Girls, have you ever positively responded to catcalling? I never saw the point in it other than harassing the woman, annoying her, and objectifying her, i think it's completely stupid n pointless lol
Not once has it worked on me because 1) I don't like feeling like a piece of meat, 2) if you have something to say to me, say it to my face, not like a coward behind my back when I've walked past you (like most catcallers do), 3) even if the guy who catcalls me is technically good looking, he instantly becomes worthless and disgusting to me - if his first instinct is to yell random things at me, I doubt that I'd ever get something meaningful out of him, 4) yelling random things at strangers speaks volumes about a person's intellect and social skills, 5) if someone wants to give a good first impression, treating their person of interest with respect and dignity will always be a much nicer interaction, even if you end up getting rejected in the end.
Basically, if you catcall someone, you'll hit just about every checkmark on the list of things you *shouldn't* do when approaching someone. Just because 1% of women enjoy it because they crave attention, doesn't mean the rest of us do. I find it extremely disrespectful and gross when people think they can say whatever the hell they want to people they don't even know. Like if you want to ask someone out that badly, just walk up to them and say "hi, nice to meet you, my name is x, I would be really interested in grabbing a coffee with you at some point". Even if they're not interested, you've surely made a positive impression at the very least. Whereas if you yelled "nice ass" at a random girl, she'll most likely think you're disgusting.
Catcalling never works. All it does is make woman feel scared. I was once followed halfway across the mall by a group of boys making comments about me and i was only with one other girl and i was afraid they would attack us. They followed us into a store and continued to yell until they realized they were causing a scene and making fools of themselves.
I can't imagine that it would ever work. At least when I try to put myself into the shoes of a woman, I can't see that I would possibly enjoy being catcalled. And even if it does work in very rare instances, there's another good reason not to do it: guys who yell some dumb comment through the street, hoping a girl would turn around and fall in love with them usually make a complete idiot of themselves. I mean, the only right term for the feeling I get when I hear guys doing this is "fremdschämen".
I mean technically you don't even have to put yourself in the shoes of a woman. Just imagine having some random guy yell that he thinks you have a nice ass and that he'd like to do "something" (read: anything) to it, and you'll know exactly how 99,9% of women feel when they're catcalled. Consider possibly adding some tension to it too, by thinking what that would be like while walking through a quiet street/neighborhood.
Catcalling is for fun, any man who has friends who had done it or any man who did it himself know this. To be honest I'd actually be surprised if it worked and if it did I wouldn't expect much from it, mainly because the girl who came over likely isn't worth my time.
And to be honest if a man even has a little hope it'll work, he's pathetic... or he could be an idiot but it's mostly pathetic.
As a matter of fact I'll tell you about one time me and my friend were just hanging out. Now it was about ten or eleven close to midnight and we all planned to stay up until knew years eve. Anyways long story short, this girl was walking up the street, now me and my friends were all just chilling in my uncle's drive way. Thing is because my uncle had this big three at the house we were in it's shadow. Anyways as soon as the girl was in sight we sorta started checking her out and she was hot, not that it justifies anything, as far I could see she had a rocking body and really long. Anyways my cousin asked me if I could get her and be being fifteen at the time hardly having much game said "Of course, but I already have a girlfriend. Maybe you should try." yeah those were the words that made everyone else tell him he should try. And as you know as soon as directly across the street he catcalled her, he was just playing around. But as soon as he did it she quicken her pace, and as he did it again she turn her head and looked at all of us, four tall men in the dark, that's when he shouted "hey why don't you come over here I wanna talk to you." and that's when she turned around and started running. Now when I say "running" I mean she kicked it. I mean if Usain Bolt was on steroids, she'd still beat him by a stretch. Now I knew this was probably wrong but we started laughing. I know how bad it sounds but I laughed to the point were tears came to my eyes and I started to wonder if I was gonna die. You may not get it but I ever saw that girl again I would probably start chuckling.
Yeah, scaring a girl in the dark is so hilariously funny! Really dude? "Catcalling is for fun" is just as daft as saying "bullying is for fun". Probably to the one doing it, but not to the one it's done to. I hope a dude walks up to you in the dark and threatens you with a gun, and then laughs behind your back when you walk away. That would be soooooooo hilarious.
Listen. Seeing that girl bolt away was literally, hands down hilarious. Might not be so for you but it was for us. And as for bullying, yes sometimes it can be funny. It doesn't make it right but sometimes it can be funny to watch. At least for me anyways I must be a terrible piece of shit person to feel so but fuck it is what it is.
Yeah you kinda are a piece of shit person. She probably thought you were going to rape or assault her. If I were you, I wouldn’t wear that badge so proudly.
Catcalls, while maybe well-intentioned, always seem to have a sense of aggression behind them to me. They feel violent, and I don't feel as safe as I did before the call was made. I don't like feeling like that, even though I'm just walking, doing nothing even remotely sexual, someone I don't know is just staring at my body, and possibly thinking things I really don't want to picture. I don't like feeling like I can't just "be", that somehow, something I'm doing is inadvertently inviting this kind of attention. It's disrespectful, degrading, and I feel threatened.
Catcalling is not positive attention. It's expressing a carnal desire in a very crude manner that makes women feel a mix of disgust and fear. It overrides any sort of compliment on her looks which is likely the source.
Men who take catcall as their practice of free speech deserve a free kick right on their fucking faces.
I think a free kick in the nuts would be better 🤔 But yeah i agree with every point there, except that i don't think catcalling could ever come with well intentions, whether they wanna sexually assault the girl or just call her out from behind her back, it still comes with bad intentions and is a negative thing
Yes, hence why I said "maybe". There are very few cases (like 0.0001%) where guys don't know how to approach a girl and so catcalls her. But they all know what they're doing.
No. And I don't even think it's intended to "work" in that sense. These guys only want to get a reaction of some sort.
It's similar to guys who send unsolicited dick pics. Unless he is actually mentally challenged, no guy actually believes any woman will react in a non-negative, let alone positive way. The whole purpose of it is the exposure itself (knowing that the woman saw it) and her reaction (whatever it is). It's a thrill to them.
With catcalling it's the same. It's about the act itself and to see the woman notice it, regardless of how she reacrts. The important thing is that she reacts.
In othter words, catcallers as well as dick-pic senders, are pathetic losers who either don't know how to interact with women, or are deliberate douchebags.
No for me it’s always made me feel really threatened and disrespected. I usually don’t respond at all because it’s usually a guy driving by in his car with his friends. If it’s in a public place though I will flip them off or roll my eyes. I don’t think a guy really does it to get the woman I think he does it for the laugh with his friends. My thing is if a guy says you look nice today or I like your dress or something that’s different because it’s respectful, but if your over here whistling and making kissy faces it’s rude.
Nope. Keep in mind catcalling is different from just approaching and complimenting. Catcalling is harassment and it's usually rude and overly aggressive. I doubt anybody has ever reacted positively to it.
It’s weirdly flattering (like yay someone noticed me and liked me) but it’s hardly a thought out compliment. The type who whistle are also the type who slouch in front of the tv with a pizza on their belly and say “yeah ok love”
I’d never pursue a cat caller. In fact I put up more defenses.
I believe it never works. I mean I have tried to see catcalls as a compliment you know but it is very hard to take them seriously. The people catcalling tend to give of the impression that they'll catcall any girl, so no it isn't very special and doesn't have a positive affect on me ever
Have you ever experienced a group of girls, catcalling you? (Not saying it’s common, but bachelorette parties happen out of limo windows...) All you feel like, is similar to standing in front of your first oral presentation as a school kid, and people making fun of you
Well, that isn’t 100% true, once a friend and myself got a ride, and I have to say, I have every reason to be embarrassed and ashamed of what happened, however I don’t feel that way, never did, I feel like... well, everyone was laughing and having a great time they never forgot, so there is that
Well from what I heard, no it doesn't help. I never had it done to me and never heard it being done to other women either. I would say the attention could be nice for some, like hey I'm noticed by the opposite sex but as far as getting a number, won't work. Also if something like hello, and you look beautiful then I don't consider it cat calling, but just polite comments.
Yea, I've seen it work several times. Many times when I'm out with a female friends of mine they will stop to have conversation with the guy if they thought he was cute or something and give him their numbers.
Though I will say. I'm from the hood. So the social rules there are bit different from a "traditional" American setting. Cat calling and random approaches are pretty standard fair in my side of town. I'm sure if you went to some place a bit more uppity you would get different results.
I respond positively to catcalling as long as the person isn’t being creepy, such as following me or touching me. I usually just don’t want to cause unnecessary commotion by getting angry, but sometimes I can actually appreciate a comment from someone on the street if I actually dressed extra cute that day.
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No it doesn’t work. I remember being cat called on the street by a bunch of military lads once. I just felt mostly intimidated. If one of them had approached me in a more natural environment I would have enjoyed some banter, but as it was I was not going to entertain it.
No. I feel like men only do it when they know you are out of their league so they do it to get a reaction out of you because otherwise you wouldn't talk to them
There’s nuisance in it; half the time that person is ignored w. o the person they are calling to turning their back to acknowledge them.., some girls like it maybe.. but otherwise hence the word “cat” calling.. 😂
depends. there are more preferable ways to go about approaching me and telling me im "hot" but hey, it doesn't bother me as long as they're not following me.
If it's done right and not overly Sexual it works from time to time, but most guys that oartake in catcalling are with their buddies and go overboard...
I don't think they would respond positively. it probably feels as bad as getting made fun of. There's usually a bunch of guys together or at least two. It's harrassment
For me it's very annoying and doesn't make a good effect. It would never make me suddenly fall in love with a guy lol. I would be more pushed away by this.
I ignore all catcalls. I don’t see the point in it, but I guess the guys who do this are just bored and think that women like it. We don’t, at least not the majority of us.
How dare we want to be called beautiful and not be asked how tight our asshole is by a stranger? Because crude sexual comments from a random guy and being followed is exactly the same as being called pretty, right?
Wow, salty... I’ve whistled at a beautiful girl before. Never did that shit about asking how tight an asshole is. Don’t know what type of men your around. I’ve told random women that were beautiful that they were beautiful. Never knew that freedom of speech is so offensive too people. And even if they have crude and sexual comments.. guess what, it’s there right.. they may be assholes.. but they have a right to say what they want... now being followed and such is a problem... but again saying what you want is well within their rights... now, your comments make it sound like every random guy is doing that. And that’s simply not true... there are a lot of women out there that will cry this when they think a guy is ugly or unattractive. So make up your mind. The meme that I put at the bottom of my original post holds true
When did i say every guy did this? Most dont, but most women have had it done to them. You have the freedom of speech for the purpose of sharing your opinion, but there are several situations where the freedom of speech can get you in trouble even in America. For example; yelling "fire" in a crowded movie theater or "bomb" in an airport, both of which will likely get you arrested. If you dont believe me then try it yourself and see what the judge says when you try to argue that you have the freedom of speech. Another situation where the "freedom of speech" doesn't apply is when you threaten or harass someone, and catcalling counts as harrassment and depending on what else you say, it also may count as a threat.
Now Im not saying the freedom of speech means nothing, you have the right to say whatever you want, but dont expect that there aren't consequences, the first amendment was established to protect your right to question the government, not to let you harass random people and cause trouble. Remember that anyone you argue with by saying "i have the freedom of speech" also has the freedom of speech. I feel like people who cite "the freedom of speech" in an argument are just trying to justify being an asshole. I remember this one girl years back in high school was literally screaming in the face of this one guy because she claims he used the last of the yellow paint (he didn't even use any he just had the bottle) and i said "oh my god shut the fuck up" and she was like "freedom of speech, bitch" so i was like "you think you're the only one here with the freedom of speech? Im using mine to tell you to shut the fuck up." She looked like she was about to punch me 😂
@JaredEggo yeah that's why I let him know the TRUTH about how disgusting it is to me. If you don't like the answer then just move on, my love. I am not shooting anyone. 😑😑😑
@JaredEggo I wished I could shoot people for catcalling me. If you think that making animal noises at me is 'talking' then you have serious brain defects.
@JaredEggo Yes it ends life. It ruins life, and I'm not the only one who feels like this. @Syrian_survivor help me with getting rid of all catcallers in the world so that women can finally have peace.
Really? So I guess you've never been catcalled since you're still alive talking to us. Tell me please, which is worse; catcalling, or the millions of women murdered in "honor killings" in countries with Sharia law?
@CubsterShura i'd love to get rid of them but in a non-lethal way you know, some law against it would reduce it significantly And what about feminists? Can't they do something good for once and stop catcalling with their protests or something? instead of accusing innocent men for sexual harassement to get paid -_-
@JaredEggo i agree 'honor killings' are the dumbest and most reckless thing ever I'm not trying to justify it because it's not right, but women can't just cheat on their husbands like that and just leave innocently, men care about their honor more than anything But as i said, a non-lethal solution would be much better Why isn't there a condition in the marriage contract that says it's a crime to cheat on her spouse and vice versa? I think that would be a good idea
By your logic in past women should not be complaining about not getting education cause not getting food is worse than not getting education. Lmao I'm done with y'all.
@Syrian_survivor I'm not talking just about honor killings when a woman cheats. I'm talking about the ones when a woman is violently raped and then sentenced to die in a barbaric honor killing because of it. Or the father who brutally murders his daughter because she dated the wrong man.
@CubsterShura Well if you don't get food you starve and die. If you don't get an education, at worst you can't read. So yeah not getting food is worse. Abraham Lincoln didn't have an education, but he get food. Didn't starve, did became president.
I never said women shouldn't get education. I think everybody should get an education. And this is coming from a guy who didn't get much of one and had to learn most everything on my own. What I said was that bothering somebody doesn't deserve execution. This isn't the dark ages after all.
I didn't intend to troll but seeing how much you both are triggered and unwilling to understand what I mean, I did start trolling cause why not just make fun of you idiots while you're here.
How are we triggered? We've just been trying to understand what you mean since the beginning Because logically, shooting people cuz they catcalled you doesn't make any sense at all and is stupid If it IS what you mean, then just leave us be lmao This says a lot about your personality though, i can already tell that you're unstable and aggressive towards people, close-minded and mindwashed, you easily give put on a bitch face without trying and you're not a good person Prove me wrong 🤷
@JaredEggo I concluded that you need to be explained like a kid. Listen, when you say that you wanna punch someone in the face, do you really mean it? You don't. What made you think that I really meant it when I said that I wanna shoot those guys? Clearly I wish they just did not exist, but the shooting part is just the kind of low-key urge.
Yes many women in several parts of the world are going through terrible oppression. However only because bigger issues exist, it doesn't mean that people should not do anything about other existing issues. Cause if we lived by the ideology then we would still live in huts. What else do you need when you have food, shelter and protection, right? It's good to be grateful for whatever you have, but it is also just as good to work on getting better.
Well the first reason I thought you meant it was that you said it. I don't even want to know how you would have reached had I not taken you seriously. The second reason is that you kept saying it, many times. Nothing says "I'm serious" more than adamantly sticking to a completely childish and irrational argument.
Here's an idea to work on on the issue in question. Stop talking about shooting people.
@JaredEggo you freaking got triggered and one I tried to explain that it was not serious and you were still acting triggered and were completely unwilling to have your mind changed. It's not my fault that you got so triggered by the word shooting. I said what the truth is.
My friends and I yell and flip off people who catcall us. I find it offensive
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No it never works. In fact it does the complete opposite. Instead of liking you and giving you a chance, she will hate you and be terrified if you get near her.
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It sure does work, especially if you are looking for a smack in the mouth! LOL!
No, it never worked for me. If you want a girls number, approach her like a civilized person.
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I've never responded positively towards it. It actually bothered me a lot haha. The most recent one that happened is last month and it's still popping in my head -_-
Because they are confused lol. I always answer messages even if its just to tell the person that their methods of flirting suck. Too many guys make the mistake of opening by asking something sexual, and if it isn't sexual then they just say "hi" or something that has nothing to do with anything i posted and i almost immediately lose interest. If you really want to seem interesting then mention something that has to do with their profile or something they posted to show how you found them and that you are interested in their personality. Even girls who play along with that shit get those messages so often that they become boring and typical, some even only answer just to troll you. I once played along with one of these guys just to tell him i had a 10 inch dick (i dont, but i thought it was funny), he then stopped messaging me lol.
@Gianna17 I thionk you do have a 10 inch dick JS lol. it depends on the situation and the context ultimately. Like on a platform like tinder which I mentioned most people are there to hook up so starting out with something sexual then progressing the conversation from there is actually pretty normal. It just depends on how you go about it, like saying "hello boobs" is kinda fun (ny) even when the girl is kinda flat chested. Whereas saying something like "Hey wanna fuck?" not so much.
As for instagram. the majority of girls there post selfies seeking validation of some sort so again saying something like "Hello Boobs" intrigues them as they think A it's a compliment or B are confused. If it's A then usually they reply because they want further validation.
Most people on instagram may be seeking validation, but generally they prefer it in the form of a comment that says "stunning 😍" rather then something like: "boooooooobieees", that isn't a compliment lol. I have an instagram, and im always flattered when people say i look pretty or something, because that would be a compliment, but if someone mentioned my boobs i would be pretty creeped out lol
@Gianna17 I'm not upset. I'm pointing out that your opinion is invalid because it doesn't apply to everyone. FYI when you start pointing out grammatical errors, you've already lost.
That doesn't make it invalid, im sure every girl you message doesn't respond well to "hey boobs" so does that make yours invalid? The same goes for when someone brings up your age lol.
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