After posting my last myTake on this, I was given a fair and good opinion.
"I disagree...There's support for men...I feel people are trying to make a divide between men and women that doesn't need to be there. Not all women get that support you think and not all men don't. We need to do come together at this time and be a support for one another...we need to stop trying to divide... Unite and conquer"
This was a fair point. So before I go any further, I want to say my personal experience. I have been told that "if you want a girl you need to be the man". That is social pressure to conform. It is not, "you guys will figure it out, just have respect and kindness for each other". It shows a clear burden on the man to perform on behalf of the girl. I feel it's one thing to do it naturally, it's quite another when it's expected.
Another place where I personally experienced a divide in gender support was at college. There was a women's center. Not a man's center.
This is just an example of another college with which the above picture is connected to this quoted text, "The UC Women's Center is committed to the personal and professional growth of women and gender minorities".
It is committed to the professional growth of women and gender minorities. And as you notice, "the future is female".
Seeing this at college made me feel less special as a person... Move along, you don't belong here, go to the co-ed therapy and guidance office if you want help.....
It's an idea where because I'm a white male, I don't need help. I also get and understand that this office might be filling in gaps left by social disadvantage. But why not have a gender center?
If you are a girl, guy, gay or straight... it does not matter what path your life looks like, you could get help and support.
and this is where me and that opinion earlier agree. I think seeing things like this is beautiful. A movement towards equality.
Another point that was brought up is this.
"Women tend to be more open therefore people know when we need support. Men tend to be more closed off to what they are feeling. And we can't support what we dont know."
This is such a great point. I feel that programs could help men become aware of key issues that they might be ignoring. Finding things they did not know they needed support for. To teach them awareness and to become aware. To also teach them to not be ashamed of support and that they could use support, and it would help them.
Going back to my first point, "if you want a girl you need to be the man".
It was refreshing to see this, “i dont need protection or nice things from any guy. i dont need their support. im a girl, am i not? ill support a person if i want to support a person whether it's a guy or a girl. if there is a puddle, ill walk over it, if it rains whoop dee doo, i get rained on. i don't need someone to provide me safety because i can live a safe life without a person there. i dont expect anything from any guy they could spit on me in the street for all i care it's their problem. if men want me to hold the door for them i'll do it, but thats just being nice to people, it isn't supporting him because of his gender. if i am not supporting a person enough i have to know what they want from me and if i care about it"
This tells me that an idea of equal respect in gender is already happening. But it still makes me wonder how many girls have an expectation of what a man should do for them. I feel it should be less gender based and more human based. Not what can a man do for me, what can a friend do for me? What can a person do for me? Take gender expectation out of it.
And here's the thing. Let the nice things happen. Let the guy be the gentleman but let him do that based on him being kind not from some article on what women are expecting from their dates. And it's cool to see girls that are gentlewomen. They step up and do things nice for the guy.
"personally I am kind, sympathetic girl who always looks out for her guy friends"
This is nice to see. It's sad to hear that her guy friends don't in return. "in return I get yet ignored and or yelled whenever I ask for anything from them"
That is sad to see. We need to lean on human decency for each other, not specially by gender rules but by human decency. I feel that we should treat each other well but let it be but us doing it naturally because we want to.
Like that last picture, it should be both genders equally side by side. With the knowledge that support is not gender related, it is a need of the human condition. Given we all need support for different things but each person is given what they need, to get through life. Not every person has the same support. For some it's easier to find and for others it's not. Its hard to group certain people into this and I would say it's hard overall to group genders because each person is different regardless of gender. Some are clearly supported while others are not. It's sad to see support so swayed for each person. But overall I hope for equality in the future for all.