Bars are Stupid. What now?

[partyboy45]

Somewhere along the way, everyone has gotten this concept that if we are not hitting up the bars on the weekend then we aren't "going out" or having fun. Guys will wait in line in the cold and pay $10-20 cover to get in to a bar or club for a chance to dance, celebrate, meet a girl and if he gets lucky take her home. And 99% of anyone at a bar is going to be drinking alcohol. A man will pay to consume calories from a substance that impairs your thinking and makes you tired.

He will also be buying others drinks, and everyone will become retarded together. This can be really fun, and quite endearing with friends. But I think somehow we have become irresponsible and too frequent in attending the bar scene. As a culture, society, etc., we are alcoholics. We buy millions of barrels a year!

The bar/club industry is inherently sexist using women as sex commodities for men to pay more money. Nobody finds people worth dating, or even worth hooking up with at a bar or club. I have done it before, but its never as good as when its with someone you met in a different public space. And one thats not blasting the Top 40 list again and again.

The main reason why I don't enjoy going to the bar is because all conversations tend to be superficial and fast paced with exaggerated enthusiasm. Nobody is having THAT much fun at the f*ing bar! Yeah, there's a guy there that is swagging out of control, but he's trying too hard and nobody is really that impressed by him anyway.

What I really hate seeing is the same people that are completely cold and distant throughout the work week suddenly become social butterfly, flighty and touchy feely on the weekend and at a bar. Like a woman will be kissing and hugging and feeling up on strangers she met at a bar, but then during the week or with her work friends no affection or sensuosity whatsoever.

We have become a society surrounded on hooking up and alcohol. At least the millenial and subsequent generation. SO much to the point that people can't be their natural selves anywhere but the bar and with alcohol. What if instead we did different things. We have other public spaces that had a different focus where people could meet, mingle, and play. When we keep a reserve of repressed affectionate energy for the weekend at the bar, it just makes people look foolish. Id rather see people touching and together throughout the day or everywhere else people can interact publicly.

[the_rake]

Bars are very stupid but we go there because there's so few other ways to interact (and even bars aren't necessarily a great place to interact if your social circle is limited). Luckily, there's other things we can do. We can go to cookery classes, take up group fitness sessions, pursue our hobbies in a way that allows us to interact with others. Sometimes, however, it's a case of finding the right hobbies (and job, for that matter) that have the right people for us to meet. We just have to keep trying different things and hope that eventually, we will hit gold.