Do you believe spanking children is an outdated way of discipline? (Page 2)

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I’ve heard some people talking about the biological effects that getting spanked as a kid can give children and effect them I adult hood. I’ll be quoting some information from articles talking about the effects of spanking on children’s brains. ^ Please tell me what you think about it/share your experience of being spanked as a child and if you believe it’s effected you in adulthood. spanking elicits a similar response in children’s brains to more threatening experiences like sexual abuse. Those consequences potentially affect the brain in areas often engaged in emotional regulation and threat detection, so that children can respond quickly to threats in the environment. Spanking kids can make them susceptible to later on in life being physically abused by a partner and or spouse since spanking can give children the wrong impression of what love is. (Most parents tell their kids they spank them cause they love them; it normalizes toxic relationships)  Preschool and school age children — and even adults — [who have been] spanked are more likely to develop anxiety and depression disorders or have more difficulties engaging positively in schools and skills of regulation, which we know are necessary to be successful in educational settings Many studies have shown that physical punishment — including spanking, hitting and other means of causing pain — can lead to increased aggression, antisocial behavior, physical injury and mental health problems for children. Americans’ acceptance of physical punishment has declined since the 1960s, yet surveys show that two-thirds of Americans still approve of parents spanking their kids. Sources ;

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Yeah it's outdated in my opinion. I got the belt from my parents. if I had kids, I'd never do that. No spanking, no belt, none of that stuff. Much rather calmly use my words explaining what is right and wrong when they do something bad.

WowwGirl · Answer

It's beyond outdated and can cause major mental health damage. It's considered child abuse in some states and should be in all

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I was spanked and I turned out just fine but then again I didn’t get spanked a lot because I generally didn’t do bad things and when I did get spanked it wasn’t hard and my parents didn’t get carried away like other parents do but I’m not going to spank my kids though

Surely · Answer

I believe in spanking for discipline but not to point of abuse.
I also believe that if you teach a child NO at an early age and show them love and kindness along with teaching responsibility and respect then the discipline may not be needed later in life.
But I do think that we need to bring back public whipping or caneing for repeat offenders that normal punishment doesn’t deter.

LoveIsFake · Answer

Yup, also you might make your kid develop a spank fetish 😂 it's better to use a chancla. I got wooped with cable cords and thorn branches 😃 that didn't work either. My advice is make them do something they don't like to do. Make them read and write poems, then take away snacks and make them eat veggies for the whole day. Then get rid of any intertainment systems, then make him take a cold shower.

Anonymous · Answer

Spanking will (and should) always have its place in the discipline of some children. There is no question it can be harmful if done in the wrong way or misused, but for some children it is the only way to get their attention and get though to them, and the benefit for certain children in certain circumstances far outweighs any possible harm.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

If you look at who is raising children today, you would say spanking is not a reliable source of discipline, just saying. They’re a lot of middle aged brats in this world.

Belgie · Answer

I don't have kids and haven't studied the research so I don't have a fixed opinion. I've never seen my niece or nephews hit and they are fine loving well behaved kids.

Hypnos0929 · Answer

As a main source of discipline? Absolutely. Too many people have a moving goal post as to what is and isn't discipline and what is and isn't abuse. I've straight up heard "As long as it doesn't put them in the hospital or leave a bruise then it's okay" which basically translates to "If there is no evidence that I can't downplay then I'm okay.".

Anonymous · Answer

Personally, I think hitting children is not a good discipline. It's an old method, but it can make a really big mark on a child's brain. Punishment is a better discipline. For example, take something from him for one day / three days / week. I think it is more careful and after that the child will not have such emotional problems.
I agree with @Nazgol.

RedFever · Answer

It's assault, so yes, it's outdated (like so many other things we still believe and do).

najekim · Answer

IMHO, spanking for punishment should be brought back, including corporal punishment in schools, the hurt is a lesson of not doing whatever again. But spanking to injure is not cool.

I learned my lessons getting spanked and this no spanking way is from former crybabies who were never disciplined themselves.

Djaay · Answer

I absolutely know discipline , not abuse , does certainly motivate respect and good people spawn from it. Its also a commanded commandment from GOD himself through scripture. Those who have judgments against disapline more in likely need it themselfs. If two thirds people in America would have disaplined they're children as said believed , America wouldn't be in its sad ass state of affairs it is today.

Anonymous · Answer

I got plenty of spankings for most of my adolescence and I was better off for it! I was stubborn and hard headed, and was constantly on the edge of real trouble, and a red behind was about the only thing that got through to me! And considering the picture, yes, once I was a teenager and would laugh as mom spanked me, dad leaving rosey stripes across my bare ass was an excellent reason to not cut school for a few months at a time! That belt was probably the reason I didn't end up a teen Mom!

sagevalentineee · Answer

I'm definitely pro-discipline, children need it - however physical behaviour or shouting is not the way to go. Even when very young, children are smart, they don't need a physical reaction to know what they did is wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely, but the reason why children misbehave more in schools when corporal punishment is banned is not because of its absence, but because they are not only putting in more useful ones. People think that detention is no big deal, and some treat suspension like a reward. There is this one school with a meditation room where all misbehaving students get sent to and they saw that it actually works, students actually are more calm and behave better. This should become standard everywhere.

Rogue77 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with spanking a child, deservingly. (There is a huge difference between spanking and abuse, and I do not condone abuse, so don't even go down that road.)

exitseven · Answer

I never spanked my kid. I wanted them to grow up in a non violent environment. They all turned out to be responsible adults and neither of my boys grew up to be sissies.

Jakekk7634 · Answer

Lol my dad would beat the s hit out of me until i could not sit and i cried laying it bed because of the pain, Now im a fit healthy young stud and confident, Nothing is wrong with it

Goodwifie · Answer

I had to chase after my eldest child when we were out walking, he ran straight towards the road when a car was coming. Yes he got a smack on the bottom and no he never did it again.

Jigokushoujo · Answer

a single swat on the rear to get a child's attention can be an appropriate tool. corporal punishment is fairly useless and damaging to all parties involved. in my opinion. this is based on my personal experience as a child. I never trusted my Mother because of this. I would never trust anyone who could hit me like that, no matter what they claimed was their motivation. Like, "you're inflicting pain and fear on me, I do not believe a damn thing you say."

worldscolide · Answer

If it goes beyond your hand, it's abuse. If it's just your hand I'm OK with it..

And speaking as someone who was poth physically and sexually abused his entire childhood, I should no more about abuse than most.

Nazgol · Answer

It is. Violence is never the answer. I work in childcare and I can say there other techniques, like time outs and curfew or taking away a favorite toy. Those are much, much better

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but you need the kick of something like national service or military camps as a suitable alternative punishment option before you reach the teenagehood of the current rape culture that has reached near epidemic status and without extremely strong action to stamp it out

It will be just as bad as this present pandemic

Aether1 · Answer

My parents used the belt on me and I don't really care, I'm a nice and well mannered guy because of it. The thing is to not overdo it and don't use it for very minor infractions.

Darksign · Answer

I was a good child but I had ADHD so I always got my ass beat for just being myself. I will do it over and over again. I am non compliant regardless of the pain you cause me bc I don't think I did anything wrong. I never understood the point

hellacray · Answer

Nope.  Sometimes it's the only way to get through to them.  Obviously you shouldn't spank the child everytime they misbehave. But if they are being difficult then yeah I think spanking is fine.

DWornock · Answer

If they have an agenda, studies can show whatever those making the studies wish. It doesn't make the studies valid. Spanking teaches children to have proper behavior. That is especially true for children that don't respond to other disciplines.

msc545 · Answer

It isn't just outdated- in many places, it is defined as child abuse and it's illegal. Physical punishment results in anxiety, depression, and eventual defiance. It is the epitome of bullying and we all know what that results in.

OddBeMe · Answer

Funny how kids who spanked harshly go on to spank their kids harshly. Almost like abuse begets abuse.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

I watched one video about this, apparently depriving kids from good things is more humane, and NOT punishing them when they tell you the truth is better for building trust between the two of you.

little_rose · Answer

Yeah but honestly I don't spend much time about parenting cause I don't want kids Spanking sounds abusive even if the parents think they're doing right by their kids

Massageman · Answer

No. Every now and then, you need to get their attention- not debilitate them, or give them lasting harm, but just enough to wake them up a bit and get them to focus.

Notfabricated · Answer

After a certain age I think itis completely outdated. There are so many other ways to discipline your child then beating the ish out of them and having then misplace their love for you into something or someone else.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

By itself, it isn't. It's still an effective way to discipline children but only used as a last resort. What parent tend to do in the past is just to spank their children whenever they just feel like it which is an outdated way to use it.

karaspara · Answer

Spanking I think works bring out a belt and i'm coming for you

Kabluie · Answer

Yeah it is, and I say this with first hand experience. Timeouts and taking time away from things is way more powerful of a punishment.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No it’s horrendous and it’s not the physical pain but the emotional.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

I personally grown getting spank, while I may hate it I don't really see it as exactly awful but people go full blown overboard with it.

Medhat-M · Answer

I never found it acceptable.. Stuff like this is disturbing and inappropriate... If you had to physically punish your child there are safe and healthy ways to do that..

DaisyM23 · Answer

I’ve always thought spanking was a bit weird, I just got the regular smacking

Deathraider · Answer

I do think that is the case. I mean it shouldn’t even be controversial that beat your kids because they messed up is a acceptable way to raise your kids.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

It didn't work on me because I liked it too much even from a young age, and I plan on teaching my children to do the same no matter how old they are at the time, or how old they get.

Anonymous · Answer

No but it is more effective than “restorative justice” which results in no behavior control.

Caunsos · Answer

I be mean psychological effects and not biological effects. And yes it doesn't work. It cause a fear response which leads to a fears getting caught. You a guilt response to stop a behavior.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

for some variables, I’d say it proves ineffective. I’ll show you how to punish a child

loveslongnails · Answer

I'm not sure you learn anything from being spanked.

Anonymous · Answer

i don't think it does anything. what is physical harm going to do? besides make them scared of you...

Indiepop123 · Answer

I think its absolutely horrible and not acceptable EVER!!!

Barry88 · Answer

Yes, I think it is an outdated what of discipline. In my country, it's illegal to spank children.

Dargil · Answer

No, but I think "equipment" should not be used. Use your hand.

gtbandit · Answer

Spanking your child is an act of love. It's not gonna kill them.. actually might save their life one day.

nawtee_me · Answer

I was spanked as a child and I also spanked my kids. I am fine and so are they. As with any punishment you do not abuse it or the kids with it.

bananastandbae · Answer

If you think hitting children is okay, you should also be okay with adults hitting you when you do something they don't like.

lovetowatch · Answer

no children should be spanked not beaten but spanked for bad behavior we would have less crime and better people out there. People who have manners, respect their elders and each other

Anonymous · Answer

Adults dont get spanked when they commit crimes or do something bad. So why do you spank your kids? In Europe your kids will be taken away if you did thst

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes! If you leave them alone, they'll turn into a Millennials!!

_no_one_ · Answer

Kids are overly sensitive now, just shouting would be more than enough.

blondfrog · Answer

Yes there are way better ways to discipline your children like beating the shit out of them. Light them fire and boil them like a crab.

Juxtapose · Answer

Manipulating children without violence is child's play, so long as you are the one molding the child from the very beginning.

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