Girls, have you ever positively responded to catcalling? I never saw the point in it other than harassing the woman, annoying her, and objectifying her, i think it's completely stupid n pointless lol
Not once has it worked on me because 1) I don't like feeling like a piece of meat, 2) if you have something to say to me, say it to my face, not like a coward behind my back when I've walked past you (like most catcallers do), 3) even if the guy who catcalls me is technically good looking, he instantly becomes worthless and disgusting to me - if his first instinct is to yell random things at me, I doubt that I'd ever get something meaningful out of him, 4) yelling random things at strangers speaks volumes about a person's intellect and social skills, 5) if someone wants to give a good first impression, treating their person of interest with respect and dignity will always be a much nicer interaction, even if you end up getting rejected in the end.
Basically, if you catcall someone, you'll hit just about every checkmark on the list of things you *shouldn't* do when approaching someone. Just because 1% of women enjoy it because they crave attention, doesn't mean the rest of us do. I find it extremely disrespectful and gross when people think they can say whatever the hell they want to people they don't even know. Like if you want to ask someone out that badly, just walk up to them and say "hi, nice to meet you, my name is x, I would be really interested in grabbing a coffee with you at some point". Even if they're not interested, you've surely made a positive impression at the very least. Whereas if you yelled "nice ass" at a random girl, she'll most likely think you're disgusting.
Catcalling never works. All it does is make woman feel scared. I was once followed halfway across the mall by a group of boys making comments about me and i was only with one other girl and i was afraid they would attack us. They followed us into a store and continued to yell until they realized they were causing a scene and making fools of themselves.
I can't imagine that it would ever work. At least when I try to put myself into the shoes of a woman, I can't see that I would possibly enjoy being catcalled. And even if it does work in very rare instances, there's another good reason not to do it: guys who yell some dumb comment through the street, hoping a girl would turn around and fall in love with them usually make a complete idiot of themselves. I mean, the only right term for the feeling I get when I hear guys doing this is "fremdschämen".
I mean technically you don't even have to put yourself in the shoes of a woman. Just imagine having some random guy yell that he thinks you have a nice ass and that he'd like to do "something" (read: anything) to it, and you'll know exactly how 99,9% of women feel when they're catcalled. Consider possibly adding some tension to it too, by thinking what that would be like while walking through a quiet street/neighborhood.
Catcalling is for fun, any man who has friends who had done it or any man who did it himself know this. To be honest I'd actually be surprised if it worked and if it did I wouldn't expect much from it, mainly because the girl who came over likely isn't worth my time.
And to be honest if a man even has a little hope it'll work, he's pathetic... or he could be an idiot but it's mostly pathetic.
As a matter of fact I'll tell you about one time me and my friend were just hanging out. Now it was about ten or eleven close to midnight and we all planned to stay up until knew years eve. Anyways long story short, this girl was walking up the street, now me and my friends were all just chilling in my uncle's drive way. Thing is because my uncle had this big three at the house we were in it's shadow. Anyways as soon as the girl was in sight we sorta started checking her out and she was hot, not that it justifies anything, as far I could see she had a rocking body and really long. Anyways my cousin asked me if I could get her and be being fifteen at the time hardly having much game said "Of course, but I already have a girlfriend. Maybe you should try." yeah those were the words that made everyone else tell him he should try. And as you know as soon as directly across the street he catcalled her, he was just playing around. But as soon as he did it she quicken her pace, and as he did it again she turn her head and looked at all of us, four tall men in the dark, that's when he shouted "hey why don't you come over here I wanna talk to you." and that's when she turned around and started running. Now when I say "running" I mean she kicked it. I mean if Usain Bolt was on steroids, she'd still beat him by a stretch. Now I knew this was probably wrong but we started laughing. I know how bad it sounds but I laughed to the point were tears came to my eyes and I started to wonder if I was gonna die. You may not get it but I ever saw that girl again I would probably start chuckling.
Yeah, scaring a girl in the dark is so hilariously funny! Really dude? "Catcalling is for fun" is just as daft as saying "bullying is for fun". Probably to the one doing it, but not to the one it's done to. I hope a dude walks up to you in the dark and threatens you with a gun, and then laughs behind your back when you walk away. That would be soooooooo hilarious.
Listen. Seeing that girl bolt away was literally, hands down hilarious. Might not be so for you but it was for us. And as for bullying, yes sometimes it can be funny. It doesn't make it right but sometimes it can be funny to watch. At least for me anyways I must be a terrible piece of shit person to feel so but fuck it is what it is.
Yeah you kinda are a piece of shit person. She probably thought you were going to rape or assault her. If I were you, I wouldnāt wear that badge so proudly.
Catcalls, while maybe well-intentioned, always seem to have a sense of aggression behind them to me. They feel violent, and I don't feel as safe as I did before the call was made. I don't like feeling like that, even though I'm just walking, doing nothing even remotely sexual, someone I don't know is just staring at my body, and possibly thinking things I really don't want to picture. I don't like feeling like I can't just "be", that somehow, something I'm doing is inadvertently inviting this kind of attention. It's disrespectful, degrading, and I feel threatened.
Catcalling is not positive attention. It's expressing a carnal desire in a very crude manner that makes women feel a mix of disgust and fear. It overrides any sort of compliment on her looks which is likely the source.
Men who take catcall as their practice of free speech deserve a free kick right on their fucking faces.
I think a free kick in the nuts would be better š¤ But yeah i agree with every point there, except that i don't think catcalling could ever come with well intentions, whether they wanna sexually assault the girl or just call her out from behind her back, it still comes with bad intentions and is a negative thing
Yes, hence why I said "maybe". There are very few cases (like 0.0001%) where guys don't know how to approach a girl and so catcalls her. But they all know what they're doing.
No. And I don't even think it's intended to "work" in that sense. These guys only want to get a reaction of some sort.
It's similar to guys who send unsolicited dick pics. Unless he is actually mentally challenged, no guy actually believes any woman will react in a non-negative, let alone positive way. The whole purpose of it is the exposure itself (knowing that the woman saw it) and her reaction (whatever it is). It's a thrill to them.
With catcalling it's the same. It's about the act itself and to see the woman notice it, regardless of how she reacrts. The important thing is that she reacts.
In othter words, catcallers as well as dick-pic senders, are pathetic losers who either don't know how to interact with women, or are deliberate douchebags.
Nope. Keep in mind catcalling is different from just approaching and complimenting. Catcalling is harassment and it's usually rude and overly aggressive. I doubt anybody has ever reacted positively to it.
No for me itās always made me feel really threatened and disrespected. I usually donāt respond at all because itās usually a guy driving by in his car with his friends. If itās in a public place though I will flip them off or roll my eyes. I donāt think a guy really does it to get the woman I think he does it for the laugh with his friends. My thing is if a guy says you look nice today or I like your dress or something thatās different because itās respectful, but if your over here whistling and making kissy faces itās rude.
Itās weirdly flattering (like yay someone noticed me and liked me) but itās hardly a thought out compliment. The type who whistle are also the type who slouch in front of the tv with a pizza on their belly and say āyeah ok loveā
Iād never pursue a cat caller. In fact I put up more defenses.
I believe it never works. I mean I have tried to see catcalls as a compliment you know but it is very hard to take them seriously. The people catcalling tend to give of the impression that they'll catcall any girl, so no it isn't very special and doesn't have a positive affect on me ever
Have you ever experienced a group of girls, catcalling you? (Not saying itās common, but bachelorette parties happen out of limo windows...) All you feel like, is similar to standing in front of your first oral presentation as a school kid, and people making fun of you
Well, that isnāt 100% true, once a friend and myself got a ride, and I have to say, I have every reason to be embarrassed and ashamed of what happened, however I donāt feel that way, never did, I feel like... well, everyone was laughing and having a great time they never forgot, so there is that
Well from what I heard, no it doesn't help. I never had it done to me and never heard it being done to other women either. I would say the attention could be nice for some, like hey I'm noticed by the opposite sex but as far as getting a number, won't work. Also if something like hello, and you look beautiful then I don't consider it cat calling, but just polite comments.
Yea, I've seen it work several times. Many times when I'm out with a female friends of mine they will stop to have conversation with the guy if they thought he was cute or something and give him their numbers.
Though I will say. I'm from the hood. So the social rules there are bit different from a "traditional" American setting. Cat calling and random approaches are pretty standard fair in my side of town. I'm sure if you went to some place a bit more uppity you would get different results.
I respond positively to catcalling as long as the person isnāt being creepy, such as following me or touching me. I usually just donāt want to cause unnecessary commotion by getting angry, but sometimes I can actually appreciate a comment from someone on the street if I actually dressed extra cute that day.
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No it doesnāt work. I remember being cat called on the street by a bunch of military lads once. I just felt mostly intimidated. If one of them had approached me in a more natural environment I would have enjoyed some banter, but as it was I was not going to entertain it.
No. I feel like men only do it when they know you are out of their league so they do it to get a reaction out of you because otherwise you wouldn't talk to them
Thereās nuisance in it; half the time that person is ignored w. o the person they are calling to turning their back to acknowledge them.., some girls like it maybe.. but otherwise hence the word ācatā calling.. 😂
depends. there are more preferable ways to go about approaching me and telling me im "hot" but hey, it doesn't bother me as long as they're not following me.
If it's done right and not overly Sexual it works from time to time, but most guys that oartake in catcalling are with their buddies and go overboard...
I don't think they would respond positively. it probably feels as bad as getting made fun of. There's usually a bunch of guys together or at least two. It's harrassment
For me it's very annoying and doesn't make a good effect. It would never make me suddenly fall in love with a guy lol. I would be more pushed away by this.
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