A posted a question about reconnecting with a high school crush several weeks ago. I pasted the question below so you can read the details about my relationship with him and then I want to ask a new question.
I recently found the email of a guy I was crazy about in high school in one of my school memory books. He had really strong feelings for me too but for a variety of reasons (I don’t have enough space to go through them here) I avoided letting things get out of the friend zone and I pretended like I didn’t want more out of our relationship. This really hurt him and we gradually started drifting apart our senior year. I regret this decision and today (over 4 years later) I still think about the “what if”. We were friends with each other since we were 10 years old and he is seriously the most hysterically funny, charismatic guy I’ve ever met and I have never felt quite the same way about other guys. We felt really comfortable with each other and would talk about everything, even really personal things and our problems.
I live in another state now and he still lives where we grew up, so I’m definitely not looking to start a romantic relationship with him, what I really want is to have his friendship back and talk to him again. Also I really want to be honest and tell him how I felt about him in high school.
So I emailed him a short note asking if he still used that address and I got an eager reply the next day asking how I was. About a week later I sent him a light and funny letter describing what was going on in my life and at the end I included a line about how I missed talking with him and how its rare for me to find people I truly connect with. Its been several weeks now and I’m feeling hurt that he has not written me back. Was that last statement in my letter too strong? Would it be wrong to email him again? I feel like if I could talk to him candidly about my past feelings for him I would feel some “closure” on the situation.
I recently found the email of a guy I was crazy about in high school in one of my school memory books. He had really strong feelings for me too but for a variety of reasons (I don’t have enough space to go through them here) I avoided letting things get out of the friend zone and I pretended like I didn’t want more out of our relationship. This really hurt him and we gradually started drifting apart our senior year. I regret this decision and today (over 4 years later) I still think about the “what if”. We were friends with each other since we were 10 years old and he is seriously the most hysterically funny, charismatic guy I’ve ever met and I have never felt quite the same way about other guys. We felt really comfortable with each other and would talk about everything, even really personal things and our problems.
I live in another state now and he still lives where we grew up, so I’m definitely not looking to start a romantic relationship with him, what I really want is to have his friendship back and talk to him again. Also I really want to be honest and tell him how I felt about him in high school.
So I emailed him a short note asking if he still used that address and I got an eager reply the next day asking how I was. About a week later I sent him a light and funny letter describing what was going on in my life and at the end I included a line about how I missed talking with him and how its rare for me to find people I truly connect with. Its been several weeks now and I’m feeling hurt that he has not written me back. Was that last statement in my letter too strong? Would it be wrong to email him again? I feel like if I could talk to him candidly about my past feelings for him I would feel some “closure” on the situation.
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