19 and Im not allowed to date?

[Anonymous]

So I'm 18 and I'm not allowed to date or have relationships. It's really depressing for me. Because I'm turning 19 in a couple weeks and I hate not having a partner. So, since I'm not allowed to date I was going to try long distance relationships. The problem with that is I actually wanted to date a guy locally. I actually want to take a guy home and let him sleep in my room, take me out to dinner. I want him to be able to shower with me and be part of my family. But I'm not allowed to date or go out with guys. Long distance relationships are okay but I actually want a guy I can be with, the thought of a strictly online relationship is depressing.


I have a s*x toy. I feel like my dad just got it got it for me because he'd hope I wouldn't think about guys and dating anymore. It isn't working. I still want a relationship with someone and I don't go out much or try to date for this reason. Any advice? :/ it's like your trying to be a good girl and not date, not have sex but on the inside its killing you. I'm going to be 20 years old soon...

[scottalanmiller]

So here is the thing, you are 18 so you ARE allowed to date. Not dating is just you deciding not to date (assuming you are in the US.)

Good girls date, there isn't anything even slightly "good" in not dating.

What are you being is a controlled girl who isn't acting her age or taking the fact that she is an adult seriously Don't blame your parents, you are an adult, your decisions are yours and yours alone.

[Josh13]

If you live in their house then you should follow the rules. If you don't like it then move out. That's what I believe. Still though it is a bit odd that they wouldn't let u date being nearly 20

[Josh13]

oops I meant to put this under my own comment 😂

[Anonymous]

You should move out and probably to another country.

Where the fuck is this ridiculous backward shit taking place?

Im guessing the desert but lets hope its not a western country eh?

Your dad bought you a sex toy?

Off the fucking map...

This situation is ridiculous and should not be tolerated for a a single moment longer.

[Asker]

Lol well, I used to masterbate with things like my dirty fingers, pencils, ice and such. I kept getting bladder infections so ever since I got the dildo I haven't pissed myself and I can actually hold my pee now. My mom wouldn't allow me to have the dildo until dad said yes. My mom also talked to her friends and a few family members before making the final decision to get me one.

[Opinion Owner]

Your fingers really shouldn't be a problem, but maybe its hard to be clean where you are?
There is anti baterial soap all over the place where I live and we have plenty of clean water out of the tap so maybe I am taking a lot for granted.

Pencils can't be a good idea, ice is something i hear of people using, thats reasonable but you do need to be clean.

Not pissing yourself is good, that has very much been on my daily goal list for some time.

This is ridiculous though, your parents are, from my perspective unbelievably controlling.

Presumably you have had the misforune to have been born into a strictly religious country.

[Asker]

I am American

[Opinion Owner]

Wow.

Southern?

Bible belt, gotta be, surely?

[Asker]

No western. It's just that my dad is extremely controlling. :/

[Opinion Owner]

Well, its ridiculous. I thought you must be for sure from a third world country.

You have got to get out of that situation, you are supposed to be in the land of the free not the land where if you are lucky your dad buys you a dildo after everyone in the family has a conference about it.
You could write a book about how disturbing that is.

[Asker]

He not like this towards my older sister because she is 29 years old. But I feel like I'm going to be 29 and my parents are still going to control my life. I just wish I could date, and be more like a young adult instead of just... I don't know. I judge really wanted to start dating ans talking to guys in my city..

[Opinion Owner]

You need to stop asking for permission to do things that you dont need permission for.

You need to tell your dad that you understand that he is trying to protect you but that what he is actually doing is hurting you and you are not going to allow him to do that to you anymore.

[Asker]

It's horrible. When they bought me the dildo they used my aunts Amazon account, when the package came it had my little sisters name on it. Is this fucked up?

[Opinion Owner]

YES!

OMFG!

YES!

It is deeply disturbing, its border line criminal.

[Opinion Owner]

Your family are from another planet.

This is INSANE!

I can't over state this.

[Asker]

It's like they might as well should of went on Facebook and said hey my daughter is geta new pink dildo!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but thats not the fucked up part.

I mean that is still fucked up but the thing that is so totally off the map is that your family had a chat about this and then decided to buy one for you.

WOW!

[Opinion Owner]

How can they be like that and not be deeply fucked up by religion?

I can't even begin to imagine how you fuck yourself up so badly all on your own without that sort of help.

[Asker]

God, I have worse stories to tell. This Is only the beginning...

[Opinion Owner]

What is more amazing to me is that you seem normal.

So kudos for that coming out of your freak show family.

[Opinion Owner]

Would you tell me?

I really want to know.

You should literally write a book and publish it titled 'My fucked up life.' or something

[Asker]

I was punched in the stomach by my little sister and I pissed myself in the morning.. She then told on me. I'm not normal. I actually have a lot of problems. I still sleep with a teddy bear, I cry in my sleep almost every night. I wrote a story about a guy named Quan who's gay and has a pee fetish.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you pee yourself all the time?

Are you allowed to goto the toilet properly etc?

[Opinion Owner]

Sweetheart, when you have a family as fucked up as yours is having a teddy bear and crying in your sleep is totally normal.

[Asker]

I used to have a bladder infection. I was touching myself with dirty hands or putting things like pencils inside myself

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, so that just happened at the same time, thats not still happening. Ok thats good to hear.

[Asker]

It's hard for me... It really is. I think I'm strong for not hurting myself or someone else...

[Opinion Owner]

Wow!

Yes you are strong and yes it must be extremely hard.

Your life sucks right now, its not supposed to be like that.

Your home is supposed to be your sanctuary where you close the door on the world and find peace, not a fucking battle ground where you have to fight tooth and nail clawing for every scrap of sanity.

Your father is a grade A nut job and should probably be recieving treatment for his mental problems.

Your whole family is fucked up because they all buy into this shit.

You all should be seeing a therapist.

Maybe you should call Jerry Springer?

You would be his wet dream.

A story like this? Jesus..

[Asker]

I thought about horrible shit. Got to the point I started hearing voices... I just feel like I'm a broken person...

[Opinion Owner]

Well get help Sweetheart, because its only going to get worse.

Why dont you show this conversation to your family so that they can get some perspective on how weird they have become?

Its really important for all of you that you all get help, the sooner the better.

[Asker]

So, let's say you have a older brother who beat you up until you wet yourself and your parents said oh yeah you probably deserved it. Your family lives next to the city dump and you walked in on your dad naked with a random woman...

[Opinion Owner]

Thats bad Sweet heart x

You need to get out.

[linds34]

How can they stop you? They can say a guy can't come to your house, but I don't see how they can stop you from going to the guy's place or to coffee shops, movies etc.

[PondyPand]

Better yet, ask your parents WHY? what age did they meet?

[Asker]

My dad actually moved out at 17. Mom had her first baby at 16-17 and they started a business young.

So, it's hypocritical that I'm not allowed to date on they're part. :/

[PondyPand]

Okay, but maybe that's the reason why? Try and see it from their points of view, come up with logical answers that serve your point. If they still don't let up some, then it's time to tell them to shut the hell up I'm afraid.

[Asker]

I asked could i hire a guy to date me. There's no sex, there's no touching, flirting just a simple dinner and he said nope.

It's just stupid. In short no boyfriend ever until I move out. I'm getting older every day, moving out is freaking hard. I talked to a guy who was basically my boyfriend for a few months since he saw me naked and we talked all the time about everything.

[scottalanmiller]

Then why do you live there?

[Anonymous]

You can use https://www.cuddleup.com/ . It's non sexually and cheap.

[Asker]

How would you feel if your 17 year old son enjoys having oral sex with his boyfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't give a shit, honestly. I don't have a son and right now i need to care about you because you're 18 and you're parents still act like you're a baby. Right now you're the person i need to care about.

[Asker]

Number

7026809621

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not stupid, honey. https://www.callername.com/7026809621

[Asker]

That's my real number. It's not dangerous

[Opinion Owner]

I text, did you get it?

[Opinion Owner]

You going to write back?

[Asker]

Nope. But I'm about to be getting my haircut soon, I don't have a choice but I think I should have a choice what's done to my head because I'm 18 and I'm turning 19 soon. At the end of this crap I'm most likely not going to have any hair. :/

I tried covering up my hair so maybe he'd forget about cutting it off... I'm hoping to god he forgets

[Opinion Owner]

Alright, i'll try texting again. Yeah, your parents sound very controlling, i mean you're 18. They shouldn't be telling you to cut your hair if you don't want to.

[worldscolide]

wait.. you're legally an adult your dad can do fuck all if you choose to date. He has no choice in the matter.

[jessture]

Why do you let your parents control you like this? Move out

[JayB2018]

Just make your boyfriend eat your pussy for now until uou move out.

[MidnightCowboy]

Your parents are fucking morons. Tell them to stop treating you like a baby

[Josh13]

What I find odd is your dad got u a toy...

[jbond]

Y can u not date

[Asker]

Dad said no

[Asker]

I want to Starr dating though... I'm considering online dating...

[jbond]

Can u not go out without him knowing

[Asker]

Unless it's all online.

[jbond]

Go on line and see if u like it but do u meet guy when ur out

[Asker]

How would you feel if your 17 son sucked a guy off and made out with him after drinking his cum?

[scottalanmiller]

Your dad isn't a factor. You are an adult.