someone I met through a friend 1 year ago, and he's very friendly and social. We started talking more recently.

I have a feeling my friend told him I'm very shy with people I don't know that well, because whenever we're talking, it's like he saved all of the questions I asked him through text and shoots them at me to make me talk more. "I remember you mentioned [topic], what did you like about it?" He also always tells me the reason why he's replying late while he doesn't have to or tells me about funny anecdotes when we talk. And some of the information he knows about me is through my friend because sometimes I'm like: "I can't remember I ever told him this".

"Let me know how it goes"
"Hopefully we can play again"
"I'll let you know when I try"
He always makes sure I feel comfortable and is really helpful.

Some of his friends came over, but he asked to game together, so we ended up talking while they were in his room as well. I found it a bit funny cause we could ways play/call another time

So I was kicked out of a group for exposing a man and people felt that I was “bitter” and called me “crazy” for speaking my truth on this man. It was a very invalidating experience.

Let me be clear on why I’m exposing him…

1. He did not respect my boundaries when it came to having sex and ended trying to use manipulation. I made it clear to him before we exchanged numbers that I wasn’t in a space to have sex or be in a relationship. He kind of wanted to know why etc and he wasn’t pushy.. but he said things he felt I NEEDED to hear… and at first I’m thinking wow maybe he is genuine and understanding. Looking back it was hard to see his “coercive behavior…” to get what he wanted and wanted to gain my trust. Even saying how can I make you feel safe

2. Subtle changes in behavior after telling him that I wanted to take things slow with him and gaslighting.. I did end up liking him and when I said that… that’s when it started taking hours for him to respond and then it went to days… only to get a “sorry really busy”…. But it kept happening and I confronted him and he tried to say that I needed to “heal”….. but it was strange behavior coming from a man who was trying to make me feel “safe” initially…

3. Disrespect… (devalue/discard) everything was cool on the date at first but then he became disrespectful and rude… he started asking when I last had sex, dildos, negging behavior and some insults.

4. Not being honest about his real name even on the date.. I asked him if “Craig” was his real name and he said yes… I get you want to protect yourself but he really did not want to tell me his name and seemed annoyed when I asked. It was very fishy

5. After the “date” i tried finding a “gf”…. Bc i felt like he was talking to someone.. he has no social media presence and keeps things private

6. He is possibly bisexual or closeted based on some things I found