Leaving Job/Crush in 2 Days - How to Tell Him I Like Him Before I Go?

[Geochemmiegirl]

I temped at this job for a few months. My assignment ends in 2 days. I really like this guy at work. I'll never see him again. There is no fraternizing at this company; no one talks. It's all work. One of those big companies that's laying people off, everyone walks around on edge - there's no socializing opportunity whatsoever. People don't say more than hello. He seems to be doing all the body language things and giving out every non-verbal cue that he is interested. But there is just no way if he WERE interested, for him to let me know. How do I let him know before I go? Do I? I feel that there is mutual potential, but at the same time he won't make a move; it must come from me. Should I tell him I am interested, and if so how? Speaking seems to be out. Etiquette: Note? E-mail? Anything? Someone help! Please. Do not want to seem weird or pushy. Shy. Time is Running Out :o(

[Blake26]

Well, there isn't a lot I can say here, you already have some pretty good answers. Definitely leave a note, that would do just fine. Just have something small written on it, nothing big. Just say something small like "wanted to give you this =)", "here's where you can find me!" (wink, wink) "I'd like to hang out with you sometime", or the great answers the others have given. Whatever floats your cheerios. Just be sure to leave a number. That's a wonderful way to do it. It takes the pressure off of you and puts the ball in his court. If he's interested, he'll act on it. If not then he won't and you've done all you can so don't worry about it and move on. Despite thinking that the odds are against you, they're actually pretty good. You don't have any pressure on you at all. Hope it works, good luck!

[Geochemmiegirl]

Thank you so much Blake26. All your thoughts have run through my mind and you and the others are so nice to take the time to write such insighful and very helpful answers... I so appreciate it .. thanks again ... very much ...

[Blake26]

You're so welcome, glad I could help. It's so nice to help someone out who is so appreciative and respectful. I should be the one thanking you!

[Geochemmiegirl]

Again Blake26, You are the one who is so kind. I just noticed your age and could not believe such wisdom and respect and compassion to a stranger, came from one so young. My mystery man should only be as understanding and wise as you are and if he isn't - then I was wrong about him. You are far above your years. Thank you so much right back.

[Blake26]

Thank you, it was a pleasure. =)

[Atomizer]

Perfect timing!

I was in a similar situation once, and you're in a great position!

Simply ask him out. I suggest face-to-face, but if that's not an option, do an email.

Be honest with him, but not too over the top. Something like:

"I'm leaving in two days, and I've wanted to talk to you for while, and I'd kick myself if I didn't ask you out for a drink before I leave." Suggest a time and place where you could meet for a drink after work, or a place for lunch or whatever.

If he's interested, he'll jump at the chance.

If he's not interested, you don't have to worry about seeing him and feeling embarrassed for more than a few days.

Go for it!

[Geochemmiegirl]

Aromizer thank you so much 4 your quick response! I agree instinctively, but e-mail @work there is scrutinized (on second thought) so I think my only option is 2 leave a note! Face 2 face is out @at this Big-Brother type place. I do think note is the only option! I'm just going to do it. You R so right. So I'll be embarrassed for a few days - thanks so much. Do you agree on leaving a note? Please weigh in - of you have a moment and THANK you so much again for being my very 1st response :o)

[Geochemmiegirl]

Sorry Atomizer for misspelling your name... :o) I am a horrid typist!

[Atomizer]

You're welcome, and I think a note is good, but be sure to give him your phone number!

I can be _extremely_ shy, but remember this:

The risk of NOT asking him is greater than the risk of asking him.

If you ask and he's not interested/unavailable, you'll know very quickly and be disappointed for a while. But at least you had the courage to try.

But if you DON'T ask him, you'll wonder "what if?" for months.

Save yourself months of what if and go for it.

[Geochemmiegirl]

Thank you even more now .. you hit it on the nail .. I will wonder for months .. will let all know how it turns out and I can only hope he will be as understanding as all you guys have been this evening .. TY again - my appreciation for your answers to a stranger is beyond appreciated :o)

[Atomizer]

If it's not too late, I thought it'd be fun to make the note like one 12-year-old would use:

"You you want to get a drink after work? Check one box: YES__ NO___"

It might appeal to his sense of humor...

[Geochemmiegirl]

Atomizer I need your advice. Starting to chicken out. 2day @work, (we are not in same dept) he just kept walking past me and staring really hard trying to make eye contact, & as I'm 2 shy, I just kept lookiing down each time. Then he goes into his office and closes the door, which he never does. Then he left early. 1 could say he really likes me or he really doesnt. Getting scared but I really want to do this. E-mail there is checked. Face to face scary. Still note? Help, Atomizer:o(

[JimPossible2009]

Hey, I have had several friends in this delimma and have seen both positive results and rejection occur in different cases. Based on what I have seen, I recommend that you don't tell him while you are working there. You both have had reservations about letting the other know, so take this thing completely out of the work place. You should resist the urge to say something during your last two days and wait. Make sure you have his number and email address and when you start at your new job, send him an email telling him about your job and ask him out to lunch. This method will allow you to find out if he likes you and you will both be free to express yourselves outside of the office environment. Hope this helps.=)

[Geochemmiegirl]

Hi Jimpossible2009,

Thank You so much. Now U've got me hesitating when everyone else says do it. I don't have his #; it wasn't like that-it's such a Big-Brother co., that I don't think e-mail is approp. & I think would put him at ill-ease. My only optn. is to not say anything, but leave a note with my # right before I leave. Not Good? PLEASE weigh on on this? D-Day is day after tomorrow. We didn't even get close enough to talk about #'s so emailing is weird. All he does is stare and bump.

[JimPossible2009]

How come you can't get/use his work number? Why do you care about the company seeing your email if you are leaving? A note will work, but someone might see it too. Why such secrecy? Are one of you married or both? Be honest.

[gettinittogether]

Yes. Leave a note. Write something like, "You caught my eye", then you're name and number. Or, "This place is boring" then name and number. Don't mention anything to him about you leaving on the note, that may sound desperate, and he'll know when you're gone. But write what you feel like writing, I suggest just keeping it as short as possible though. Just my suggestion, (I would love to get a note with your name and number on it). This also is not weird or pushy at all. If he calls, it's on. If he doesn't, then it's his loss.

You also have NOTHING TO LOSE here. If you'd like to approach him and chat, I'd go for it. What are they going to do? Fire you? You'll be done in two days anyway.

But good luck in whatever you decide to do!

[Geochemmiegirl]

Nothing to lose; I need to remember that and will take your advice about keeping it short. Gettinittogether I really thank you and the others for taking the time, and such detailed and helpful answers .. will let you all know how it goes and I will do it and then move on but at least I'll know one way or the other. Thank you so much again ...