Why do people and my friends try to conform me when I say I am a loser?

[Unit1]

I mean I don't deny any support I can get but I feel like I am being lied to in order to keep my hopes above. Lying to me, that i am not a loser, which is actually a noble thing to do and i do realize, that some have it even worse than i do (some don't even have water or food or a job).
but still, i was given very bad cards in life compared to the average citizen.

For example since i am a migrant in a country i only hate to be in (not in Iceland + i was a minor when my parents moved so i didn't have a choice) i have fewer privileges and i am also ineligible for funded education. The economy is broken here and the government milks us dry, bans half the internet and puts us under strict control. I also fight poverty daily and have to starve some days. That's how broke i am. No social support for me also.
i didn't have to deal with that back in Germany.

and i dream of relocation and getting out of here but this remains only what it currently is. A buried dream.

So how come i am not considered a loser? I never even had a girlfriend or a kiss but that's beside the point.

Updates

+1 y

Damn it, this phone sometimes picks the wrong word without me paying close enough attention. Comfort it is, not conform.

[Ahmed_Sy15x]

Maybe you should be happy to have such friends, they don't want you to feel bad... those are facts in your life that you can't take control of them so it's not your fault and you're not a loser, having no girlfriend doesn't make someone a loser... seriously some people may consider singles losers but actually most singles are busy with their own interests and stuff so they don't get the chance to look for a partner.

[IAmBlueThunder]

In my opinion, a loser is someone who accepts defeat. As long as you keep fighting, you'll eventually be a "winner" so to speak.

[Unit1]

Nice man. I like this mentality.

[IAmBlueThunder]

I looked up the definition and you are a loser actually. "A person put at a disadvantage by a situation" You've been put at a disadvantage by your situation. I wouldn't let that define who you are though. We're all losers from time to time. Plus, the situations you are in are not a reflection of your worth as a person.

[IAmBlueThunder]

Someone may be depressed, but if they identify with that label too strongly, they may start to always tell themselves its just part of who they are, which only furthers the depression. Everything is about perception in my opinion. If you believe you will succeed, then you will. If you believe you will fail, then you will. So just because by the dictionary definition you are or were a "loser" that doesn't reflect your worth.

[IAmBlueThunder]

What I'm saying is you have to change your thought patterns and tell yourself you believe in yourself.

[Unit1]

That kind of loser I was having in mind - being at disadvantage and continuously losing in life. But it's either a fight or forfeit. I'm never happy with forfeiting, so I'll just keep fighting then.
I do but even I have my own limits.

[IAmBlueThunder]

That's what I mean. We can either accept defeat or not accept it. Everyone has limits, its a human trait. Even the most "successful" people on the planet go through moments of doubt, insecurity, and worry.

[Unit1]

That's me. I am not accepting defeat until i die.
I am a warrior.
And exhausted of fighting every day.
And as a result i don't have a woman. It just is so.

[IAmBlueThunder]

There you go. 💪 Stay strong dude

[Unit1]

Cheers brother man *taps fist to your heart* ✊

[Wonderer89]

I guess it just depends on your view of what a loser is. I'd only consider someone a loser if they let their circumstance dictate the direction for the rest of their life and continued to complain about it.
If they were working towards better for themselves and still kept trying I could never think of that person as a loser

[alice55]

Depend what your friend definition of a loser is. For me a loser is someone who complain but don't do anything about it, if he continue to fight then he aren't a loser for me even if what he's tried do doesn't work. As long as he fight for it, I don't consider him a loser.

[peachblossomluck]

Your friends are correct. You are not a loser. You are at a disadvantage and you'd be better off living somewhere else.

[peachblossomluck]

Stealing your meme by the way lol. I'm not where I should be either.

[Unit1]

Thanks.
And i feel i have a deficit of women in my life :( 😭
I need a good, tight and long hug from a woman 👩 😞

[peachblossomluck]

I have a deficit of quality men.

[Unit1]

We could help each other :/

But i don't want to lose your respect. I think you are honoring your partner.

[peachblossomluck]

Maybe I am?

[Unit1]

Thought so.
Gotta find myself a good woman 👩 i would be thankful for it.

[lizziepooh03]

I like the responses from @IamBlueThunder and agree with him.

[emerald77]

That doesn't make you a loser.

[BronzedAdonis]

conform or comfort?

[Unit1]

Damn it, this phone sometimes picks the wrong word without me paying close enough attention. Comfort it is.

[BronzedAdonis]

lol that compounds your point