Implications of the loss of self esteem in todays society in teenagers

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Presently in our society today young men and women are consistently exposed to increasingly provocative and grotesque scenes. Expectations of young men I have experienced myself, there are constant ads playing saying I need to become a man, an ever increasing list of expectations are pushed on young women to look beautiful, to have nice boobs and butt by our very culture itself.

Young men will get plastic surgery for their breasts so they are not made fun of. People keep asking the question of why a kid won't exercize or a young women won't look prettier. It creates this overwealming need think and habitually scrutenize their own actions, building berriers to block hope for self esteem to come back making it near impossible for them to feel at peace. This causes children to grow up sooner and cause often mental implications of doing so.

As for young women I cannot speak for however my ex always had to look pretty, she needed to constantly be complimented by me or some other guy. If she wasn't she would quickly become depressed, dressing only more provocativly to attain more attention. With the overwhelming issues of young women frequently being driven to look prettier and young men being forced to be inside and not being taught properly in terms of education you end up with two sexes merely living an existence of guessing their own moves and actions.

Young men and women Learn differently. These days, males, who are active by nature are indoors taking multiple choice tests and not progressing towards something he feels is important. When placed into an environment like this they quickly will become insociable and will push away from social contact much like a dying dog does. Implosive behavior is a term in psychology where your emotions are bottled up until that bottle explodes....I am not saying school shootings are because of this one thing however this could play a very significant part in creating this implosive behavior.

This is just my view on how kids are quickly becoming adults, I find it terrible. When there are issues with someones mentality it usually can be traced to actions taken or not taken by others when the person was young. So essentially we are raising with the society we live in now a force of mentally ill equiped, low self esteemed unhappy young people who are quickly turning to alterntive outs such as drugs to handle the increasing irrational societal expectations. I am just irritated that even though we are progressing we are still focused on topics that have been resolved or are now in the past, rather than focusing on the future.

Disclaimer**I have just come out of surgury so please disregard the grammatical errors.

[bubble_tea]

I don't think kids these days are quicker becoming adults, quite the opposite actually. If you're measuring an adult simply by how soon they get plastic surgery or how soon they become sexually active or do drugs, I slightly agree.

However, there are so many more factors that determine adulthood; things like commitment in a relationship, having a job that can support all your spendings from groceries to having an own place, child raising. Basically proving self sustainability and reliability, both things most if not all children and teenagers in developed countries are lacking in.

Without those two abilities, they are simply children to me who instead of begging their parents to buy them barbies and pretty clothes beg them for plastic surgery.
The porn consumption pre-puberty is awful, yes, but could be prevented by responsible parenting.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Well i am Gaging it in terms of sexually active and doing drugs. I think that kids instead of begging for the next toy they see instead work towards it, kids these days want everything now. In terms of sexuality, I can't fathom why it is a constant barrage of non-stop sexually exploitive media being put on these kids, the grandure of having sex is distorted and even though parents can be the best in the world kids will still go out and have sex due to the over whelming pressure to be just like how society is dictated by media

[bubble_tea]

I don't think the alternatives.. being socially outcasted or murdered for having sex outside of marriage are ideal either.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

I can agree however I'm atheist so what are you getting at?

[bubble_tea]

You don't have to be religious to think traditional.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

A majority of people who think as you eloquently put it, traditionally, are religious. And the difference between the traditional way of thinking is that I use logic and reason while religion uses faith. There are plenty of studies about how to raise the right children to not use drugs, to not have an overabundance of sex and to not be greedy. So logically in that situation they took a scientific approach and used logic to hypothesize if you take away a kids privileges to use drugs and have sex, they end up happier and more mature, that is called parenting. A kid with all of those privileges often doesn't have the drive to change their lifestyle nor habits... which lets be honest later down the road get them nowhere. We can agree on that right?

[bubble_tea]

Not sure what kind of studies you're refering to, but in the Netherlands, where pot is legalized and can be smoked in certain establishments, there are way less children smoking pot than in countries where pot is not legal.

[bubble_tea]

Also, in certain European countries where sex ed is already taught in elementary, there are far less teen pregnancies and plastic surgeries.. and it's not because they are lacking of money.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

I think you are off track about what the article is even about I'm referring to scenes shown on television, I agree with you sex ed should be taught and marajuana isn't the drugs I was referring to. Im talking about the fact that television and all we see and they see is sex upon more sex it is almost as if sex is the pinnacle of human achievement and everyone needs to have it and get it... and if you aren't "getting it" then there is something wrong with you, do you agree? Granted sex is wonderful everyone should try it but the way it is treated in our culture today is pointless. Refer to my first video on the list.

[bubble_tea]

Sex is not the pinnacle of human achievement, but the most basic instinct to survive as a species, therefore yes, everyone should have it, and biologically speaking something is off with you if you don't want it.

I did not watch the video, but read the titles of the videos, the pic and read the bits here and there you wrote. If your point was not about plastic surgery and early sexual experiences, you have chosen your words, videos and pictures poorly.

50 years ago, young men drank because they were drafted for war. Was it so much better than drinking because of low self esteem? Also, males are active by nature? So females are dormant or what? Nobody's keeping you from participating in sports activities at school and outside of school and on weekends.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

But you keep jumping to different things I wasn't attacking your logic before but you are so inconclusive and unreasonable you jump from one example to the next never listening always talking I am done repeating myself. There is nothing wrong with not wanting sex and to think that you need it is almost a fault in your part. It is certainly not the pinnacle nor even and achievement especially to have sex nowadays the world is simply overpopulated. And yes my article is about plastic surgery, the poor parenting skills in our culture, the expectations people like you have on younger generation and early sex in young teens. It would have helped if you to read it instead of just skimming. You may be 30 lady but you haven't even considered other possibilities in life and as far as Im concerned you have terrible debating skills on top of having low intelligence. Have a great rest of your day. And don't bother talking to me.

[BiffWebster]

nah
this generation is the only generation to go to work and school at the same time. Twenty or thirty years ago, you either graduated high school and went to work, or you went to college and became a white collar worker or something bigger. Now both is required it seems.
And on top of that, its a popularity contest. Lets try to look as awesome or cool as we can on Facebook. -_- and lonely people just get even more depressed when they see that, part of the reason why drugs become your eventual friend in some cases.

We all want to be somebody else. Something we can never be, but we try to get as close as possible. We are obtaining knowledge at a faster rate. Curiosity is how you learn, and since everything is only a click away, everything is interesting

[Jersey1]

I, and many others, worked while we went to college many years ago. Many did night school.

[BiffWebster]

yea but its a much more common thing now then it ever was

[Jersey1]

You don't lose self esteem, you gain it... Through hard work and overcoming adversity. Instead, you all got a trophy which did nothing for anyone.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

haha you are pretty ignorant for a 100 year old, but i see what you are saying about the no one gets left behind rule. Yes however you don't get it over night and people who once had self esteem get kicked in the ass so hard that they just say fuck it. I think this whole thing about kids having a loss of self esteem is because they are chocked up on schooling non stop and force fed information until they quit. Life is life but the only difference is weather or not you let it harden or soften you, i chose soften because I'm happier that way. So, simply saying each one of us have to work hard to get that respect is simply fallible since no one is the same aside from everyone fighting for stupid equality that gets nowhere.

[Jersey1]

Ignorant? Well I have self esteem. You can either get beat and then beat down or you can get beat, get better and stronger and do your best which is where a well of self esteem comes from in life.

[Scrambled]

Lucky bastards!!! I had to sneak into my dad's bedroom, then cupboard and steal a really shitty VHS tape for porn.