It depends on the type of extrovert he is. You say you're shy; I am not sure what a shy extrovert is like, but I can't see how a shy person would get together with an introvert. For me, the extroverted guy would have to do a lot of things to get with me that I don't think a shy person could do, i. e. the approaching, the contacting, the initiating activities, etc. The people I've met who were obviously extroverted seemed to fit one of three categories:
1) They try to change you/force you to do things you don't want to do the majority of the time you interact with them, and sometimes it feels like they criticize you for not wanting to change/do things they want you to do. I can't date this type of person.
2) They try to nudge you and sometimes try to talk you into things you don't want to do, but they are also very patient and very willing to do what makes you comfortable a lot of the time. They also defend you and seem to have some understanding of, "Okay, she just doesn't like stuff like that," and they move on. This is the only type of extrovert I can handle.
3) The loud and obnoxious type, or the "party" type. I don't think I need to explain, but, yeah, NO.
The chart... I don't like dogs, they scare me. So, if you take that out... especially nowadays it's accurate. In the last 10 years, there have been times when I've made friends with people who didn't necessarily originally seem introverted, but as we got to know each other it came out that they were, especially as more things happened that I didn't like. Introverts don't put enough work into friendships/relationships for me--which is kind of my point about a shy guy, as well--so nothing with them ever lasts. So, that's a big part of why I'd prefer that middle type of extrovert.
At this point, the only way I'm friends with someone is if they force themselves on me, which is something only extroverts do, or they are a solid holdover from back when I was far more social than I am now.
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I think that chart is very accurate 😂 also, I love extrovert guys, as long as they understand introvert tendencies and needs (alone time to recharge, "I'm not sad or angry, I'm just thinking", we don't need to talk all the time, etc.) I love hanging out with people and spending time in social situations. Introversion is not the same as being anti-social or shy. It just means we need time to recharge by ourselves, otherwise we get burnt out.
I am very much an introvert. My guy is an extrovert. I honestly feel that I rely too much on him. I don't like to be out without him because my anxiety gets bad. (I'm working on it) I don't like crowded places or people in general... I stay home quite often. I pretty much suck as a human.
Usually introverts like extrovert guys. However they do also fall in love with other introverts. Lol The pie chart is pretty accurate until the introvert gets comfy in a place on their own.
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I prefer extrovert guys. Majority of my friends are extrovert too. It's easier to talk to them.
And the pic you show is 100 % true for me XD
All the guys friends I made it's because they always come talk to me and never give up (even if I stayed mute or give one word responses).My guy is definitely an extrovert, while I am not. Im not "shy".. Im just unfriendly and can't be bothered. I think its great he is. Always does the talking around others to make it less awkward. Its just.. Really helpful sometimes..
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