To me it seems that many love songs are about the same type.
Two types, actually.
For guys, the type of girl they usually sing about typically has common characteristics:
Uniqueness, strength, independence, reluctance to just be "like all the others", beauty, and intelligence.
For girls, the type of guy they usually sing about typically has these common characteristics:
Aloofness, mystery, intelligence, a "bad boy" attitude, good looks, vulnerability, and kindness.
What I find so interesting about this (and correct me if I'm wrong) is that everybody seems to want the same thing. A girl wants a bad-boy that is good to her and a guy wants a good-girl that is bad with him.
Isn't that kind of stupid though? When you think about it?
For girls, they always go for the bad-guy, the cool one, the don't-let-your-mom-catch-you-with-him, guy because they're thinking that he will turn out to be sweet or different or they can turn him into a good guy. And for some bizarre as f*ck reason, we turn down the good guys. Maybe it's a b*tchy part of us that thinks the good guy will always be there when we need him or that he just won't be as passionate and exciting as the bad boy.
Whatever it is, it's f*cking stupid. If a guy is genuinely respectful and kind to you, with no ulterior motives other than to make you happy, hold on to him tighter than a lock-jawed pitbull because if you treat him like he's second best, eventually he'll just stop trying.
Now, back to the bad boy, I hate to go against the whole "don't judge a book by it's cover" phrase, but the thing is is that you can also look at it this way: if you pick up a lemon, in the hopes of it tasting like a peach, there's a good chance you're going to end up with a sour taste in your mouth. And some disappointment.
Also, you can't turn a lemon into a peach.
Jack*ss.
Onto guys, you're exactly the same. But reversed. All of you are looking for that perfect girl; the tattoo-less, nice, kind, caring, unassuming, Barbie, dream girl with all of the innocence in the world. But then again, 99% of the time you meet this type of girl, you end up trying to turn her into the one who sleeps with you the first time you hang out. You try to make her the bad girl. When she doesn't want to be, you call her a tease. And when she becomes the bad girl, to make you happy, you don't want her anymore. You make her feel like it's her fault.
And you don't want her anymore because she isn't the good girl anymore.
Why on Earth you do this, I will never understand.
A metaphor for it you ask? (you probably don't care, but I'll give you one anyway) Well this is more along the lines of picking up mustard in the hopes of it tasting like Sriracha sauce. In the end you just have really crappy Mexican food.
Why I'm explaining this is that it's sad that so many songs are about wanting these types of people:
The Nice Bad Boy and The Unadulterated Bad-Girl Barbie. Honestly? They don't exist. With people, you usually get what is there in the first place: either a nice guy or a bad guy, a nice girl or a bad girl. So stop expecting lemons to taste like peaches and mustard to taste like Sriracha.
A nice girl will always have the values of a nice girl and a bad boy will always have the attitude of a bad boy.
So, if it looks like a lemon, expect it to taste like a f*cking lemon.
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