Why is it seen as bad for women to obey their husband?

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a traditional family and I think it’s more orderly than the disaster we have now as a society.

I’m a woman, and a virgin. In my opinion women who value their husband and obey him and submit to him are smarter than the women who think they’re cool by losing their virginity before marriage, and the women who wear close to no clothes.

I also don’t like women when they think they’re better than their husband. He is there to lead you, and women are there to follow. Even in the Bible it says men are supposed to be leaders. I don’t like how society is turning out - women fixing cars, getting dirty, women in corporate jobs and women leading nations.

While I understand people’s rationale regarding this, I still think the natural way to be orderly is for women to stay virgins until they marry, and for men to be able to have multiple wives (they were naturally born to seek more than one woman, which is why women have a hymen instead of men). I also think women should stay home and raise the amount of children that the man wants to have with her. I don’t think this is derogatory, in fact I think this is a beautiful thing. Women are naturally nurturing and emotional, we should respect that nature.

I also believe women should always please her husband the way he wants her to. He provides for you so it’s your job to submit to him. Cook for him and clean his house. That’s not bad. It’s not derogatory and it’s a good help for him, the head of the household.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

A #mother: someone who will always be with the person regardless of how unable or able you are is Woman

A #sister: someone who will always love you before the fight and after the fight. Will love you unconditionally is Woman

A #Grandma: interest give more pleasure than actual principal amount. She is the one who will love her children's more but grandchildren the most is Woman

A #girlfriend: someone whom you share all your activity including bad one. Someone who will try to cope with every situation of you and do things to make you both Happy. Again a Woman

A #wife: a mother of the children, someone who left her home for you. Anything be it anything she will be there guiding you, helping you, cooking food for you that too with love, will keep fast for your well being. Fortunately again a Woman.

We are sexual beings and that is why sex has always been, is and will be a matter of great importance, especially because it is a common desire in everyone.

The man who respects you enough to wait for the wedding night shows that he values you above his physical needs. He has the profile of a husband that you want and need.

Check out my Take..

Ways To Make Love To Your Partner Without Having Sex ↗

*"the women who think they’re cool by losing their virginity before marriage, and the women who wear close to no clothes."*

Be kind, don't judge, and have respect for others. If we can all do this, the world would be a better place. Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do.

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Personally I dislike the concept of sex before marriage but it's their life. Who am I to judge?

*"He is there to lead you, and women are there to follow"

Compatibility is what will make you happy long term with that person. We get our needs met by others by having our thoughts and feelings validated or deeply understood by the other person.

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It's called one sided Relationship.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

*"I also think women should stay home and raise the amount of children that the man wants to have with her.*"

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Answer is in your question.

*"I grew up in a traditional family*"

Because of such thinking corporate sector is facing problem..

Because when you look at gender inequality as a whole, it seems like a vast, insurmountable challenge. But when you break it down there are real, tangible actions we can take to make the workplace better for women, and in doing so, increase prosperity for all. Women are contributing a lot in corporate sector.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

*"why women have a hymen"*

Embryologically, it tended to keep germs and dirt out of the vagina. In infants and children, the hymen can serve a protective purpose by helping to prevent things from being pushed into the vagina; sometimes, a damaged hymen is looked at as an indicator of abuse and incest.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Even in the Bible it says men are supposed to be leaders*"

His first miracle was performed in response to a plea from His mother (John 2:1-11).

His first revelation of Himself as Messiah was to a woman (John 4:25- 26).

His greatest miracle was performed at the request of two women (John 11:1-44).

His death was memorialized by a woman (John 12:1-8).

Women were included in His expanded group of disciples (Mark 15:41).

Women stayed with Him throughout His crucifixion, even after the men had left (Matthew
27:55-56).

Women observed His burial (Matthew 27:61).

Following His resurrection, He appeared first to a woman (John 20:1- 16).

He commissioned women as the very first evangelists (Matthew 28:1- 10; John 20:17).

Women were included in the group of disciples who met daily for prayer after the ascension of Jesus (Acts 1:14).

Ancient prophecy was fulfilled when the Spirit of God was given equally to men and women at Pentecost (Acts 2:17).

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Women were among the very first “believers” or “Christians” who made up the early church (Acts 5:14; Acts 8:12; 17:4, 12).

The first church in Europe was begun with a group of women and actually met in the home of a woman (Acts 16:13-15).

The early church was staffed by many women (Romans 16:12, Philippians 4:3).

At least one early church was co-led by a woman (1 Corinthians 16:19).

The very fact that the Bible goes out of its way to carefully record all of the above reveals the intentionality of God’s purpose to reestablish the position of women to that of equality with men.

I am Hindu whose religion is *"Humanity"* Generally I avoid comments on Religious topics because it hurts sentiments of people. Thanks @AquaBoo for A2A.

I read everything though I am Agnostic Theist. Gita, Mahabharata, Ramayana, Bible. Quran is WIP.

Because I love Research.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

In scientific aspects.

Submission fantasies are a surprisingly common category, and they include everything from simply giving in to the desires of a dominant man, to BDSM, to sexual assault, to rape. In a submission fantasy, however, a woman wants to be submissive. In other words, it is her choice to do so. In nutshell nothing is wrong with Society but it's YOUR SUBMISSIVE FANTASY.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Suggested Take.

Change your Thinking. World is Beautiful. Are you able to see that Beauty? ↗

Hope it answer your question. I apologise in case I had hurt your feelings in any manner.

[AquaBoo]

I knew you'd have a good answer

[tallandsweet]

Thanks for your long and awesome reply on this question, I particularly liked the bible verses you used, I also grew up in a traditional family, but I know that women played a huge role in the bible and in Jesus' life. Thanks.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

@tallandsweet

Great. Thanks. TBH I even don't remember when I have written such long answer because I am inactive user nowadays.

[planetary]

It isn't seen as bad. That might be what some people see, the types of people who go out of their way to try and make you think that their opinion is based in reality -- but you have your own eyes to see with and your own reality to create and exist in.

Physiologically, by evolution, the fundamental biological purpose of the human male in reproduction is to protect and provide while the fundamental biological role of the human female in reproduction is to produce (children) and nurture. Anything to the contrary, is in complicit disagreement with human sexual dimorphism. Males naturally have more muscle mass, aggressive tendencies (warrior mentality), and are more prone to end up in leadership roles. Females naturally have higher bodyfat % (reserve energy for pregnancy), wider hips (child birth), and are less likely to be aggressive towards or compete with males for territory or resources as that places them at a significant evolutionary disadvantage. Modern society tells us to ignore these facts and promotes both men and women to rebel against their own genetically assigned biological roles.

It is much easier to maintain power over the masses when individuals are distracted and preoccupied with confusion by entertaining fundamentally irrational internal conflicts such as the question you have posed here. Don't look through others eyes, you get to decide what is good or bad based on whatever is best for you and in your own self interest.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Look lady. I think it’s more important for a woman to be her own person and you must be batshit insane for hating women who have other priorities other than being barefoot and pregnant in a kitchen. Women can have a career and still be a good wife and mom.

A marriage should be based of mutual love and respect for one another and a man shouldn’t expect his wife to obey him but to love, support and to appreciate him.

Both parents also have a role to play with children ! It is important for a mom to love an nurture the children and it is important for a father to play rough and goof around with his kids ! That way the kids learn to be more confident.

And it’s good for a woman to be self reliant in case a marriage fails ! That way she can make her own money and get on up. If a woman has no life skills she will be forced to rely on some asshole for reasources and not be able to leave an abusive relationship in a worst case scenario.

[AquaBoo]

I agree with some of your thoughts. But not all of them. I was raised that way too. But women in corporate jobs are a good thing. I agree it can be more orderly but that wouldn't be possible to go back to with all that we have going on in today's world. I also don't agree with the multiple women thing. In the Bible it says
2 "But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife." 2 Corinthians 7:2-4

[AquaBoo]

And if a man is supposed to have multiple wives or women, how is that conclusive to why women have a hymen? Especially since the hymen doesn't prove anything.

[adi-das]

I not think like that... guy should lovely person

[AquaBoo]

I don't understand.. can you explain?

[adi-das]

Can we be a friend

[samhradh_leannan]

A truly healthy relationship requires a balance of power. Both partners are human beings with equal value and importance. They should each respect the other and care about their opinions, wants, and needs. Control should ultimately be shared. It's perfectly fine for you to allow your husband to take the lead if that's what works for you and your relationship and lifestyle, but there is no obligation for women to "obey" just because they were born with vaginas.

[cherryphi82]

Why should one obey the other? Why not an equal partnership where both take the lead when the occasion calls for it? I don't understand why one should be higher up than the other. It does not sound right nor Christian at all. What you are talking about is Paulinic. Christ never said that a wife is to obey her husband.

[InfoBot]

Why do you see it as good? You have your reasons. Why do others see it as bad? They have their reasons.

Who is right? Both, it depends on what you want out of life. The point is that if it's complicit then nobody is being abused and it's all good.

This is not even worth arguing. It's like arguing if strawberries or raspberries are better.

[Danielle93]

If it's a choice you made and you're fine with it, live your life how you want to. However, that doesn't mean evey single one of us have to be virgins waiting till marriage and obeying a husband. Not everyone of us believes in an old-fashioned, traditional lifestyle.

[Joe12]

Totally disagree, why ; My Mother did and always does what my dad can't or wouldn't. And till this far I have come I support my Mother and women who are courageous to do whatever it takes.
No woman should seek permission to do what is right for herself and others she represents

[cherryphi82]

Excellent answer...

[JuliettaH]

Well said Joe12 x

[Joe12]

Word @JuliettaH and @cherryphi82

[ovi2boss]

You should consider that bible is a book and reality is driven by nature not by books.
Family is lead by both male and females, even in bible there are stories like that, even though the male lead at surface the things were different.
I don't have nothing against having multiple wifes but the damn thing can't perform twice 😂😂 and also requires no gelosy. Plus even in the past there were girl who slept around.

About providers relationship can turn nasty but hope you find a husband who apreciate you for who you are and what you do. Just because you let him rule doesn't mean you shouldn't think.

[Harsh_5299]

"I don't have nothing against having multiple wifes but the damn thing can't perform twice 😂😂 "

Lol, maybe it's only for you, most guys can do it twice

[ovi2boss]

@Harsh_5299 it's not whta I meant. If a girl has a huge sex drive and she wants like 5 times a day and you have two girls like that that is worse if you're testosterone level is normal.
That's what I meant

[Harsh_5299]

That's a very exceptional case...

[ovi2boss]

@Harsh_5299 Very exceptional?
You got to be kidding considering girls have a lot of sex

[Harsh_5299]

Only in very few countries across the entire globe my friend... nymphomaniacs are a minority

[ovi2boss]

@Harsh_5299 That's why girls sleep around 😂😂
It's more rare people who have low libido then high one. Where tf do you live?

[Harsh_5299]

All these girls "sleeping around" will stop after marriage as they won't need to satisfy their s/o
You can check the statistics of dropping sex rate in marriages... this "sleeping around" is a cultural factor, not a biological one. Women tend to have lesser libido than men

[ovi2boss]

@Harsh_5299 lol that's why women cheat 😂😂 because they have less libido in their partner.
Sure while a sex worker has no libido she has 3x 4x times more sex then a stud. Not to mention those who do videochat
Maybe you can do a gangbang with girls while a girl does gangbang with guys, you'll see your damn performance.
If you think that you can stay erected for days in a row to perform that's great to know.

[Harsh_5299]

"@Harsh_5299 lol that's why women cheat 😂😂 because they have less libido in their partner."

No, men do... women cheat when they do not receive enough attention from the one who is supposed to give it to them and find someone else to receive it from

"Sure while a sex worker has no libido she has 3x 4x times more sex then a stud."

Having a lot of sex does not mean you'll enjoy it... but having a high libido will ensure you will
Lol, a prostitute does it for MONEY, not for sexual fulfillment. not all prostitutes enjoy what they do. if a male prostitute does it for money and gets a lot of clients you can see the difference

[Harsh_5299]

"Not to mention those who do videochat
Maybe you can do a gangbang with girls while a girl does gangbang with guys, you'll see your damn performance. "
Lol, you can't seem to understand basic physics... when a guy has sex (in a gangbang), he has to move back and forth rapidly (regular strokes), for a long duration and with a lot of girls
When a girl does it, all she has to do is lie there like a lump of log and let men do the work
Who do you think will last long now huh? (If the girl was required to be in cowgirl position, she will get tired extremely fast)

[ovi2boss]

@Harsh_5299 Most female orgasms in an hour: 134.
Most male orgasms in an hour: 16.
The male gangbang world record goes to porn actor Jon Dough who worked himself over 55 women in one day. He had 5 to 6 ejaculations.
Pornstar Lisa Sparxxx nailed 919 guys in 24 hours. This defeated previous records of 646 in 2002 and 759 in 2003.
I didn't cared why I talked about performance because you argued with me about the performence.

There are multiple reasons while a female cheat not only attention.

You can do whatever you want with you life take a hundred women as wifes perform sex as much as you want. Take viagra or whatever if you think you can perform when your old same as when your young you're terrible mistaking.

[Harsh_5299]

It is a proven fact that women are capable of multiple orgasms... however you're completely missing the point that sexual stamina is measured by how long one performs the penetrative action of sex
If you talk about a scene about 2 gay dudes having sex, obviously the penetrator's sexual stamina is measured.
Because penetration needs energy, acheiving orgasms don't require much energy
If Lisa sparxx had to do them all in cowgirl position with the guys absolutely not moving, do you think she would have lasted long enough?
Anyone can lie down and get penetrated... it is not a measurement of sexual stamina
And I still say that lack of attention is the primary reason for women to stray... it's purely statistical
A simple example is the hundreds of questions on this site itself from anonymous girls complaining about their boyfriends not giving them enough attention

[ovi2boss]

@Harsh_5299 Doing cowgirl position is risky for the guys also because they can end with penis fracture.
How would you deal having multiple wifes and spending 9 hours of work and then you'll be home giving attention to all of them (excluding sex) ?
How would you spend your time with your kids and also your wifes?

[Harsh_5299]

If a guy has multiple wives, it would almost always be assumed the guy is rich and works less
Polygamy was meant for the rich not poor
All the guy has to do is bang all day after spending minimum amount of time for

[Blackwolf82]

It depends on the relationship. If the couple agrees to these roles, that’s perfectly fine. It’s not wrong to be traditional but it’s also not wrong to be progressive. If you wish to honour and obey, that’s fine. If another woman wants to be the breadwinner and the man assumes the household duties, that’s acceptable as well.

[Anonymous]

I'd say it's not bad for women to obey their husbands. But it is not good for her to blindly obey him. She has a certain responsibility to honor her husband. At times that means leading him back to the Lord if she believes that he is leading in a way that does not line up with scripture. She may certainly still honor her husband by doing this, in fact it is more honorable to a husband I think for a wife to lead him back to the Lord than for her to blindly follow and allow him to continue in sin.

[scooogy]

You are the kind of women who I won't ever want in my life. Like ever.

[Asker]

Why not?

[Unit1]

I am inclined towards your statement buddy.

[scooogy]

Not all men want to be leaders.

[Bananaman177]

Obedience to authority is neither good nor bad.

Authority is either good or bad.

Obedience to good authority is good, while obedience to bad authority is bad. Pretty simple. Obeying your husband is fine if he's always right.

[cherryphi82]

Interesting way to put it. And of course, nobody is always right.

[samhradh_leannan]

Yes, an interesting way to put it. I.. THINK I agree. It's not inherently bad to obey someone, if they make choices that are good for them and good for you. The issue is when someone expects you to obey blindly, even when they're in the wrong.

[Kai02]

That might be beautiful to you. If so, then be that woman! If you're happy, then thats great for you!

However, you have NO right to say all women should be like this. You are not all women. You do not get to decide what you think other women should do with their lives. That is their choice, and their choice alone.

[apple24]

I thought about this. Yes I am virgin as well. But i just couldn't blindness not use my brain to make my own decisions. I would hate it. Although I think women men relationships is a comprise. Men provide stability while the women provide a sound household. I don't mind taking care of someone I love. What bothers me is that I can use my brain or do what I want. In that way I rebel. So in the future call me a housewife with one hell of a personality.

[latinabutterfly96]

You make me sick.
Get some help. Oh, and some self-respect along with that.

[Vzombie]

Yup. She makes you sick because she doesn't agree with your views on relationships. Fucking typical.

[AquaBoo]

Yay! Another person who is a supposed retard because you don't agree with their opinion. Fuck you. You're the one who needs help.

[Delroy1995]

Omg you sound like and ideal woman, the government wanted woman to work more people working more taxes also feminist say to woman. They can act and be like a man. a lot of cooperate women are single and never have kids thats the successful ones at the top of the food chain. As they don't have time for saying or kids. Also you should inbox me definitely the type of woman I beloved didn't exist anymore.

[Asker]

Haha thanks☺️😊

[Delroy1995]

Your welcome what country are you from?

[Asker]

Italy :)

[Delroy1995]

AHH ok are you a Italian or did you move to the country?

[Asker]

I am Italian

[Delroy1995]

I see, age?

[Asker]

19. :)

[Delroy1995]

You should inbox me or message me on IG DSKTRADING

[Waffles731]

Honestly I wouldn't want to marry a woman like you, no independence, no mind of her own, it would likr being married to a blow up doll

[apple24]

Hahaha

[AquaBoo]

😂😂😂😂😂

[AquaBoo]

Three cheers for honesty!!

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Nah. We shouldn't be that much honest. It Hurts someone's sentiments. She has mind of her own. Just a case of BDSM Fantasy. Check out my opinion.

Thanks @AquaBoo for A2A.

[Waffles731]

@Being_a_good_Indian yeah that's not BDSM, I'm a submissive yet i still am a partner in a relationship not furniture with genitals

[Being_a_good_Indian]

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At certain EXTENT I agree with you.
Have a great day ahead.

[butterflyflyaway]

I lost interest while i was reading the forth sentence... lol i want a partner in life.. not a boss.

[Jaye234]

Sister... You are entitled to have your opinion.
I've nothing else to say. Don't bother replying to this as I will not be interested.

[AurionVII]

I think a women need to be in equality with her husband and you have a another idea then the most people in Europe. You think you are not important for your husband...

[DevilMayCare]

Today's men aren't worthy of leading anyone. They're weak, over-emotional, arrogant, have mental issues, & are not fit to guide another human being.

For the traditional family system to work again, both sexes need a change in character. The woman needs to stop being a stubborn ice queen, filled with pride & false security. The man needs to quit being afraid, get a career he enjoys, set goals, and toughen up. Until this happens, no gender is worthy of the other.

[AquaBoo]

Agreed

[Harsh_5299]

You're generalizing a lot dude...

[DevilMayCare]

@Harsh_5299 I look at the majority, there are some exceptions to the rule however.

[Patrickjv]

Lel if you're a female, my name is Winnie the Pooh.

[winterfox10]

Part of the issue is that many women have been failed by the men in their lives. Being lead by a man would feel like they are setting themselves up to be hurt again

[AquaBoo]

Why is this opinion getting so many dislikes?

[winterfox10]

@AquaBoo Because many men want to believe that Feminism is an undeserved attack on masculinity. Feminism is the result of year after year of women screaming themselves hoarse, feeling like men won't do what we're supposed to do: Protect and provide for women.

[Anonymous]

It all sounds good for us guys but you’re going to get a lot of heat from feminists

[Asker]

They can think whatever they want hhaha