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I've known this one guy since HS, I was a freshman & he was a junior (14 years ago). We went to neighbor high schools but were friends on FB. We were really close or so I felt. He was there for me for my first heartbreak my senior year. During that relationship he confessed his feelings for me. After I graduated we hung out a few times at his place never even kissed but we would cuddle. I liked what we had bc I was afraid if we got into a relationship & we didn't workout then I would lose him as a friend too. He meant a lot to me. 3 years passed & I got into another relationship, this one was toxic & I couldnt talk to him much but when my ex & I got into fights I would reach out to him again. I spent the night at his place once too again nothing happened. Then when I was 2 months pregnant I was in a domestic violence situation with my ex & I had nowhere to go so I reached out to him to stay at his place but this time he said no. he was very cold with me. I was so hurt I removed him from socials and didn't speak to him for years. Another 3 years passed & I moved an hour away. He reached out to me wanting to know about my life & if BD was in the picture. He is not. This time he was in a 2y long relationship. I told him I was hurt because he didn't help me when I needed him. he said it was because he was mad at me for being with someone else & having their baby. I mentioned to him I was moving out of state soon so he suggested we meet one last time & said he could drive the hour to me. I said no & used the excuse that we were still freshly into the pandemic. He added me on social media again & then about a year later removed me. I don't know why. So I messaged him & asked if what I posted had offended him, he said no & that was it. But actually it wasn't I figured since that was the end of our friendship I told him I had had feelings for him previously & the reason I never spoke up about it, that I also felt he was all wishy washy with me. (Continued below)

#1. How do you ask a guy what he wants from you?

Just ask the question. That’s really the best way to find out anything. You could play mental gymnastics or just be authentic and ask the question straight out. It may catch him off guard but the only way to find out where a relationship is going is to ask what they are looking for.
If they are not looking for the same thing you are, then why waste your time pursuing a relationship with them?
Be friends, but move onto someone who is looking for the same thing.

#2. What is the best answer to say to a girl when she asks what you want?

Dodge the answer everytime it comes up. The moment you laid down your feelings and wants, she is bound to screw you up.

Girls are 'seduced' by an element of mystery.

Let them keep guessing , wondering and one day out of intense curiosity they will eventually give up their ego and open up their vulnerable side to you.

#2 B)

Hello friend. A girl asking “what do you want from me?” is unsure of where you stand (she can’t “read” you ) and this is the way you should be in a relationship or when you are interacting with a “potential girlfriend” . Great job.

keep doing what you are doing , keep her unsure of your feelings towards her and this will attract her even more.

To answer her question just say something like “ nothing serious for now “ or “ i am not looking to get into anything serious “

You will be perceived as “higher status” and more relaxed.

the ones who push for a relationship are never the ones who actually get the girl ( more specifically the girl’s attraction ).

So keep up on being the cool guy that you are and keep on doing what you are doing. Answer her questions without pushing for anything , especially if you like her too. Her asking you this question is a big indicator of attraction.

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