Something that I come across a lot is that whenever I meet women, they categorize me into either a friend category, a relationship category, or a sex category, and I fail to understand why people categorize others. I want to be able to have a sex partner who is also a friend and perhaps if there ever comes a spark between us than they could be someone I can date. Even if someone categorizes others, sometimes they do it before even talking to the other person and that is so shallow, as if someone hot can never be a good friend, or someone average can never be a good sex partner
I think it all comes down to perfectionism, people expect more from the world than they can ever offer it. Seeking the perfect friend, the perfect sex partner, and the perfect person to date, and when they can't find all three things in a person, they start seeking different persons for these three categories instead of settling for someone who may be an average sex partner but a great friend or partner, or a great sex partner but an average friend or partner
There is no person that I have met who was perfect and a good number of people have been abusive towards me, but I never let anyone go from my life who isn't dangerous enough to want to kill me. Yet, we have people who can't stand each other because of difference in political opinions and whatnot. Why can't our generation understand the benefits of compromise, instead they choose to be alone, angry, divorced, and sometimes pregnant with a child whose father they don't even remember
I am a fitness freak and someone who is against the religion of Islam, but I can still date a Muslim woman and focus on the good side instead of on the things I disagree with. I can date someone who doesn't go to the gym everyday, I can date someone who is a feminist even though I am a devout supporter of President Donald Trump. I actually had a 40+ year old otherwise mature friend who was a radical feminist and we were friends for 4-5 years and in one hour she stopped talking to me, because while we were discussing politics I told her that I support Donald Trump
It's sadder when people who have a mature and sane personality start acting like children over little things. The older generation were not better than us but they still managed to have relationships, love, friends, because they were not perfectionists and thought about others too, while our generation is obsessed with self-empowerment and perfectionism to the point that it has become a sick society suffering from depression and contemplating whether they should commit suicide this week or the perhaps the next
I am sure that I am not the only one who feels like this and I would like to hear from you all regarding your such experiences with people, especially with people of the opposite gender
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No doubt for convenience's sake and because of laziness.
They do this because it's convenient and doesn't demand much analytical thinking.
It’s human nature, and lots of folks are lazy-minded.
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