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According to an article written by Katya Koval, several men stated that they no longer approach women due to the following:

“Women want to be approached. But if you approach them and they don’t like you or think you’re attractive enough, you will be called a creep.” — Jake.

Roberto, 42 years old and single, was asked why he didn’t dare approach women. He replied, “I have never gotten a clear signal from a woman. My female friends have pointed out positive body language as signals, but they are too ambiguous for me to act on.”

Kane, 35 years old and single, shares, “I don’t approach women anymore because it’s too tedious with little chance of payoff. It’s either they ignore you, reject you, shame you, or, worse, accuse you of molestation. If a woman likes me, she should make an effort to approach me.”

Mel, 29 years old, shares, “Women demanding men to chase them while they never approach men themselves is what you could call ‘entitlement.’ I don’t mean that women should start asking men out, but just approaching us to talk would be nice. For women who want equality: If he doesn’t approach you, approach him.”

Evi, 23 years old, claims “It’s easier to get women and land a date online than cold approaching them. I’m currently in College and our campus consists of 80% women. It’s not necessary to approach women anymore.”

Nathan, 22 years old, admits, “It’s mainly the negative consequences that’s stopping me. It’s scary when you hear stories about guys and fake accusations on campus. I worked hard to get into College. I’m not going to risk getting expelled for something I didn’t do.”

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I’ve had enough of this guy, I’m so fed up with the way that he’s treated me. We were more than friends then he friendzoned me because I found out he lied about his identity but then started calling me pet names and flirting but then pulling back if I engage at all. I want to say this to him:

“Hey so this has been feeling forced as fuck to me since about September when you double sent that towel selfie to me. I may act dumb, but I see you and I know this isn’t just about me knowing who you are.

It’s become obvious to me that our definitions of friendship don’t align and I’m tired of the confusing behavior. I’ll be spending my time on people who are authentic and don’t expect me to read minds or pretend I don’t know their name from now on.

Take care!”

Is this too much? Any feedback is appreciated!