Why are men so homophobic?

Question

There was poll and it said that women are more accepting if their son are gay but men are so anti gay and anti loving they'll disown their son. Why is this? Like example a father would be upset and disappointed if his son turned out to like dolls or playing cooking games. Why?

tartaarsaus · Accepted Answer

For starters, I wouldn't disown my son if that was the case. That's exceptionally cruel.

Secondly, fallacy of composition is strong with this one.

Thirdly, it's generally assumed that men and women tend to be less homophobic towards lesbian. I guess because men have some fantasies about it by eroticizing it. I would argue that men also tend to be less harsher towards women of violating gender norms.

Fourth, according to meta-analysis by Mary Kite and Bernard Whitley men tend to be indeed more homophobic. It's important to note that according to the same study the difference between genders regarding civil rights for homosexuals is neglectable.

The reasoning for this, according to them, is because we guys tend to be far harsher towards men violation gender norms and e. g. liking dolls. Their study backed it up with a correlation between support of gender norms and roles and views on homosexuality.

freshmango · Accepted Answer

Because why wouldn't they be upset? do you consider being gay in todays society as a nice thing for ur son? he's gonna get bullied every single day for what he likes and the way he looks. he's going to feel confused every single day wondering why he's so attracted to the other boys in school. he's going to go through major mental stress and confusion trying to accept his sexual orientation. i would be upset as fuck if my son was gay too. not because he's gay but because of how society will treat my son because of his sexual orientation.

_Enigma_ · Accepted Answer

I feel like this poll was not very accurate and was trying to push an agenda. If that kind of person does exist, they would be a very Christian person. I don't know much about the good ol' US of A, but I do know thanks to a YouTuber I watch that Arkansaw is not very accepting of gay/bisexual people and is a very religious place. They also have a lot of guns.

I don't think the average person, man or woman would go as far as to disown their own son. Both may feel awkward discussing it, but I feel like most people would be accepting, at varying degrees. This is just from my experience, but SJW's will always try to invent dragons to slay, so I feel like this poll you found has quite some bias and is tying to push an agenda.

It would be handy if you could link the poll.

linds34 · Accepted Answer

Being gay is seen as less masculine, which is an ideal for a lot of men. But I think that is changing over time.

hasrett · Accepted Answer

I don't know, I know both men and women who are homophobic.

Chiral · Answer

I have 3 sons and I believe the youngest is either bi or gay. His mum has sis always discouraged his natural inclination for girls toys and clothes and tried to make him ashamed of it. I have always tried to compensate by encouraging him so it doesn't always follow. I think it's cultural somewhat rather than gender based. She's Vietnamese and would feel ashamed if her son was gay. With men tho I think they view male homosexuality as incompatible with masculinity. So it means to them if he's gay he's less of a man. If a girl is lesbian it doesn't detract from their femininity in the same way. It doesn't make her less of a woman.

hahahmm · Answer

My parents tried to stop me from being ‘too’ creative at one point. Of course as soon as I was making money it changed to, ‘you owe your success to your parents!!! Why don’t you give us some money?’

Pro tip... make money. Even if you hate the idea of money.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

I think it's because homosexual men are seen as less masculine than heterosexual men. It's kind of a big taboo for guys to be seen as unmasculine and it's something we all try to avoid. Well, most of us at any rate.

Personally, treating people fairly and owning up to your own insecurities is more masculine than being afraid of everything. But to each his own.

Anonymous · Answer

What father wants to brag about his effeminate sissy son? They view it as a diseased mindset rather than something you can't control. How would Red react if he found out his dumb ass son Eric was gay?

legendaryintrovert · Answer

Being gay is not another gender it's proven that it's a kind of disease. If he is willing to change I will give him my best support. If he is not willing to change it means he can't think in e right way. If my son is not the one who thinks I'll make him think. The one who is anti loving are barbaric and immature minded.

chaostheory81 · Answer

Don't know... I wouldn't... My son used to play with dolls? I don't see the problem personally. It shouldn't be judged as one or the other he should be just left to be who he wants to be.

Anpu23 · Answer

One theory is that in many mammals mounting behavior are indicators of dominance. So there is an inherent fear of being mounted and revulsion of those who are.

AlphaStyles · Answer

I don't like homosexuality why is it hard for people to understand. So now me disliking something in the 21st century is a crime?

joshuafreeman707 · Answer

Because so much of the western male social norms is built around ego and machismo.

LegateLanius · Answer

Playing with dolls and cooking games are not the same thing as being gay. That is being effeminate.

Fauzillic_Bolt · Answer

Liking dolls doesn't mean you're homosexual. Effeminacy and homosexuality is not the same.

Assburgers3 · Answer

Because we want grandchildren, its evolutionary, there's no arguing with it. This entire social justice debate is a dead horse we keep beating. Dead for over 64 million years.

Nachowedgie · Answer

Because men actually care about having a manly son who'll then have children so they can be a grandfather, women seem to not give a shit about any of that and throw away all that men have worked towards of achieving

MohammedAZ · Answer

Cuz homosexuality is soo disgusting and men were created to be men and women to be women and not the opposite

Cursewords · Answer

Do you just believe every poll you see? Women can be just as homophobic as men.

khany · Answer

I'm not even going to attempt to answer this one. 😬

IrishAyy · Answer

Homophobic is a stupid word. Nobody's afraid of gays we look down on them.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

There's just something so hurtful for a father to find out his son likes to suck ****

Drifting_tiger · Answer

Cuz guys are aggressive. We are Hunters gatherers Warriors all that shit and I don't know its something in are DNA

Balcazaurus · Answer

A real man would love his son regardless.

AdmiralBailey · Answer

It's just something that shouldn't be encouraged

monkeyboy4u · Answer

Men don't have that caring gene like women

rm_llort · Answer

I'd accept my gay son.

Anonymous · Answer

Most aren’t secure in their masculinity I guess

RyanHognan · Answer

Prob casue they don't even know how to breathe

Anonymous · Answer

2 points haha

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