Neither. Grass is always greener. Both sides have unique issues, that the other side will never fully understand.
But overall it depends what you value and what time period you live in. Lets go with Modern Day men and Women in the United States. Because the last 60 years or so is really the only time in history when it has actually been a debate. In the past hands down men had it easier. But these days things are not so simple.
Trying to be as unbiased as I can as a straight white man in his 30's.
MEN
Pros -
Not giving birth, pee wherever I want, socially accepteable to sleep with many women, physically stronger, taken more seriously, not expected to cook and clean, not having to worry about being raped or overpowered by men. Given positions of power, making decisions, more trusted and reliable to others. Easier to move up in the work environment. Male friendships are very strong, and reliable. You can be an ugly fat man with money, and still get hot women.
Cons -
No one is going to help you, the success or failure of you and your wife/kids is on you. Your value is dependent on how much money you make, and what type of job you have. Don't get the option to be a "housewife", expected to do all the dirty shitty work that women don't want to do, not allowed to show weakness or emotion by either sex. Have to protect anyone close to you, no one to really protect you. Expected to pay for basically everything, especially when dating. Fucked over in divorce, and not able to see their children as much. People might try to fight.
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WOMEN
Pros -
Coddled by society, Job or money does not matter to men, people go out of their way to help you, allowed to display emotion and be violent without being deemed as a threat, Free stuff from men, reduced criminal charges. Benefit greatly from divorce and custody of children. Able to pick and choose mates, don't have to approach. Placed in some jobs and education just because of their sex.
Cons -
Have to physically give birth. Judged mostly on your looks, youth, and ability to produce children. Viewed as a slut if you sleep with a lot of men. In fear of rape and murder by more violent and sexually aggressive men. Not allowed to have an abortion in some states. Not taken as seriously, viewed as weak. Female friendships seem to be very fragile and not very loyal compared to mens friendships.
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I think we both have things we have to deal w that are difficult. I canāt speak for women because Iāll never be one so I will never know that feeling. I will say that for us as men we tend to have more dangerous jobs, more likely to die before our partner, no real place for men to go for help as far as shelters, we donāt have a testicular cancer month to my knowledge like breast cancer awareness month. Even if there is itās not promoted as much as the breast cancer. Iām expected to be strong, to never cry which I have not done is almost 22 years, very disheartening to hold in all your emotions. Iām expected to take care of the yard work, huge yard, fix the car, fix anything else that breaks. Trust me Iād rather be inside washing the dishes and cleaning up than outside where it reaches triple digits in the summer. Iām expected to solve all problems, I canāt hit a girl back in self-defense cause Iām a chauvinistic pig. I've spent 8 years in the military, even more so there I was expected to be a hardcore, no emotions war machine in an infantry u it. I was exited to do more, to score perfect scores on my fitness test w less time as opposed to the women who were given more time because they were āsofter,ā more body fat, not as fast or muscular. I also worked in the prison system for a while, about 4 years. Male prisons no joke, men beat up n raped, beat up just for being in the wrong place. The women werenāt so violent, theyāre more about family, as far as two women (mother n father) n their ākids (other female inmates). I raised my daughter on my own for a number of years cause her mom decided she wanted to cheat on me and leave, wasnāt really hard, just tiring. I donāt know if women think they have it harder cause a lot of them breakdown and cry or what whereas most men I know who want to just kick the shit out of something n blow up just keep going like I do. Canāt tell you how many times Iād love to just blow up especially at work in the medical field which is dominated by women. A lot of them are always on their phone, some breakdown and cry, talking about men and how theyāre scum lol I have issues like that too but I do what I need to do. And maybe thatās cause as children men and women were raised different, I was always told to be quite stop crying youāre a boy, boys donāt cry. Whereas my three sisters were hugged and cuddled by everyone when they got hurt and started crying. I donāt know just my life experience, this isnāt a rant either on how I hate women or whatever someone may think. Trust me I love me some women lol
This shouldnāt even be a question. WOMEN HAVE IT HARDER ALL AROUND THE WORLD. Im studying gender and sociology and yes women have it harder because we live in a patriarchal system. If you are a cishet white man congrats you are accepted, privileged and liked by everyone. Black men and men of colour have it much worse than white men but women have it THE WORST. no body autonomy, canāt walk alone or right get killed or raped. The men on here are sooo threatened by this question because they know the answer is women have it hard. Women carry a baby for nine months and delivers it and guess whoās name the baby gets? the fathers because heās the man. women have it harder because I've experience street harassment everyday since I was 13. Im a survivor of SA from my guy friends and they got away with it. Living a mans life at least in this world is more easier than a woman. millions of women are Sexualized and abused. 1 in 5 women have experienced rape in their lifetime. I know more than 6 who have. if you have any questions just feel free to ask me about this just dont reply with bullshit.
So women have periods (worst pain ever), i've never given birth and that's probably 100% worst than periods, we have to be perfect/pretty all the time or we get treated poorly, most women are competitive (want to be the most beautiful, smart, etc), we get bullied by jealous girls and also guys (if looking a little ugly), also more emotional and a lot more sensitive to peoples comments. Guys treat you like shit if you're ugly, most of the time.
Men have to work their bums off because most people see them as the breadwinners. They have to be more independent because people expect them to provide and protect their woman or children. They have to hide their emotions more, even when depressed can't really show it or they'll get judged. Sometimes they're abused by their wives but they can't seek help because they'll get laughed at.
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This question is one of those "grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" issues. Girls are intimately familiar with every difficulty they face but they can't possibly appreciate, in the same way, the problems that confront men. Therefore, girls think that guys have it easier.
And, conversely, men are aware of every little thing that challenges them in their lives, but don't really understand all of the problems in women's lives, so they think women have easier lives.
But. . . suppose we could actually answer this question in a meaningful way, and decided that women have easier lives. Does that mean that every woman in my life owes me $5? Does it mean that I am going to become a woman (which would be physically impossible and nothing that I would ever choose to do)?
I think the most helpful answer to the question is that none of us truly appreciate the problems of the other gender and we should all cut each other a little slack, jack! No you don't. Women have intrinsic worth. All you have to do is be born and be pretty and you get a free ride. Most men have to work hard and make something of themselves to have any worth. A woman can be broke, live with her parents, and basically do nothing and men will still deal with them. A man cannot do that no matter how good looking he is. He has to either be worth something or be headed on an upward trajectory. And if he can't pull it off and ends up broke, there's a nice tent in LA waiting for him. That's life. You really want the pressure of always having to work, get better and succeed with basically no breaks?
Oh and if you do get married and have a family, you get to be the least valued member of that family, somewhere behind the dog. But you still have to support it, that is expected. Mother's day hits, and your wife gets flowers, jewelry, are doted on, and plenty of attention. You cannot get a restaurant reservation on Mother's Day. Father's Day? What a joke. You get a bottle of 'Aqua-velva' and maybe a Happy Father's Day. The restaurants are empty and nobody cares. But, it's the one day where you get to watch sports, but all that's on is baseball, which is cool, but that's it.
Then, if your wife dies first, all her work, her friends and friends of their friends, your tax accountant, your real-estate broker, the people who did her nails, her hairdresser; everybody shows up and it's a huge deal. The kids are crying and mourning, the whole family is upset, people you didn't know are there offering condolences, it's a whole big thing.
But when you finally die as a man, half your family cannot make it to the funeral because their garden needs tending or some multivarried reasons people won't come; so there are like 5 people there including the funeral director and priest. Maybe your wife is there, maybe she's off with her new boyfriend. One of your kids will show, the others are too busy. They dump your carcass in the ground and are forgotten about almost immediately. The only good news, is that it's finally over. The ingratitude, lack of empathy, and the overall apathy about your existence is finally over and the only major concern is divvying up the remaining assets.
Does that sound fun to you? That's what you really want? I seriously, seriously doubt it.
Why don't you try being a man? Find some pictures of an average dude, even a cute guy. Put some picks on tinder or where ever, make up a bio you know women would like and see what happens. Try to be that guy for a week or two, then see if you still want to be a man after that.I mean having babies, periods, pms-ing, menstrual cycles, the fear of getting raped if she's walking alone at night in an empty parking lot or wherever, inequality based on gender for jobs and others things, receiving unsolicited dick pics through DM's on social media, men with old school thinking that a wife should cook/clean for him like a servant , the constant need to look perfect through the media's standards... As a guy I understand through the things I listed it's not easy being a woman.
However, women are more likely to be helped if she's hurt and in need (i. e: if her car broke down), a woman being verbally or physically abusive to her boyfriend or husband in public even would be far less likely to be approached and told to stop it by strangers, women are more likely to be trusted as public school teachers, day care centres employees, baby sitters. Women can be short and be demonized by the public's perception of being "short" and a much different story would be said if a guy were short. Women can enhance their breasts to look more voluptuous and women can make money off their body more than men. Women get courted farrrrr more in the dating game.
Men have huge responsibilities to, the size of a guys dick is categorized, the size of your manhood in terms of your mental male fortitude, being the bread winner, fixing things around the house, being the protector, being a girl dad but also teaching his son as a father should, getting rejected far more often with girls, people tend to give a shit less about a guys feelings and hence why men tend to be higher for suicide rates around the world, we have to deal with major stress of girls/women and the ups and downs it brings, more men have to deal with baldness, getting kicked in the balls or the fears of being castrated, men are more likely to beat up in situations and not helped (unless police/an ambulance are around)
At the same time guys/men don't have to worry about getting pregnant, men tend to get paid more, have higher positions, guys can usually get away with getting home late with his parents... I don't know what else really the positives are? I feel like women have more benefits besides the money/job thing.This is a very huge discussion which could lead to war but its a very relevant question. I think that both gender has its own problems and up sides as well. Like women have been oppressed for years in society and when men are expected to be some way. Both can have a hard and difficult life according to the circumstances of their lives. But in the age and era we live in, I think Women have higher chances of having an easier life.
Now I am not trying to be sexist or something, but nowadays People expect so much more from men than from women. Men are expected to follow the path of security, to have a job that would guarantee food and shelter, doesn't matter if you are happy at the job or not. Women are at some point still allowed to pursue their own job or study of their choice. And when men want to settle down, they need to have money, respect, job and almost everything possible. Not to mention, when women are insulted or shamed about something, people will fight for them. No fat shaming, gender shaming, etc, but when a man is fat shamed or something, they are automatically expected to accept it and shut up.
This is just my opinion, again, not being sexist but just telling what I think.In my view. Having anything easier entails ability to get your way/get what you want from others, or society at large.
As a general rule in most cases it is easier for a woman to get her way than a man in most situations. There's simply more situations girls get preferential treatment. So in that way they have it easier.
Girls do have their own problems that men don't face but those problems generally don't stop them from getting their way as far as getting what you want without infringing on other people's rights.
Some girls would say guys have it easier because in some situations some get respect that's harder to achieve for a girl and because girls don't get the same level of respect that's "harder".
To me that's silly. We're all better off when we simply accept some things come easier, some things come harder, understand that and make your move without complaining about it.
I don't complain about the cards I've been dealt and won't bang the drums of whoa is me per my situation. There are pros and cons. Similarly I really don't bother to feel sympathy for others in this regard.
Because most who do really are just harping on areas they don't have an advantage, seek to change that, while maintaining the advantages they do have.So you want to be a man? You've got a death wish. Be very careful what you wish for.
Men commit suicide 3 to 4 times as often as women do on top of having a shorter lifespan. That alone speaks for everything.
And don't think for a second, that we got lots of women messaging us "Hey, how's it going? :)" on the regular.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences_in_suicide
https://ourworldindata.org/grapher/male-and-female-suicide-rate?country=JPN~GBR
https://www.publichealth.va.gov/epidemiology/studies/gender-differences-suicide-risk.asp
https://ourworldindata.org/suicide#suicide-by-genderI think it's a tie it doesn't really matter now days it's difficult for everybody it depends on where they start out in life and to where there are right now and it's not how hard life is it's how you make it better by making the right choices you always going to fall down but it's how we get back up the counts I said is both equal in so many different ways and with each individual it's hard it's so many different ways I think a single mother with no help from the father has it way harder and at the same time I seen some single mothers with kids without receiving one penny from their father who make it their goal to teach their kids how to be a strong parent and woman to teach your kids who to be and what is made out of I doing all the right positive things
That all depends really.
Men die younger.
Child support is a thing generally only men need to pay.
Men are far more likely to lose their children in a divorce.
Physical violence is a more common experience for men.
If there's a risky or dangerous situation, men are always called upon to act first.
Likewise in a similar situation, women are given priority over men to be allowed to leave first. Example: women/children first from the Titanic. Or a hostage negotiation, which always priorities women/children.
And so on. Despite all that I still think men have it easier in general, but I don't know for how much longer.Biologically, men have it easier. Stronger bodies, no periods, no pregnancy, lower rates of IBS and Alzheimerāsā¦ unfortunately men are just built better in my opinion.
Societally, it depends on what facet of life youāre talking about. Men climb the corporate ladder more easily, women arenāt expected to in the first place. Women get raped more frequently than men, but male victims are treated worse than female victims. You also have to consider intersectionality. Black men are worse off than black women, poor men are worse off than poor women, gay men are worse off than lesbians, etc. On the flip side, men with privilege seem to have more power than women with privilege. Iād say the best way to summarize it would be that male gender identity is polarizing. You either win the lottery or youāre fucked. Female gender identity will make for a consistently shittier life experience, but it wonāt be as shitty as an unlucky manās life.For sure men. Think about it. Little girls are given fake babies and fake vacuums in order to manipulate us into thinking that is a woman's rule later on life. Also, periods suck ass. Most women hate women so you have that to deal with. We also have to compete not only with women but other men who are bi or gay trying to score a straight man, it happened to me. Babies and giving birth sound horrible! Getting fat and ruining your body, hell no. Let's look at the amount of $ we spend to look good. Then there's sex, we hold that power but have to suppress those desires so we can have a boyfriend. It sucks ass and is not fair. If we sleep with a man too soon he may end up leaving and not seeing us as girlfriend material so you have to deny your sexual urges.
I also don't want to come back a woman. I've learned to accept it and embrace it.I used to be so jealous of women and thought they had it so easy. I mean if there was one walkway and a woman was coming, I have to let her come through first. One cab and a lady was there, I'd let her have it. One chair, I'd let her sit. She can slap me and get away with it. I can't even smack her.
Talk about working just to make her smile. From daughter to wife... always the receiver.
But then I thought about sex and saw what she gives up. Personally I don't like being poked by anything but women would spread apart their world and take a man's dick that only God knows where it has been and let him insert it into her for love sake. Since I thought this way, nI respected them. And also I found other things they do and how they make life a lot more enjoyable. As for me I love that I am a man.Women!! NO DOUBT ABOUT IT!!!
WHY would you want to be a man in your next life? it's BORING AS FUCK!!! Big deal, we have a dick!! Do you know how hard it is for us to get a girl to make use of it?
How could you POSSIBLY have it any better than what you have now? Men hold doors open for you, constantly compliment you, do things for you, help you as much as possible, you get ladies night, lower prices on all sorts of things, people cherish you and idolize you, you're gorgeous, sexy, you can get sex ANY time you want it, and you have such fun things on your body to play with, you can make babies, you can feed them with your body, you can use ANY bathroom you want, you get to see other girls naked any time you go into a locker room, and to top it all off, women have half the money and ALL the pussy!!! What more could you want? TRUST ME, there's NOTHING to see, here!!!
Oh, look!! I have a dick!! Now what?Each has their trials and tribulations, challenges and failures. They're just different for each gender.
Just do your best and be your best, and do what you do in your life for YOU, not anyone else. Focus on what YOU can do for yourself, where you can improve, how you can make yourself proud and happy. Accomplishments are what fulfill. No one else can MAKE you happy. You have to do that. And when you do, they you MIGHT be in a place in your life to share it with someone special. Until then, you have to do the work. You have to EARN your place, what you get. No one is going to hand you anything, and you deserve nothing. You get what you get for the work and effort you put in, just like everybody else.I believe each has problems on their own as a whole. Women will argue that they have fear of being raped on a walk on the street, but the chances of that happening are pretty slim, it's the same paranoia about men being scared of false accusations, and men have fear also walking alone on the street, of being robbed. But women have it worse in domestic violence.
Men have it worse when it comes to violence overall, but one might argue that men who die this way were "asking for it" since they tend to be gang criminals.
Either way, there's no way to know it.It might be different for everyone, but in my opinion it's easier to be a woman. I like being a woman and I feel like I wouldn't like being a man. Men are usually expected to be the tough ones who don't cry and don't feel self conscious, as well as expected to be the providers and supporters in pretty much every situation. Not to mention the fact that if a man hits a woman even if it's in self defense, he's considered a bad guy. Or if a man gets raped or assaulted by a woman, he's considered a "pussy" or a "coward" even if he was drugged up or the woman was stronger. That's just why I think being a lady is easier. Women definitely have their struggles so that's why I think it depends on the person.
Being a man is ideal. A man can do whatever he needs to survive. A woman will need a man during hard times to get by.
You will get these women who think what a man can do, they can do better. In a world that is made easy for them like it is now, and they can say stuff like this. Put them in real situations where it takes strength and agility to survive very hostile men, and it becomes clear there are things men are better than women, and vice versa. Tilted to where a man could be left on a deserted island and make it for decades.
Right now it would look like women have it better because so many things are just given to women. They can act like a man right now. At least while they have other men protecting them.People think too politically when it comes to this question. This is down to individual experience, a boy or girl born into dire poverty with two abusive parents and no one in their life but emotional, physical, and financial suffering from day one will of course have it harder than a boy or girl that is born into a family with a silver spoon in their mouth, etc. All comes down to unique individual experience in life, you can't just dismiss someone's suffering because of their gender, that's stupid
It depends on where they live. There are a lot of places in the world where women are still discriminated against and treated badly. Women definitely have it harder in those places.
But in western countries like the US and western Europe men have it harder today. Modern western women are the most privileged and entitled class of humans in the history of the species. But most are still stuck in a very gynocentric mindset that only allows them to see the world through a female-biased lens, and thus they do not have the ability to see the challenges and injustices men face in the West.It is difficult for everyone. Life isn't easy for anybody. Problems don't see the gender. Sometimes women have different kind of problems then men but that doesn't mean men don't have problems. It's like they don't usually show that much but they do suffer.
Neither really, however women have some very obvious call outs that make it harder,
sexualisation, rape, harassment, I would challenge a guy to be a woman for a night out in a city over the summer, thatās when you see whatās difficult and issues faced.
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