I am so very sorry about your Girlfriend's suicide here, dear. How Awful for you to have to Endure such a Horrendous death with Someone whom You Loved so much.
I know it doesn't seem Fair that she did this to you and with you being So 'Depressed, heartbroken, confused, and angry,' I can well imagine what her own family is going through as well. It's One of the Worse deaths anyone should have to go through because they feel it is a Cowardly way to just End Everything, Especially when there is a 'Note and a video to explain why...
I always have felt that with One taking their own life, it is Bold but also they are Not mentally balanced when they take this plunge.
If you cannot bring yourself to go to Any of the Services because you know deep down it will have Bad Repercussions in your own life of strife, then don't go. It might end up to be a terrible nightmare for you where you may have to go seek a professional for help to get back on track again. It's going to be hard enough even to Fathom such a time as this right now for you.
However, send a card to her family when you can or even call them up before the services and explain why you cannot come. Let them know it is hard for you and you feel you just can't do it. Give your condolences.
When you are Ready, I also feel that you need some closure and I feel that one day when you are stronger, Watch the video after you have read the note so you can see her side and Not Just... Your one side. It will give you closure as I say so perhaps it will make it easier for you to move on so you can try and understand.
There is two sides to every story and even if it is a sin in God's eyes and not fair to you or anyone else who loves her, let Her tell you how she was feeling. She probably had more issues than you even know or if you do, it's a shame she couldn't have seen a doctor.
Good luck and my blessings go out out to you and her family. xx
I'm so sorry for your loss:( I think it's best if you just calm down and take some time to grieve and process everything. Then, if you think you're ready for it you should try to watch the video and read the note. I think you go to her funeral. I mean, she was your girlfriend and you should show respect. And you may regret it in the future if you didn't go.
Read the note, watch the video. Try to understand her reasons. Put yourself in her place, and go to her funeral.
I know where you're at, i've been there myself. Just, whatever you do. Do not blame yourself!
You have my deepest condolences.
Wow this is real? Hey, I'm very sorry this happen to you. I can't begin to understand what you're going through. So there might be cause for you to not go if you feel it would hurt to much. I'm surprise you're even able to write right now sir. There is never a reason to commit suicide, it leaves others that cared for you in confusion and agony like this. I do hope you're able I bring yourself to go, I do believe it will be worth it for you to say goodbye, and have no regrets being there instead of not. Go and celebrate what you had, how she lived as opposed to how she died dude. Take care man. I'm so sorry you had this happen.
u If you don't go to her funeral, you will later regret your action. Attend, but you don't need to look at her body.
You have every right to be angry and that is an extremely common reaction among the survivors of a suicide.
Ask your best friend to read the note and video and tell you what they think you might need to hear.
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Damn.. That fucking sucks, man. I hope I never have to experience that, I don't know how I'd be able to deal with the pain.
I think you should go. Say your last goodbye, it'll be the only chance you get. No matter how painful it'll be to do, it'll only hurt worse if you DON'T go.
And in regards to the note and video, I think you should look at them. If not before the funeral, then at least afterwards.
One last thing: Do NOT blame yourself for her death. You did not make her do it, you were not the one in control of her actions, you are not responsible for this.
Watch the note
Go to the funeral
What you're feeling.. the anger part... that will fade.. it's just sorrow amplifying it... however if you don't go because of it, you'll regret it man :/
So go, be with her family, say your goodbyes and get some closure for yourself.
Best of luck
You have to honor her wishes: watch the video and go to her funeral. Use it to tell her goodbye. I know you're really, really hurting right now but if you skip this funeral, you'll always regret it. I've lost friends to suicide and it's really awful but they want us to carry on.
You have to go out of respect for her. And you should stop being angry at her and watch the video, she had a reason and you have to know what it is.
You're more likely to regret not going than you are to regret going. You don't have to actually look in the casket if you don't want to but you might want to. You could hold her hand one last time.
Maybe wait a little before you watch the video. You don't need to do it right away. Take some time to heal.
sorry you had to experience this
deepest condolences. You need really to go to the funeral to get closure otherwise it will be a much harder road to get over this dreadful event. Read the note and watch the video and try to gain an understanding of why she chose to do what she did. Our thoughts are with you... Don't be angry with her forgive her unconditionally and love her memory
Really, I'd go... I might hold the note and video for a while if I just couldn't bear more.. I totally get the anger part, but you only get one shot here dude, take it out of respect for the love you had for her.
u This is just me, but I believe that you should go. Her family would appreciate you being there and you can bid her a final farewell.
You have by deepest sorrows and prayers.
Oh My God !! :( I'm so sorry for you and for your loss
If heaven does exist I hope we 'll find our loved ones just the way they were, not in any other form.
It might give you closure. You might regret it if you don't.
Closure. Watch the video and read the note and go to the funeral.
i'am very sorry for you loss. I think you should watch the video and give it to the parents as well as the notes. I think you should go to the funereal, because you might regret it, in the future.
My condolences im so sorry for your loss. I agree with Paris13. Take her advice.
First, You should watch the video. Maybe it'll answer some of your questions.
And, it's best if you go to funeral than not going and regretting it later.
yes you should go because she's your girlfriend and it is her last journey on earth...
You should go, say goodbye.
I'm so sorry for your loss, nothing like this has ever happened to me. I can't imagine what you're feeling.
I wouldn't go but everyone else is saying yes so you should
go... you loved her. i think it would be scummy not to go..
Aww I'm so sorry for your loss if i was you I would go because I would regret it if I didn't
Kangy you should go. It will bring you
closure.
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