My Sexual Harassment Story

[Anonymous]

Please read:

⚠ Before you read this take, I'd just like to say that sexual harassment is serious, and it occurs more often than you think. If you suspect someone is being mistreated, please get involved. ⚠

The beginning

I had a pretty normal childhood, at first at least. I wasn't very fortunate, but i was happy.... Very very happy. I was so innocent too. I've never experienced problems such as harassment before, didn't even know it was a thing. After my siblings and I completed elementary school, my parents decided to move to a new home. Year: Early 2012.

The new home we moved into seemed like a normal home, but I believe that house is cursed.

I never would've moved there if i knew what was to come in the upcoming years. I started middle school that year, a lot of unfortunate things happened in my life that are unrelated to my sexual harassment, so I will not mention them, but once I started middle school things went downhill. My life turned into a roller coaster soon to crash.

I was depressed through middle school, very depressed. Once I completed middle school, I started attending high school, where I thought things would get better, well I was wrong.

New neighbor

I was a depressed teen in high school. My family was broken, sometimes we thought our neighbors could feel our broken energy, there was a house next to ours that people moved into and left every few months. Although there was one man that moved into the house next to ours for good. His name was Chris.

Chris was a middle aged man who stands at about 5"8 ft tall, I believe Chris was in his late 30's,

he has a few tattoos, & sandy blonde hair. My mom & Chris became good friends. There is something else I should mention about Chris, he is openly Homosexual.

My mom had recently had knee surgery so she couldn't provide for us like she needed to, that's when Chris stepped in, since my father wasn't available because of recent events, he started helping out with a lot of things. He was being the friendly neighbor that my mom desperately needed. He'd go grocery shopping for us, just a lot of things he did for us and we couldn't thank him enough for.

The harassment

I started getting close to Chris. My father wasn't around and I guess I needed a father figure in my life.

Although I never looked at Chris like a dad, I saw him as an uncle that I could depend on. So it all started the day I got home from school. I was excited about a video game that had just come out.

My mom had told me I could get it once I got home from school. As soon as I got home I rushed in my home and begged her to take me to Gamestop. This was the first time I had been excited for anything in so long.

My mom couldn't take me because she was still recovering from her knee surgery, so she called our neighbor Chris. Chris ended up taking me to Gamestop, I''ll never forget this experience.

Once i got into Chris's car, I looked on his rear view mirrors and saw he had pictures of naked men on his mirrors. I looked at those images and it reminded me that Chris was gay. I didn't care. On the way to Gamestop he talked to me about the game I was getting, just a normal conversation. Once thing that seemed weird about him is that he kept touching me... Anytime he would say something he'd touch & rub my thigh, near my private area. I didn't think anything of it, I didn't think he was meaning to be sexual & I didn't really care, I was too excited about getting that video game.

So I went in the store, and came out with the game. I was very happy and ready to go home to play it... On the way home he started touching me again. This time he started being more blatant about the touching. He actually started rubbing my penis, blatantly. The car ride was silent & awkward on the way back because of what was happening. I didn't say anything & I can't tell you why I didn't, I really wish I did.

When we got back to my house, Chris had a talk with me in his car. He parked the car and looked at me, he told me how he knew my family was going through something at the moment, he told me if I needed him to do anything for me "Just ask" The whole time he's talking to me he has my penis in his hand. I was very creeped out, we talked for about 10 minutes in his car & i was very uncomfortable.

He literally had my penis in his hand, he wouldn't let go of me at all.

Eventually he let me go, he told me to go enjoy my new video game. That's what I went and did, I wasn't sure what had just happened in that car..I didn't feel real at all. I didn't know that I had been harassed, I didn't know anything about what just happened.

I had a lot of questions.

I didn't say anything to my mom, I was embarrassed & I wasn't even sure what I was supposed to say..

So I just tried to forget what happened and went on about my life. I didn't say anything, eventually his harassment got even worse.

Constantly harassed

After what happened in his car, he started coming over to our house even more. I assumed he was making sure I didn't say anything, & I didn't. He kept harassing me constantly. I won't go into detail about everything that happened, but i'll summarize everything.

He started coming around me a lot, he talked to me more, he asked me if I needed anything, he'd even ask me to come over to his home for different reasons. To help him do something, he'd want to lend my mom household appliances, but wanted me to go with him. I always denied his requests, there was nothing he could do about it... Eventually my mom would start asking me to go over his house to borrow house appliances, cigarettes, she just didn't know how uncomfortable I was being around him.

I would go knock on his door and get whatever it is my mom needed, but I'd never come in..I didn't even go to his porch. I'd stay at a safe distance just in case he tried something. Even though I did this, it didn't stop him...He'd answer the door naked... i saw his penis multiple times.. There was so much he did that just made me very uncomfortable

Cutting it short

I apologize for making this take so long, I'm going to be cutting it short because thinking about all this is upsetting me quite a bit. He ended up giving me oral sex, which was statutory rape. My experience with him changed me a lot, this went on for years. Luckily we did end up moving, recently.

We moved December 2017. I am currently in my new home now, I do attend therapy sessions & things are looking up for me. I had a seriously dark childhood, and I try to forget it every day. I haven't told my mom about any of this yet, but my therapist does know. I will tell her when I'm ready, her health still isn't the best right now, so I don't plan on saying anything anytime soon.

If you've made it this far thank you for reading my take. Please remember to get involved if you suspect anything. If this has happened to you just know you aren't alone, it isn't your fault. You should talk to someone, even if it isn't your parents, there is always somebody you can talk to. It's not your fault that this is happening and everything will get better.

You aren't alone.

[Anonymous]

Im so glad you moved and things are going well for you, that man is a monster. Similar thing happened to me with my dad's personal driver. When I was around 4-5 he would've been around 40, I remember him hugging me and slowly touching privates like a game and cheering when he did, I didn't take much notice since I was too young. He had been working for my dad for decades, much before I was born and he used to tell me how he used to always carry me when I was a kid, who knows what he did back then :( As I got older I started to realise the what he tries to do with me as he always told me 'don't tell your parents' when he used to touch me. When I was around 10 I started to grow boobs, this man used to drive me to school everyday and he would ask if he could put his hand in my shirt pocket of my school uniform just to see how much money I had. I always refused as I begun to understand that this guy was a pedophile and a pervert. Eventually I stopped talking to him, he would just drop me and pick me from school and the whole car ride would be silent. He was guilty. He's the driver he took me to my first day of school and last and finally last July he quit his job after 25 years. I am so glad it is over, even seeing him disgusted me but it'll be something I will forever be haunted by. I've never spoken about it to anyone because I just can't bring myself to do it, but to all out there, don't make the same mistake as me, speak up.

[myTake Owner]

I'm sorry about your experience
I don't know why some people are like this...
Thankfully for both of us it ended up stopping
Thank you for sharing that
It was pretty hard for me to share my story , wasn't even sure about posting this

[CubsterShura]

I'm so glad that our chauffeur is actually nice. Two decades ago, even before my birth a girl was raped and murdered by their male home servant... Gosh we can never trust anyone!

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. 💔

[Opinion Owner]

@CubsterShura Ikr, trust no one! And thanks.

[CubsterShura]

I have a 4 year old niece at home... And recently read the news of a 4 year old getting raped and murdered. I'm so worried about her all the time!

[Opinion Owner]

@CubsterShura I think I read about it too, was it about Zainab from Pakistan? It was so heart breaking

[CubsterShura]

Zainab was seven. A few days later there was another girl called Asma. She was 4.

[Anonymous]

People who sexually harrass kids make me pissed off.

[myTake Owner]

I agree with this

[CubsterShura]

When I was a toddler I remember my maid (who also used to babysit me) used to flash her privates in front of me... literally facing me. And she touched herself in there. I completely forgot about it until I grew up and learned what fingering is. Yuck.

I don't know how old you are or what your relationship status is, but in case you have kids, let me tell you the first rule of child protection: Don't trust anyone. Like literally no one. Not even your own siblings. Because usually it's the closest relatives that abuse children.

[skytatoe]

Thats fucked up. I'm sorry to hear that man. Get well over time :)

I imagine your mom might take it pretty hard, knowing all those times she sent you to him she was sending you to your rapist all while having literally no clue of what was going on. She'll most probably blame herself for not being attentive enough.

Maybe wait till she's on the mend to tell her, for that reason.

I wish for your sake you'd have said something. But I imagine somewhere in your mind you must have considered the fact that if you made a big deal of it, the help might stop and you knew your mom probably really needed it. He took full advantage of that, and is a real fucking scumbag for it.

[Anonymous]

I fell big time for our neighbour. He was 30, hot and a complete player. I started flirting with him and often would as for a ride in his car but he always turned me down. I would dress in slutty outfits and bend over in front of him to "pick something up". I tried kissing him but was told to stop and pushed away. I got frustrated and started stalking him. At night I would change with my curtains open and put on a show for him. Eventually I broke into his home and waited for him naked in his bed. He called the cops on me and got a restraining order on me and I made out he was gromming me. He produced evidence in the form of video and previous voice recordings of me hitting on him and knocking me back. After counselling I only now see how messed up what I did was. I could have ruined his life with my sexual harrassment but no one ever told me that women can sexually harrass men.

[Anonymous]

Friends that went through more than this, forgave, put it behind them and now are very aggressive, loving sex. These sorts are more concerned about Isis cutting off heads, people defending us with their lives so we can boohoo about being touched/disrespected/me, myself & I
ALL of us have been through something like that and now we are free... or getting there.
Going mental over such suggests something mental in place prior.
Now I suggest to you to focus on how to support & protect those out there in the cold & danger that make a wall between us & REAL dangers

[levantine99]

you are inhuman. no need to talk down his traumatic experiences. they are no any les traumatic than others. yeah, sure, overcoming things is a must, and forgiving, but you are not so spiritual either from your response, so you need your own kidns of healing

[Opinion Owner]

@levantine99 ISIS is inhuman and deserves ALL our focus, not this cry baby stuff

[silverqueen]

To think that this was a recent event gives me chills. You’re an amazing and strong man, thanks for sharing this. I hope you recover fully with the therapy sessions, it’s good that you’re having them. And I also hope that you like yourself, because that’s the most fundamental thing in life. Love yourself and support yourself; you need this!

Have a blessed life. ❤️

[myTake Owner]

Thanks so much for reading this & giving positive feedback
The therapy has helped me a lot
Thank you

[Anonymous]

If something like this happens again, use a voice recorder app to record any conversations and give verbal hints on what is happening. You will have at least some proof that the conversation was inappropriate.

[myTake Owner]

I'm not even sure what that is
I guess it's like some app that secretly records voices?
Thank you for the suggestion

This most likely won't happen to me again because I have protection and I plan on taking self defense classes soon, but this is a good idea

I'd highly recommend this

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, it's an app that records sounds from your phone's speaker. Can be used during lectures, record music, conversations, etc. There are many to choose from. By "Verbal Hints" I meant like saying "Don't Touch Me" because anyone listening can't see what's happening. And hope your attacker says something back to prove the scene makes sense.
I know martial arts and I highly recommend it. Not only can it save your life but it's also very healthy. Find a class in your area and sign up.

[Nina12346]

Oh my gosh he's so fucking sick, I really think you should make a report , he should be behind bars and im sorry you had to experience that horrendous incident , youreba strong person anon, dont let that bring you down , thanks for sharing. Everything will get better it always does. God bless.

[martsa]

This is so sad. How are you doing nowadays? I wish you a lot of strength and happiness in your life. I have never been sexually harassed but lot of my friends have been and those stories are so sad to hear.
Are you going to tell this to police? I do understand if you don't want to answer :)

[myTake Owner]

The only person that I've told is my therapist
I'm pretty sure my therapist will have a word with the police since I've let her know that I probably wasn't going to tell anyone else anytime soon

I'm doing alright I'm on medication that helps
I still have anxiety and this experience has made me uncomfortable around older people, but it's getting better

When I was younger I here really had a chance to get out and be a kid
So that's sort of what I'm doing now, I'm getting out more and playing more video games

it helps me a lot

[martsa]

That's good to hear :)

[name_is_christian]

Sorry to hear about your experience, and it was from this that caused a lot of homophobia in the 1950s through the 1970s.
I am sorry to hear about your experience. It is good your talking about it in therapy and all. Talking about it helps.
You need to remember that none of what happened was your fault. You were a child and he took advantage of you. Only that man is to blame.

[Adam_INTJ]

Interesting account! I'm sad to hear how close you got to Chris before he turned out to be a less-than father figure.

I'm very interested in your other dark experiences that you alluded to. I'm working through my own issues so I'd be interested in hearing what else you went through and how you processed it your wisdom may prove valuable in my own life.

[MlleCake]

Predators frequently do prey on people who are in a bad emotional state. Your story resonates. Thank you for being brave enough to share it. I am glad it's getting easier for men to talk about the ways they have been abused.

[Max_winner1]

Once I was in a business meeting and the woman beside me put her hand on my groin. I was little confused but I just played along with it. I should have played the victim where #METOO! Maybe I should have grabbed some razors so I could cut my self.

[RasmusAiken]

Thanks for sharing your story. You will never know how many will be helped by reading this. I'm praying for your complete healing from your sad life experiences.

[EvilPimp]

Damn man that's really messed up stay strong, I wished your dad would've been around that may have never happened to you if he was. Child molesters piss me off that Chris needs his ass beat into the ground.

[levantine99]

strong of you my friend. battling your demons even now. thats so brave. i hope if possible total recovery from the hurtful experiences

[lumos]

Thank you for sharing, I'm sorry about what you've experienced.

[ovi2boss]

I was harrased too when I was little and I didn't had some counseling maybe I should search all bymyself
I case was with one girl second with another third with another and fourth was gay the fifth was too but I managed to avoid him

[Deathraider]

I feel you. I'm here if you need something.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you

[Dog19]

You should of said something, it's not your fault but my god...

[Charleslvajr]

I'm sorry man, truly. I think you're doing great, just stay with us, ok.