Why am I always the listener?

[hannahmarsx]

When I have deep conversations with people, I feel like I'm a good listener and they tell me so much about themselves - but it makes me feel so bad. For example, I had a conversation with this attractive guy and he has soo much going on in his life than me, it made me feel so small? But you can tell he liked telling me all these things. However, I feel like because I don't have much going on in my life, I have nothing to talk about? Is anyone else this way? I do love to get a say though, I just feel like I'm the one hearing people's stories.

[boatfullofpeace]

Because they can tell that you're a good listener. If you want to talk more, then talk more. You don't have to talk about anything significant going on in your life. You can just share your opinions about whatever they're telling you or whatever topics you know about. Don't feel like a loser just because it seems that your life is less exciting than theirs. If you want to make your life more exciting to have more exciting things to tell other people about yourself, then go for it. Otherwise, just tactfully add more of your own opinions and knowledge to the conversation.

[Octavion]

That's not a bad thing. I'm the same because I don't find relief in telling other people about my issues. But I know my friends do so I'll listen to them when they have problems since just venting can help most people feel better. It doesn't mean you don't have anything happening in your life you're just good at avoiding B. S.