My boyfriends ex talks bad about me?

[angelamarie]

Okay so I've been hearing for a while about my boyfriends ex girlfriend talking crap about me. (been going on for months) But a friend of mine happened to tell me that she is talking shit again. I haven't said anything bad about her.. His ex is saying he downgraded, and then talking about me physically, saying I'm fat and stuff like that. Personally this doesn't bother me.. Like it doesn't hurt me if people were to talk about me when it comes to my looks. Also she doesn't even know me. All I am to her Is her ex boyfriends girlfriend. All she knows is my name and what I look like. And in my opinion I should say I am more of a upgrade. They never saw each other out of school and she never really made the effort to see him. They were together for 6 months and we are almost around 4 months. He never had strong feelings for her as he does with me. We are in highschool by the way. Maybe she is just insecure about herself? I'm just not sure on how to react to be honest. Like should I just let her be and talk about me if that makes her feel better? Or should I confront her? If I do confront her what should I say? Sorry for it being so long haha.

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Thanks for all your answers.. I'm just going to let her be!

[Yeatts]

If you do confront her the bullying may get worse at least right now she doesn't know who you are so she is limited in what she can do and she doesn't know if you are bothered at all by it. If she is a queen bee type she would probably start actively involving her friends in the bullying.

If you ignore her it may go away. With her there is nothing you can really say. If you can find evidence that she is doing this you can inform the school or your parents and they can contact her parents. Believe me that would be her worst nightmare if her parents are moral people and this would likely cause the bullying to stop and she still won't know what you look like.

[Anonymous]

Honey, she's trash. Don't worry about her. She's just proving how insecure she is! My bfs ex talks crap about me too but eventually we decided to try and be friends. She told me all the bad things she said were because she was jealous.

Don't let her get you down, your bf is with YOU, don't stoop to her level and don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you upset.

[Rangopeep]

Forget about her, I'm sure everyone knows that an ex is going to talk bad about you, it is your boyfriends fault he dated bad girls... So if it gets and enough tell your boyfriend, but not to confront her, she is jealous and may use it as an opportunity to tell lies about you to him and try to win him back... Hope it helped...

[madhatters4]

let her fester in her jealousy. that's all it is. he's moved on perhaps she's pissed about it and so she is taking it out on you. it's messed up and immature but it is unfortunately the way some people are.

I wouldn't confront her. at most maybe you can suggest your bf talk to her but even that I would probably only do if she really starts saying things that might hurt you... eventually she will find a new battle to find and a different reason to hate her ex

[matheus_mb]

She couldn't handle the break up and now she's saying those things probably because she envies you. Let her speak, it's not true anyway. So her words will vanish if compared to you the way you really are.

[Rcjh1987]

She's envious that he moved on clearly she hasn't.. I wouldn't worry about it to Much she is only making herself look bitter. You said she doesn't know anything about you except your looks that in itself should tell you not to waste your time... Just worry about you and your boyfriend.. Leave her alone you'd just be fueling the figher

[ObviouslyBored]

She's jealous... leave her jealous ass be. He is with you now. Women often use looks as if that really means anything. Men will be with whomever of whatever size they want. I've got an ex of my mates staring at the gym from time to time. I ignore her. But like you she does aggravate me. At the end of it all saying something to her is petty c and comes off as arguing over a man.

[Anonymous]

Forget about her ass... petty drama... don't waste your time!

[XNicholeMariex3]

Who cares what she thinks about you.