Should the #MeToo Movement be Extended to Men?

Question

The #MeToo movement has been a pretty big topic on GAG lately, and I’ve already shared my take on it a few times, but I decided to make it a proper post! I want opinions!

Many men disapprove of the movement because it’s used as a weapon against them by many women, and I see this! I understand that the movement is used to empower women, to share and be the voice of victims of assault, rape, harassment, etc, but I’ve also noticed that many ladies use the hashtag to attack men, turning something good into something that has the potential to be harmful.

But my question is... should the #MeToo movement be extended to men? It’s meant to be a voice, yet it seems to be strictly towards women, although rape is international and non-binary. Men are raped on a daily basis. Why is this rarely ever acknowledged?

Clearly I’m all for it.

mckatowitz · Accepted Answer

I think anyone who has experienced any type of harassment or assault should welcomed. I think for a lot of men coming forward is even harder than women in some ways because of the way society treats make victims. I have seen some stories from men on Twitter and other places. The goal for all survivors of assault etc is to feel safe sharing is to feel their stories and to make non-surviors start to understand how wide spread the problem is, I think. This isn't a problem that effects just one group of people it affects all of us. I don't know if men will want to use the hashtag #metoo or if they want to come up for something just for them, but no matter what they do they should be allowed to share their stories.

A quick comment on women using #metoo to attack men. I don't think that is right. Using it to confront your attacker is one thing. Some of us need to say something to the person that hurt them to heal. But attacking men in general is unacceptable. There are millions of men if there that are appalled by rape, stalking, and harassment. There are many of them that are working dillingently to change laws and to educate their communities to make lasting change. Just as there is no specific face to #metoo there should not be blanket blame on all men.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. Men can be victims of abuse and rape as well. They deserve the same respect that we attribute to female victims.

DamienDreams · Accepted Answer

I agree with you @Sammy165. The original intent, as I understand it, was to be used against perpetrators, not as a weapon against all men in general. The majority of men are NOT perpetrators. And plenty of men have also been raped or molested, too. I know, I know, this is gonna be taken by some people as sexist, but... as guys, we're reluctant to report it because it's a huge ego-buster. After all, we're "men" (even though most are probably boys at the time), so we're "supposed" to be able to defend ourselves, right? And even though people are a LITTLE more open-minded these days, there's still the whole "gay" stigma. I know it SHOULDN'T be any harder for a guy to speak up than a lady, but from the man brain, it is. Or at least it feels that way.

So no, I don't think the "MeToo" thing should be exclusively for women. This is about the perpetrators, not a battle of the sexes. Or at least it should be.

Oh, and by the way (*takes a deep breath and gathers his balls*)...
#MeToo

A-man-22 · Accepted Answer

Start over again , with a greater focus on the fact it helps both sides.

Less focus on weaponising emotions and more on funding the ability to find evidence.

I'm not against getting to the bottom of serious cases at all.

It's just the name metoo has already got negative connotations.

CoffeeWC · Answer

It should be or else the #metoo movement is supporting inequality

MlleCake · Answer

It is. It's simply a hashtag. Men have been using it all along.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It was originally to help boys and young men come forward about molestation they'd faced, from any adult. Particularly, boys who'd been trafficked under the radar in Hollywood. Elijah Wood risked his career when he said the industry was being run by pedophiles. And then... he turned out to be right.

However, that news went back to the Establishment of the DNC, and to the powers that be in Hollywood. It would've required them to acknowledge a sobering statistic: that 33% of incarcerated gays admit to having sex with minors, and that molestation is a major part of the future homosexual grooming process. Since they cannot reproduce naturally, there has to be a grooming of someone else's child to pass the deathstyle on.

Which... means that while not all gays are pedophiles, an alarming number of them are. And facing that fact couldn't be allowed. So instead, the feminazis came to the rescue, to keep NPCs minds captive. They decided to blame their favorite target in the whole world: White Straight Males - even for GAY sex!

But they decided to handle the gay angle by ignoring it completely. Instead, they tried to make Ashley Judd the face of everything. Never mind that she was a prostitute who willingly did what she did to rise to fame! But from there, it became about spiteful and vindictive feminazis who'd viciously destroyed men's lives, often with lies, in the past, seeking validation for the harm they'd caused.

They sought to use this hijacking of the movement in order to tell the world that it was their "right" to cry wolf and destroy the innocent, and that they were the "real" victims because "he looked at me funny one time!"

This had the effect, however, of trivializing actual rape. Women who'd survived guns pointed down their throats by bald, burly, black home invaders felt violated all over again, as these Hollywood hens insisted that Joe Cowboy was the rapist instead, for looking at her funny, with the blackmail that she had to blame him and not the actual attacker, because she'd be "racist" to acknowledge who really did it!

Because the content of individual character was no longer allowed to matter. One look at his skin was all that mattered. And if you tell them otherwise, they dye their hair again and scream more nonsense at you - then try to get you banned from being able to use MasterCard.

So it went from catching pedos, to crucifying Weinstein (who probably deserved it), to a baseless and idiotic attack on all WSMs, being committed by NPCs with Technicolor hair. All with the premise that:

- All rapes are straight (because acknowledging gay rape is "homophobic")
- All rapists are male (because acknowledging female rapists is "sexist")
- And all rape victims are female (because it'd be "sexist" and "homophobic" to acknowledge anything else.)

Opening up men to being able to talk, rather than having the clowns scream at them and shout them out and shut them down to defend the ideology of idiots, may be one small antidote to Clown World.

lightbulb27 · Answer

For sure, men are being abused. Men are less likely to expose these things, or seek help than women.. we bury our feelings and don't feel good looking vulnerable and weak. Men are also emotionally abused by women!

I'll #MetooMen I was emotionally abused at work by a female boss. I've been emotionally abused by GF's and men more than once.

Guess what... nobody cares:) The thought right there was, oh that's sad.. but suck it up!! you;re a man! Men look like wussies when we express emotional abuse. We can support one another and men will support one another,, but in society it doesn't look so good. Men that fall aprt on the battle line, they used to get executed! Kinda like the linebacker who is crying on the field because they tackled him behind the line of scrimmage... men are trained different, our purpose is sacraficial for the social group and our family.

That's a difference male and female... maybe I'm wrong, that's how it appears and feels...:)

So ladies, enjoy your me too movement, you deserve freedom from oppression (in a Godly spiritual sense) and to be treated as the special gifts you are by men. I don't think you should be destroying most of those men, but retraining them... that's the flaw. But anyways, those men should NOT be abusing you and taking advantage of you, but being MEN... leading, directing in a positive direction for you both, honoring your... value, not abusing you like low animals, even if that is how you feel.

:)

Anonymous · Answer

The biggest problem men face with respect to rape is not rape itself, but false accusations of rape and sexual assault, and virtually unanimous denial among women about the scope of that problem.

False accusations are a much bigger problem than most people realize. The issue is that the official statistics about false accusations are based only on accusations that are proven to be false, and the vast majority of false accusations are never proven to be false so they never make it into the statistics.

The reason for that is most rape cases are simply dropped when there is not enough evidence to formally charge the accused, and naturally the majority of false accusations fall into that category. Law enforcement will almost never pursue those cases any further to prove the accusations were false for two reasons. First, they don't have the time or resources to do it. And second, it is usually almost impossible to prove an accusation was false. So as a result, there are thousands of false accusations every year that never get documented as such.

This is the most prevalent problem men face with respect to rape, sexual assault and harassment. And of course the prevalent attitude toward any man who tries to raise awareness to the problem is to call him an Incel or something similar, and to simply dismiss it.

So, do we need to extend the MeToo movement to men? I don't know. In a sense what is needed is protection for men FROM the MeToo movement, since we know it has been used as a platform to falsely accuse some men. Ultimately what is needed is some honesty about the facts behind false accusations and to raise awareness about it and change people's biases toward it. I'm not sure what the best answer is.

By the way, I do not mean to dismiss the issue of men who are raped. That is obviously a serious problem that also typically gets dismissed and makes men feel they cannot come forward when they have been victimized. But I do not believe the MeToo movement is the right vehicle for that since it is obviously very gynocentric, like anything related to feminism, and biased against men by its very nature.

David_Kek · Answer

I didn't answer the poll, because it's a ridiculous question, and i don't say that of questions often.

If the feminist man hating bullshit called Me Too got applied to men as well (assuming we're talking of men who've had some woman touch their leg like 20 years ago), that would be the same day people would stop caring.

The truth is playing the victim is in women's interest, and society like women who play the victim card. The victim card for men however is not only not in their interest, it's too their detriment. Men who cry for help get less of it at all than those that don't, because society does not like men who play the victim, because that is not men's job.
For every violent crime that happens to a woman, there's like 100 more than happen to men, and yet societies priority is still dealing with that one against the women, because that is our roles. Men shovel the shit, and women subordinately nurture said top 10-20% of men top of their male hierarchy. And that's how it is.

Alice2398 · Answer

YES!! I was talking about this the other day actually because one of the other female Co worker I have and ones in the past behaviour.

I was getting a lift from her and she told me and her ex fuck bubby / Co worker but this new guy, they went uni with as well. She wanted to fuck him basically and she doesn't understand why he didn't get her singles, apparently she made massive hints by "GRABBING HIS BUTT" and inviting him to her flat. She even told him she wanted to fuck him and apparently he said nothing. She probably made him feel uncomfortable. She thinks she so hot any man would shag her. If that was the other way around that would almost be classed as sexual harassment. She's been checking him out as well and talking really disrespectful about him and her ex fuck bubby by objectifying them, telling me personal sexual details about them. I don't want to know personally and this girl claims to be a feminist.

She braggs about sleeping with over 28 men most after drunk nights out, god knows what she really got up too. She also very touchy, feel with men and she has a boyfriend yet talks about wanting to fuck others constantly.

The girl is a real creep and I know way to many other girls like this and worse. a lot of my male friends have told me about past abusive relationships they've been in to and it all seems a little to commom unfortunately.

a lot of women seem to think treating men like crap is female empowerment but it's really not women and men should both treat each other equal with respect. I wish men weren't so afraid of speaking up and shaming these women out of being shut down and to ashamed because of the stigma of male abuse victims.

Anonymous · Answer

The metoo movement just needs to go away because it’s ultimately going to do more harm
than good for both men AND women. While it has rightfully called out sexual predators like Harvey Weinstein and other POS’s it has been abused.

But what is this doing to our culture? Well first off many guys including myself are more paranoid about being assertive with women romantically. Since merely making a woman uncomfortable with verbal innuendos is metoo worthy... we might hold back with women who WANT us to flirt with them. Also having sex is much more dangerous. Especially if we don’t know the person very well.

But let me explain an unintended consequences. I’m a landlord and I’m trying to rent out one of my rooms. I had a 22 yr old girl reach out to me about it via a CL ad. I’m in my mid 30s and the other tenant is a 28 yr old guy. We all live in the same house.

So say I moved this girl in here, respected boundaries and she did something to piss me off (didn’t pay rent, smoked in the house, brought over multiple guests with no notice, etc) and I had to ask her to leave. She could easily make up a false story that I “assaulted her” and some metoo crap. The chances of that are very slim but not impossible.

Long story short I don’t want to rent to women because of this new threat. Five years ago I probably could care less. But the last thing I want is a false/exaggerated accusation. Some women have no morals/conscience when it come to that crap. And I know I’m not the only guy who feels this way. Male managers are now more uncomfortable working with women.

Darknut · Answer

Me too should have never happened. It's stupid... let me explain.. sure there there are cases where something dramatic happened. That's a whole different ballpark. What I am referring to and what I observe with this whole me too business is, men and women both get involved and are ok with another (comfortable enough to be having sex etc.) Some artfifical trouble all own their own happens to disrupt the relationship and suddenly there's a breakup or some kind of first world personal problem and suddenly all those times up to that point of having sex isn't ok. Nevermind the fact you were willing everytime and participated... hmm. The whole thing is blown out of proportion. Then before you know just like with any other fad, everyone jumps on the bandwagon. Meanwhile, a guy minding his own business and being successful now. letting the past be where it may probably regretting and feeling guilty all on his own is faced with this mess. They need to set a time constraint on how long the reporting can be. Messing a persons by getting wind of them and their success... and messing life up later on because they are doing good for themselves isn't right at all.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

They probably aren't listening to the guys anyway, lol. Its only MeToo for the male if a Female Teacher has underage sex with a male student, and he's probably not going to feel like a victim either. The law will say he's a victim even though the vast majority of males will say how lucky he is.

Back to being serious, there have been some men that have been innocent of any Sexual Predatory Behavior, but because it was MeToo others went along with the false accusations. Their careers were ruined at the time. I don't know how they're doing at the moment.

I doubt the Male Rape thing for the most part since a woman is probably not going to be able to overpower a man into sex.

Guys can't win with the MeToo thing.

Bananaman177 · Answer

If you want to watch all your support dry up and see all your allies turn against you, just try to advocate for men's rights and men's issues.

This is what caused so many women to become radical anti-feminists in the first place, they started saying, "hey, men need help too, men are suffering too," and they got fucking SLAMMED for it.

The_White_Queen · Answer

Yes but it should also be extended to the victims of Pakistani rape gangs. It seems these victims are largely ignored by #METOO because they are working class white girls and the perpetrator are Muslim Pakistanis, it wouldn't be PC.

Girther10 · Answer

Not just “no” , but hellno. Men don’t have the same problem of being sexually assaulted, but afraid to report it. There’s no widespread problem oof men being overpowered and assaulted, then being shamed into not wanting to report it. That’s ludicrous.
Why start a copycat movement for something that’s not a recognized problem in our society? Especially when the first #metoo was quickly bastardized and turned into an all out assault on law abiding men everywhere. “Believe all women” turns our justice system on its head. The removal of due process is the problem. The Left , as usual, took a good idea and pushed it to the extreme, as demonstrated vividly in the Kavanaugh confirmation by House Democrats last year. It was a mob ruled assault on an innocent man, #metoo the leading weapon. Sen Horono of Hawaii screeched “ just believe all women you men need to just shutup,” in the beginning of the hearings.
It was a scary time in DC that week. Especially for white men.

megaman242 · Answer

It's is for men also, it knows no gender. Same with femenism, its for the good of all and that means also for men. Why can't father's stay at home with the kids? Why don't fathers get the kid of the mother is terrible, why is there no changing stations in men's room? Stuff like this.

Ripper_E · Answer

All movements are stupid.
Take Feminism. It is all about equality, fairness, and justice for everyone. It us turned into equality ONLY for women and ONLY at their own convenience.
Black Lives Matter. A movement bringing awareness to racial profiling. Just because someone is black doesn't mean they are a criminal or that their life has any less value. It is turned into a movement full of idiots who either believe only Black lives matter, no others, or dumb asses that perpetuate their own stereotype, further giving others a reason to dislike them and judge them.

Imbeciles ruin everything

crazy8000 · Answer

In some countries is it from the start 😉

You should only know how much sexual harassment female's do towards men little everywhere, even towards police officers and nightclub guards that they have to ignore due to what they was doing when it happened.
If I should be honest it haven't really changed anything directly and the creator of the movement got in trouble with the justice system because she did do what shi was against and some other stuff. here I live people doesn't even care anymore about the movement since majority of people no matter gender doesn't do that and doesn't accept that behavior.

Cruciatusdeatheater · Answer

It already has been extended to males. It’s for everyone. My personal opinion as to why many men don’t join in is because it infringes on their masculinity. That, and it’s strange being the one attacked you know? Most rape cases are done by men. Imagine being the prey instead of the predator? That’s just the way I see it. I don’t have that sort of trauma on my back, but the trauma that I do carry has always been kinda hard to speak up about just because of this pressure that there is on males and speaking up about their feelings or any sort of trauma they may have encountered. For instance, you also thought that it already wasn’t extended to men, the same way most men don’t feel like they’re permitted to speak up about things.

Mädchen · Answer

It's called Me too not She too. They were never left out and some famous men have spoken about their experiences with harassment. But I think there should be a lot more done to give male victims a voice.

SkipStop · Answer

There is a #MenToo movement trying to gain traction in Australia and spread to other places. Of course there should be a movement for men because men get assaulted almost as much as women do. And they are often attacked for speaking out about it. That's proof that feminism and #metoo is a misandric / anti-male movement. Courts and universities are sexist against men.

lyssagirl · Answer

Of course it should be. Maybe even a little more than women. Only about 10% of male sexual assault victims come forward. We as a society can do better

Account · Answer

Yes. I've known a guy who was raped and he was terrified even admitting it. It took a while to get him to open up about that. He even felt really guilty for no reason.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't mind, actually. All my life I had not needed any 'organisation' to stand up on behalf of myself.
If others want it - fine with me; I don't need to listen to what they yowl about.
I am under the impression that the Meetwo thing is already open to men.
Personally, I don't give it any further attention: It has been misused so often, that it has no bite left.

ronaldo75 · Answer

#metoo has ignored two main groups.

1 - Men who try to report sexual assault
2 - Women who have been sexually assaulted by other women.

THe reason being that #metoo was about extending women's victim cards after feminism had such a bad year in 2017 and continuing the idea that all men are pieces of shit.

Bman4907 · Answer

the #metoo movement should have stopped awhile ago for the simple reason it's become a bullshit witch hunt. Yes, it helped in the beginning, however now anyone with an axe to grind, can make a story and destroy a guy's life.

snappysierra · Answer

even tho statics say that women face it more its not fair to leave men out just because its "not common" We need to stop abuse period. Abuse is Abuse no matter gender or relationship status.

There are sadly shelters that won't help abused victims just because of the relationship status of the person. They only help its a "ex lover or spouse" Family members like parents and grandparents can abuse there adult children its not common but it does happen.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Well it wouldn't work. In fact It'd do more harm than good. Because few men will admit to being sexually assaulted; especially by a woman. They'd be seen as weak. And as a result it would give credence to those that don't believe men get sexually assaulted and further make men out as even more the disgusting beings we apparently are due to skewed statistical studies. And yes, many women don't report sexual assault either, but I think it would be far less reported by men.

xkildy · Answer

No matter the good something can bring there will always be those who will use that system to abuse rights and have there way cause they know the system they know how to word and how to make it look like it was another's idea.. it's a world lies and hardships

peachybaby · Answer

The me too movement started out good but now it’s making it harder for victims to believed and women are being hired less for fear of them spreading things that aren’t true (which happens more than you think). At this point it’s only causing harm and I wish it never existed in the first place even as someone who is a victim. It did help people come forward but it’s destroying credibility.

Randomawkwardness · Answer

Yes and it is. It's not #justwomen, its #metoo. There isn't even a gender pronoun in it and transgender people from both sides use it as well as lgbt. There isn't anything that say men can't, some are just jerks and use it sarcastically or to mock others

Juxtapose · Answer

No, us men are too good to falsely accuse you women for our own personal gain. #metoo is objectively trash, nothing but a witch hunt.

_SOARER_ · Answer

Why dont men start protecting women again? there wouldn't be a #MeToo movement.
There was a time when rape/molestation was not as prevalent, when men would protect the women in their family.

Nowadays fathers and brothers throw their daughters and sisters into harms way. Its despicable.

Men should have #ProtectWomen Movement. #MeToo for me is just pathetic and gay.

Boppy · Answer

Let's also extend it to all children. That's something that I thought would be mentioned in regards to Hollywood, but it never gained traction.

madamina · Answer

Men are treated even worse in a day to day situation.

raurman · Answer

I think it's a double edge sword for men bc won wan to always act like the victim "metoo" but on the news u will see women will finesse the system to get what they want

Robertcw · Answer

Yeah but it would be entirely different. On twitter I see stuff like: 'I get no matches on Tinder'

...

Metoo.
MeToo
metoo
yep
metoo
...
#MeToo

Funny stuff. I am realizing it's the pretty boys who have feminine faces or are 6'2-6'4 or are student-athletes (who aren't ugly) who are the ones living the way girls think is normal for most everyone.

But it isn't actually. So that would be the male 'metoo' tbh.

Adam1978 · Answer

No me too is a horrible way of hanging out people without a justice system having a say. It's modern witch hunting. That men should use such dirty methods is something I don't want to see.

selfdestruction · Answer

More Men are assaulted and raped than you’d think. They’re just not believed or are afraid to come forward

Edanurus · Answer

I disagree with #metoo as it seems to be too focused on historical abuse, which I'm sorry to say is all but unprovable.

We need a system to catch perpetrators before they can do more damage, not after they've had decades to create more victims, metoo will never achieve that.

Shellyworld · Answer

Men can get raped too. So equality rights are the best

Papi-Daddy · Answer

I mean yes but honestly it doesn't show the same impact

AuroraRoseat · Answer

It is. Though it is majorly about how women are harassed, men should feel comfortable to come out and say that they too have been harassed. It is for anyone that has suffered this.

coachTanthony · Answer

If it's used as a weapon against us... I surely don't want to be included in it!

suzysuzy · Answer

Of course. It should include anyone who's been a victim to some form of sexual assualt.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

But... no one is even talking about me too anymore...

empressK1 · Answer

The movement is not just about rape;its about rape, assualt and cat callimg i have never heard of a girl cat calling let alone making it dangerous for a guy to have to fear their life even if thry are going for a simple jog not once have i heard of a little boy being over-sexualized for just being a boy unless its pedophilia 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️👏🏽

Anonymous · Answer

Depends.. Are women ready to have their careers, reputations and livelihoods ruined by uncorroborated allegations from decades past? I suspect not.

NickiB · Answer

Yes.  All movements should not segregate a sex, race, religion or orientation.

Kaylei2006 · Answer

100%, a guy friend was abused by a oldr men, but he's straight, him liking it and wanting it, really messed him up :( it's not ur fault if it felt good and didn't know it was wrong.

chriscdi · Answer

if we all look back to how society used to be and we compare it to now, society is fucked up now, remember when feminism was just when women wanted equal rights? it was a short period but it was there, they used that to attack men too lol

Anonymous · Answer

This world is not just all about females. Hello... Anybody home? Males also get some mistreatment every now and then. Don't make the movement into some kind of egocentric narrow-minded exclusive male-hating thing. The main point about justice, not about revenge towards men.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Yes, because contrary to what people think, men are capable of being victims of sexual assault and don't like it.

YHL6965 · Answer

No because it's useless, it's only words in the air and there are no actual actions being done to help people. What we need is concrete solutions, not another fancy movement that accomplishes nothing.

Guanfei · Answer

It should be. But it should be from the beginning. Now it's too late, since it has already been used against men.
And if you tried to include men there, feminists would go bananas. I mean, more than they already are.

ALastStand · Answer

I have wanted to say this ever since the movement became a thing: No Evidence is ever shown (no offense) there are various ones that are real.

BIGGESTD39 · Answer

All though it left definitely for woman we are apart of this as father's and supporters family so yes I think so

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I wasn't aware it wasn't for men too. I thought it was a vehicle for all victims of sexual advances/harrasment to put thier stories forward.

tara987 · Answer

Many women disapprove of the movement because it means women have been abused and mistreated by some men since the beginning of time.

OfDeath · Answer

No. Men don't need this media driven politically correct bullshit.

BrotherFrost · Answer

I am going to get a lot of downvotes, but i say kill the movement and let the law enforcement do their thing. No matter are you male, female, black, white or purple, you still need evidence for your claims.

GreatnessBack · Answer

I thought it already was. I heard men were voicing their victimization at the hands of women and other men.

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