I've always been chubby. Let me say that again. I have ALWAYS been chubby. I was a chubby baby that grew into a chubby kid that grew into a chubby adult. There wasn't a time in my life that I was thin. I also was never an over-eater. If you ask anyone close to me, they'll probably tell you that I didn't eat enough. Still don't. I played volleyball and basketball in middle school. Did Double Dutch in high school. So there goes the lazy stereotype.
Speaking of stereotypes, that brings me to why I've chosen to be unapologetic. There are a lot of stereotypes and assumptions when it comes to overweight people. The most popular ones being that we sit around all day stuffing our faces, expecting people to feel sorry for us and wanting everyone to just accept us. Wrong. Oh so very wrong. Like I stated earlier, I don't overeat. My diet is actually pretty healthy. I eat a lot fruits and drink a lot of green smoothies (that I make myself). I don't eat pork and I only eat red meat a few times a month. Most times it's just chicken or fish. I'm also pretty active. I try to workout at least 4 days a week, at least twice a day. Morning and evening.
I bet you couldn't tell that by just looking at me though. It's ok. Most people can't. Most people don't know my journey and what I've been through. And most people don't want to know it. Therein lies the problem. They'd rather make up their own assumptions. So I let them. They don't know how far I've come or what it took to get here. They don't know that I fight a daily fight against chronic pain from rheumatoid arthritis, or that I just got diagnosed with pseudotumor cerebri which basically gives me migraines painful enough to floor me (I'll explain more about that in another Take).
No one takes time to actually learn your story. All they see is another fat person. That's cool though. I love me. I loved me 45 pounds ago. I love me now. And I will love me when I reach my goal weight. I spent way too much time feeling bad because of how others thought I looked. That's why I go so hard for body acceptance. Because you should be able to love yourself throughout your journey. Not just when you reach the end of it. I don't need you to feel sorry for me. I don't want your pity or "concern". I don't expect you to be attracted me. But at least learn a little bit about me before you judge. And also know that I'm not sorry if my chubbiness offends you.
(Picture that sparked this Take.)