I've always wondered this. And I'm not saying anyone on here thinks that, but I mean, looking at society in developed countries as a whole, a lot of features on black women (and men sometimes) is considered undesirable yet if a white person has it, it's beautiful. Full lips, thick thighs, big butt, thick hair, and the killer, tan/dark skin. I mean, seriously, black women are considered shameful, ghetto, and ugly the darker they are but the darker or tanner a white woman is, then it's the standard of beauty.
Why? Why can't it just look good on both races the way we are? I don't get it.
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Oh and by the way, I'm not talking about personality at all. Of course that can make anyone ugly if they have a horrible attitude. Just strictly physical features.
Also, my boyfriend is white, so I'm not bitter about not being able to get a man and I'm not racist. I just want to see what you all think.
Why does society praise white women for physical features that a black woman is shamed for?
Another fact to reflect on is why black men who share these features often refuse to be affiliated with them. As more biracial generations are spawned we see a larger acceptance of black features being adapted to many different skin tones. Also as more Filipino, and Spanish women have become popularized in their respective industries these features are more embraced.
I would say more what black women are fighting in defense of is their hair texture (styles), and stereotypes about their attitudes. Black and Latino women are perpetuated on tv for entertainment their crazy attitudes and sometimes blacks embrace and follow it's lead for the sake of someone respecting them or not stepping on their toes.
Society is fluid and flexible. We will see consistent changes as technology allows more secluded populations to be more converged with society as a whole which will include their standards of beauty.
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i think the fact is that attitudes are changing. i think these features used to be looked down on by some, although plenty of people found these traits to be desirable... i think now though big hips, butts, lips etc are becoming something that is more commonly considered attractive
so i don't know that white people are being praised for it while black women are being shamed but i think it seems like those traits are becoming more commonly thought of as attractive (praise worthy)
We live in a rapidly mixing cultural society and world . and there is culture shock . Our cultural senses, identities and perceptions of tastes in fashion, beauty, music, relationships, and politics are being redefined as we speak. But life is unfair and probably will always be. Many resist it and some welcome it. I love the variety of multi-culture choices I have. But I am white. And that does give me an unfair indigenous advantage of acceptance, and appeal of beauty over others. Hopefully before the world implodes and self destructs, society and culture will become more open to various concepts of beauty and acceptance. I was struck when a good friend of mine said to me, never a day goes by when she is out in public that she isn't reminded in some way that she is black.
I don't think they're being shamed for it and I don't think white people having those features is a bad thing, if anything I think it's helpful.
If you're a minority and you look vastly different from the majority then what is considered beautiful to you might to be difficult for the rest of the population to process. Now if someone from that majority takes part in that same culture and expression of beauty then the rest of society can see what's desirable about it and appreciate it easier.
I don't know if I'm wording it right but I think it's a good thing. And it's a good thing because it slowly paves the way for everyone to me recognized and for a variety of features to be celebrated.
I really disagree that black women see their full lips, big butt and thighs as unattractive or shameful. Yes, probably more so about the dark skin complexsion but I think that stem from slavery/ racism. However, I'm starting to see more blacks be more accepting and embrace their skin color. I feel that white women are more praised because this is" white american" and because of slavery and a society we live in that is not set up for our race ( black ppl). Soooooo of course! White women are gonna be praised more than black women. Who praise and talk highly of someone they dislike, even if it's not true.
There are people who don't find those features attractive on black women? All of the people I know have always praised that as the most attractive features on a black woman. I've heard of them being shamed for their hair or the darkness of their skin, but never for having big lips and big thighs. Maybe I just missed it?
That's the definition a cultural appropriation. A black women can have her hair in cornrows. A style developed over centuries to control the hair type. Society (white society) often calls it unprofessional and ghetto. It is on the unapproved list for military women. On the other hand it is edgy and trendy for white women.
Taking things from other cultures will always happen, especially in our global economy. Taking them from a minority population with no understanding or respect for its history is entirely different.
Sorry what does this have to do with cultural appropriation again? White women are now stealing what's scientifically proven to be indicators of fertility from black women?
We have a defined style that is considered appropriate attire for professional environment. Whether you're black or white if you have a hairdo that doesn't conform to those standards you will be considered unprofessional. The same if I walked into an office wearing a mohawk or Lederhosen.
Light black does look just as good as dark/tanned white girls and better than if they are using an unnatural looking fake tan or get sun spots. The girl in the purple dress looks better than the girl with white hair and is probly second or first and on side to side face tande white does I don't know what race gym girl is but thats hot also curves etc honestly im less keen on dark black but i like the way light black looks better than than light white i guess a sort of golden bronzy tone just looks really healthy.
@SuperNovaRoyalty I know and dark black can still be incredibly beautiful as well but i prefure her cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...b-b1a7-26bb7b51006e.jpg I also definitly prefure it over very pale skin. I dont know why that is and it's not set in stone. Though I had quite a crush on my female lab partner who looked a lot like her so it may well be because of her?
Is the second woman related to Trump? They seem to share the same complexion. But yeah I'm not a fan of all the lip injections those makeup gurus get and their propensity to look like they just popped off a barbie doll assembly line. They can do whatever they want of course.
I think everyone in general wants what other people have to some degree. We do live in a society that favors European beauty standards so there are a lot of people who are born into that game with a 'disadvantage'. I don't think they should try to live up to those standards though.. All groups of people have beautiful aspects and strengths to focus on and we should celebrate that diversity. And uh speaking of beauty in diversity what's the name of the 3rd woman down? 😍
@mostwomenshouldstfu again with the insults bro. You really don't know how to have a discussion do you? Welcome to my block list. It's an exclusive and short list so you really have to shine to make it. You will be missed.
Thick thighs, big butt (big doesn't mean huge) and thick hair aren't just black women's features, there's plenty, and I mean PLENTY of white women that are naturally like that. You can't compare a tanned white person with a dark skinned black... Usually the tanned type of skin color is what most people consider ideal, both pale and dark skin aren't. A tanned white doesn't even look close to a black person, so saying it's a black trait is just... not true.
The reason beauty standards are geared towards whites is because you live in a part of the world where most people are white. Go to Africa and most people will consider black women to be prettier than white women.
So no, society doesn't praise white women for physical features that black woman is shamed for.
girl i guess this is a part of what people call racism" and double standards. and i am sorry that you had to feel like that. but society is changing. and people s mindsets are widening. so dont worry. and focus on the positive people in ur life. and push such kind of negativity away. also all of the girls above in the photos are really beautiful 😍
Your boyfriend is white? ... Why do you prefer a white guy? The phrase sounds like a certain type of self entitlement coming from the fact that you have a white boyfriend and some other black women don't...
Anyhow, it's a question of why is anything the way it is? Why does money exist? Everything or at least most things can be traced back to history - understand how our society has developed over the centuries and you'll find those answers
I think it is changing a lot now regarding the physical features but there is still a bit of a stereotypical issue on the skin tone but that may go the way the stigma about physical features as gone. The black girl features has seemed to become very popular for most races at the moment.
Plus various comments I've read on here and things I've heard said. White women are prettier is usually what people say and when some people just look at a black woman, they think they're ghetto. I've gotten it myself before and I grew up around white people. Actually been told that if I didn't speak to them first, they wouldn't have talked to me because I was black lol. I've been told my hair is ugly, too, but then in the same sentence been told that they wish their hair was a thick as mine. I had one girl make fun of my hair extensions even though she had them herself. The kicker was people agreed with her.
It's a combo of personal experience plus media. Like I said, not saying you or anyone on here thinks that, just that it's portrayed by society and media.
regarding looks alone, i think it's about the way the features add up to make a package. people don't just look at lips and praise or shame. it's all the features combined.
I've always marveled that black some want strait hair and lighter skin, whilst white women want curly hair and darker skin. Go figger! By the way my wife is black.
I never seem black women shamed, but I do see white women being praised more. :D I think it's because they expect black women to have all that, so when a white woman has it, it's a celebration!! lol.
It does. I don't like that some people are not considered pretty just because of their skin. It's not right. I've actually been accused of not liking black men because I'm dating a white guy even though I'm black myself. It can't POSSIBLY BE because he has the personality I'm looking for, can it?
I don't care to see what he looks like. Trust me. But when you bring race into... it shows you seek attention. But when a white person does it, oh my lanta we're just a bunch of racists cunts.
Well, you thinking your a racist cunt is your issue. I personally don't think that. But I'm just asking a simple question. He and I actually discuss it a lot, which is why I really like him. He's not closed minded.
Also, never said you cared to see what he looks like.
Also, that doesn't show you seek attention at all. That is a very fallacious way of thinking and a large generalization. So because others are attention seeking, that must mean I am?
I'm not questioning our relationship though. But he and I actually had a conversation over black and white beauty a couple weeks ago, which is why I asked the question. Probably should have mentioned that.
Probably. Considering the entire time I thought you were just trying to make it look as if you felt obligated or something. Everyone has their own beauty though. We all have special features that other don't have. Scientifically speaking it's mainly based on genes.
Because black girls are not as hot as white ones. It's that simple. Show me the hottest black girl and show me a 7/10 white girl and the white girl will be at worst even if not better than the black
I thing it's the FEMALE part of society that thinks that. I watch you guys go in circles trying to figure out what's attractive to men without asking the gender who's opinion really matters on the subject, because you are terrified of rejection. So you try and shame the s*** out of men for their preferences, out of fear. To that I say to any woman who engages in that behavior, shame on YOU.
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