Who do you think is happier - men or women?

[MzAsh]

Who do you think is generally happier in life, women or men and why?

Men

Women

[GlitterFairy16]

Id probably say 50/50. Man and women bouth have things in their life that could bring them down.

I think women are lot better at masking when were depressed as we've grew up being told to smile all the time and that no one likes a sad girl. We have so much pressure on us to be prefect and to put other happiness before are own and to just ignore are sadness because we want people to think we are always happy and have a great life and if we do cry were called over emotional, miserable bitch etc or were just on are periods and that we shouldn't be sad because we have it easy being a girl and all we need to do is smile and look pretty and everything will be fine even if being pretty means we get sexually harassed and that we should be flattered men find us attractive.

Obviously i can't speak for a man but i feel they also have issues with depression that's only just getting talked about because men have the pressure of coming off as if they are in control in hard times and if they show emotions they are a pussy or weak. If men fail they can sometimes feel lost and as if they have nothing else to live for. They need to be confident, successful, attractive, rich etc to meet up with societies standards on what they define a real man to be.

Even though men have only recently started speaking out about male depression, i feel no matter how hard the media tries to spout out body positively towards women woman will always be deeply better life and judged on their looks no matter and i can also see a reverse towards what happened to men being told they have to be strong, confident, successful etc is known being pushed on young women too.

[GlitterFairy16]

Deeply sexualize*

[CubsterShura]

Women. We never had more bullshit to deal with now than ever before in the history. No matter who you are and what you do and like... Everything from your mannerisms and style to political beliefs, people have a problem with everything. Go get a higher education and become a badass boss babe, people will tell you that you are not womanly enough and too hard-headed. Go get a husband and become a SAHM of your lovely kids, people will tell you how backdated and useless you are for sitting at home and not contributing to the economy. Wear casual clothes and be more relaxed in your speech and mannerisms, people will tell you that you're unladylike and uncouth. Dress in feminine preppy dresses and follow all the rules and etiquette, now you're too stiff and pretentious. Have right-wing political beliefs and you're now stereotyped as some uneducated trad thot, be left-wing and now you're the pink-haired raging feminist SJW of the Alphabet community. Where the fuck will women go then?

Not to mention the heavy objectifying of women all over the media which has been linked to women having a bunch of issues like sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, eating disorders etc.

[jsincal]

It’s hard to tell, and here’s why:

1.) depressed people can display smiles normal and can hide their real inner emotions.

2.) glasses covering the eyes, as well as the potential crowd feet, and other facial features aren’t really fully given, so its hard to determine if the smile is fake or real.

3.) most communication is non-verbal, so it’s hard to determine their body language since Is just the image of the face.

4.) if this was a pose, then we know the body language and emotions are an act. Which tells you a lie. It’s bette to get an image when couples are off guard, which also requires a baseline of what is normal in their body language, to determine what isn’t normal (good or bad)

[blank_expression]

Not sure but women said they were miserable under the “patriarchy” dictatorship, but now that they are free and independent working their asses off to burn the candle now at both ends. According to studies their happiness has dropped relative to men’s that has stayed flat. Apparently, women’s happiness is lower now than it was in the oppressing 50s homemaker enslavement. But they are slamming down more booze to compensate according to more studies to stay happy. One woman that they were citing was slamming down a bottle of wine a night. However, of course according to you, feminism is the Holy Grail even though it is a homosexual movement. Did I just walk into the vagina monologues Mz. Rod Serling?

[Julietchicago]

And how do you know their unhappiness is caused by Independence? How do you know it's not caused by the rise in promiscuousness by men? With the internet, men have way more options now and choose not to settle down until later in life.

[blank_expression]

@Julietchicago “How do you know it's not caused by the rise in promiscuousness by men?” it certainly is a factor. As soon as women were unchained from the marriage-homemaker-relationship-hell, they turned massively promiscuous because feminism said sex is the same for women and they were cut free from the monogamous bondage and by the way take this pill once a day. As soon as women were cut loose, they found that they enjoyed banging everything, well men simply became addicted to that lifestyle, and now men have also become independent. With both came an explosion of promiscuousness and the men don’t even have to deal with relationships anymore to get sex. And so rip relationships. Women continue to say they don’t need men, so women should also free themselves from that relationship want/desire illness that lingers. That would increase women’s happiness tremendously.

[Hunter7754]

@Julietchicago Men are not only not choosing to settle down later in life, many of them are rejecting marriage outright.

[Julietchicago]

and so you are blaming women for wanting the same perks as a man has? The same sexual freedom? Men cheated on their wives in the 1950s 60s and so on and some of them beat up their wives and the cops didn't care, so the cases were never reported.
So, I'm sorry that feminism is so evil that it freed women from the ball and chain of marriage as you say. what it really did was give women a choice. Now that they make their own money, they don't have to settle for any guy with money who they are not even attracted to.
and what are these 1950s done saying women were happier back then? And he was even conducting the study? Women didn't even have a voice back then, the ones who were abused weren't even allowed to express that they were unhappy

[blank_expression]

@Julietchicago Not completely true! You no longer have a choice because your only path now is to obtain those degrees and get that shining empowering career to earn and survive mostly on your own—government supplemental of course. The marriage, ltr, so, entrapment and enslavement part is being eliminated. There was more choice before feminism as there were famous accomplished women prior. Feminism, just removed the homemaker, marriage, ltr, slave-ship option. In the end, this bantering back and forth makes no difference since it appears you are satisfied and happy with the current state of dating and relationships and are willing to fall on your indoctrination sword.

[Julietchicago]

@blank_expression what accomplishments were women allowed before feminism? Not much. you aren't even allowed to work in high positions, they had to create woman positions in Banks which were low tier. Plus women were denied higher education. my IQ is extremely high, so what you're saying is that I should just waste my brain and stay home and cook dinners when I could be using it to further my education and help society.
you act like women have absolutely no choice but to pursue education. That's false. There are plenty of women who are satisfied with just being homemakers. That option is still available

[SheHulk420]

Men, because of the stigma. They can't be openly emotional without judgement like women can, they are deemed as weak if they ask for help we aren't, your girl friend comes to you crying and upset, you help them and support them, a lot of guys just get told to man up and get on with it which is why suicide rates are so high. It's getting better as time goes on, but not enough. Guys have emotions exactly the same as girls, they have just been made to think it's not ok to show them. And that's why it's harder to be a man.

[Inbox]

There's more to it than that, but it's good start!

[rjroy3]

Depends how we're defining happiness. I know women live longer on average and part of that is associated to longterm happiness/friendships. Women tend to have more friends so you could argue for that reason women are happier, due to the larger emotional support system.

In terms of life fulfillment due to accomplishment i would say men tend to rank higher there, because we're more likely to sacrifice other areas of our lives to get there, including social.

Don't really see a fair way to assess one way or the other on this one.

[Apope16]

As a man i get cat called snd sexually harrased. I've had female coworkers slap my butt snd humiliate me. Its not just women. And just think of catholic boys abused. They dont have a solidarity if metoo. Men suffer alone.

Thats the whole crux. Men in society are not allowes to cry. even women disrespect guys who cry. We as men face the stress of making money or our love leaving us. Women cone for the spoils, dont care for the suffered journey.

[nella965]

I don’t think either gender are happier in life. But I think life is easier as a man than a woman.

Less pressure to look good, more respected at work, easier to join the corporate boys club, you can have kids longer so less pressure to settle in your 30s, men even make more money than women. No need to care for babies or do housework while juggling full time jobs. And of course pads / tampons / skincare is expensive.

[Catlover1999]

The suicide rate among men is much higher than women, there’s more homeless men than women, more men in prison, etc.

[Hepy82]

Male suicide rates in the UK are higher than females in almost all age ranges by at least 30%. With 45-49 year olds, being most at risk.

On that logic, women are happier.

[Broken_doll]

and have you considered the percentage of people who actually commit suicide? It's pretty low. My guess would be lower than 15%. Which means the majority of people do not commit suicide, so how can you compare a generalized question with a minority group?
also more women attempt suicide than men, they just don't succeed because they pick less lethal methods due to fear of how their body will look

[Bluemax]

If we were to go on depression diagnoses and antidepressant prescription stats, then women by almost a factor of two.

However, this doesn't reflect that men generally don't seek help for depression with as much frequency as women.

So I don't know. Of the people i know, it seems split evenly.

[Anonymous]

I worked with women in the office and have women in the family and I'm sorry but y'all knit pick over the smallest and dumbest shit, y'all gossip about others and those girls or women who broke up with a guy or divorced a man or a guy are fairly bitter to. I'm not saying all women and girls are like this but even with professors or teachers that I've had for some reason female educational instructors were way more uptight then male teachers or professors, I don't get why. For me, I like to joke around, watch comedy movies, play basketball, worry about real things like religion and politics. I don't want to mope around. I know girls and women who have a "girls night" only to talk shit about them the same night or the next day. I mean have girls/women seen feminists today or even LGBTQ female supporters, like geez they are some of the most hard headed people I have encountered and I don't even say anything I just listen to their tone of voice and its annoying.

[Unit1]

Women are happier in general.
I need only one thing to prove it.
Check the suicide rates between men and women. Men commit suicide 4 times as often as women: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/suicide.shtml#part_154969

[Goodwifie]

Do you think it's because they use much more violent and effective methods?
A friend of mine tried overdosing on paracetamol and survived because she was rushed to hospital and had her stomach pumped.

[Unit1]

@Goodwifie Generally speaking if men are going to do it, they'll do it right. Basically it's an influencing factor but my primary point stands still - happy people do not commit suicide.

[Hunter7754]

@Goodwifie When women attempt suicide, its usually a cry for help.

Men that commit suicide pretty much have hit rock bottom and dont really think its worth it to try and get help. Thats probably why they use more violent methods.

[Anonymous]

Men have learnt to repress emotions more than women. It means that they've learned not to feel, which is good to a certain extent, but they can be more frustrated and depressed when they feel and don't express. If women express their emotions more, they might enter an uncontrollable loop of emotions. In that case, they would enjoy life less. But if they relieve their emotions more, they would enjoy life more. I guess that in general women enjoy life more, but suffer more intensely than men. Men don't enjoy life as much, but they don't suffer at such a high intensity. It's more like a quiet suffering.

[Sir_Diamond_Nipples]

It's interesting and predictable to see that each gender thinks that the other is happier. The grass is always greener on the other side. But I voted men as a man because I think a lot of guys are more relaxed and careless than girls. A lot of females have a very strong motherly sense and care a lot about others which can be quite hard similar to how doctors have such high suicide rates. Although some men too like myself have a strong motherly nature.

[FatherJack]

Depends on where you live too , in 1st world Western countries , women are held in far higher regard than men & have greater support networks , also the suicide rates for each gender are quite telling too , males being several times higher , so in the 1st World , women happier overall , my own teen daughter exclaimed..." Even with period pains & cramps , I am still glad I was not born a boy !! "

[genericname85]

Your question just tickeled my curious, so i quickly ran a mean calculation for the data of the european social survey from 2019

the mean reported life satisfaction is as followed:
men: 6,87
women: 6,76

so men at least in Europe are ever so slightly more happy. i don't have access to global survey data right now though.

either way. live satisfaction usually correlates very strongly with measures of happyness, so i would say that's a fair assessment.

[Dali-chan]

Men. Imagine not worrying about being sexually harassed or catcalled, being payed more, and being easily able to date someone better looking than you? The paradise lol. ( we all know that you see more pretty women with average men than the opposite)

[Hunter7754]

Men and women are different lol.. Do you really expect them to make the exact same amount of money to a tee? Also I've seen a lot of women that aren't that great but land really great looking men. For the most part, the men that date women more attractive than them are men with high status and/or a lot of money.

Also as far as the sexual harassment goes and catcalling, none of those are okay. With that being said, these days sexual harassment/catcalling are just thrown around recklessly. You can get charged with sexual harassment for something as dumb as telling a 'thats what she said' joke in the breakroom at work.

TL;DR, men don't have it easier, we just complain less because we know nobody else cares.

[Dali-chan]

À man have a bigger chance to be raped than to be charged with false accusations. Only 230 out of every 1,000 sexual assaults are reported to police. That means about 3 out of 4 go unreported, cause women aren’t taken seriously

[youknowbetter]

Being sexually harassed is bullshit. But at least you are attractive to the person whether they are a scumbag or not.

If your not attractive you might not be sexually harassed but you are for a hard life when it comes to dating. Women tend to be voluntarily single vs men when all else is equal.

[mistixs]

"Easily able to date" I wouldn't say that is true for most men

[MzAsh]

Being attractive isn’t nearly as important as being respected.

[youknowbetter]

I agree with the respected part

[EABsTUQ]

I agree although happiness stems from a lot of reasons that aren't gender based. And to be spiritual, happiness comes from within sooo... yeah

[captain_voidwalker]

I'd say the order of happiness goes like this
1 single men
2 married women
3 divorced women
4 single women
5 men in short term or casual relationships
6 women in short term or casual relationships
7 single women
8 older single women
9 nickels
And dead last for happiness is married men

[mikebeckers]

I'd like to be a counterexample to 1

[captain_voidwalker]

Always a few outliers, also #9 is supposed to be incels not nickels damn auto correct

[mikebeckers]

How do single women have 2 ranks?

[captain_voidwalker]

Whoops number 7 is supposed to be fat single women

[RetroN]

That’s bullshit according to many and various studies - single women are the happiest and married men are the happiest

[captain_voidwalker]

According to observable reality you are very wrong

[loveslongnails]

I think men are - they compartmentalize more easily, can rationalize and justify ANYTHING, and have no trouble being willfully ignorant. LOL Women don't seem to compartmentalize well, but they can certainly do the rest. I just think men do it more often and with zero guilt, unlike women.

[1Anon]

I guess generally speaking, men would most likely be happier than women but only marginally. Both have their insecurities at times but I think that as women are more prone to negativity via media etc, they’re more likely to be less happy.

[Johnsmith119]

@1Anon A lot of men including me are mentally very depressed and sad because of the career/job/family related issues and also, being the leader of the family while going somewhere and taking care of them from other bad guys really sucks if you know what I mean, I am not saying our life is harder, I know women physically goes through a lot of pain but our life is nevertheless hard.

[1Anon]

@Johnsmith119 Oh I don’t doubt that a lot of guys are in such situations and that’s why I said marginally. A lot of people underestimate just how much guys go through and have to endure on a daily basis. I know exactly what you mean because I’m in a very similar situation to you.

[Johnsmith119]

@1Anon Ah I see. I am sorry I didn't read that properly haha definitely you are right! And Oh! Thank you so much for understanding me but I am sorry to hear that you are going through similar situation.

[Rei02]

Men because they don't complicate themselves too much like women. Women complain about almost everything, even when things go as they plan and/or want.

[Jack9949]

Yooo that’s exactly what I said!

[sensible27]

Woman are more emotional and that sometimes means being on both extremes. The saddest people I know might be girls and the happiest too, some men/boys do outdo it sometimes but that seems more like a exception vs the rules type scenario...

[sensible27]

Happy people are sometimes reluctant and that is how you might be able to explain the poll.

[BlueScorpio]

Just happy in general or in different areas of life such as finances, romance, mental health etc?

That's hard to tell these day and it's an individual thing. There's plenty of people who are happy and there's plenty of people who aren't.