It is not entirely clear what you mean. In a comment you clarified that main means first move, but that doesn't correspond well to the image, so I will take it more broadly.
There are some stereotypes coming from biology. For evolutionary reasons, men are stronger, women are wired to appreciate that and want to experience that strength. This leads to women on average wanting to be a bit more submissive. That average then forms the societal consensus and some people object to the impact the consensus has, without being able to reject the preference individual men and women have. So there will probably always be the tendency to want to have men as dominant in some ways.
When it comes to making the first move, that is mostly tradition, but there is imho absolutely no reason to just stand around and wait for a man to approach you or ask you to do something. Women were always the one in charge of relationships and making sure things move forward is entirely valid. I prefer to have either equal or submissive partner and I want to be the one to decide most of the time, but I still like the idea of the woman making a move, both at the beginning and later on.
And also, a minority of men will be willing to flip the entire dynamic between the sexes on its head to an extent. Not to be completely submissive, but to interpret their position of the manly and strong person in the relationship as a loyal knight of a queen. She points the finger and he does what is asked of him to protect her and do all the heavy lifting for her. That allows to put the woman on a pedestal and make her the leader, without undermining the traditional roles completely. There is nothing in biology or evolution that completely contradicts that idea. Even my quiet and submissive ex used to be the one to constantly make demands and ask for help, all that would be needed is an official agreement that that is in fact the expected way of doing things and establish her as the one who has final word in case of disagreement. Your choice how you negotiate this with men.
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Because women are not the ones that usually take the lead. It's biology, not society
Because in the distant past, it was men who did this 97% of the time. Only 3% of females may have done this or did so against their will. NOW, it is literally 50/50 while slight calling in between. Now women today have no remorse for these behaviors because men have sadly always done it, and barely got caught. Men used to have the ability to take on other wives (which would have been polygamous relationships today married/unmarried), so what is happening is that once feminism hit, everything changed. It is men who haven't changed. Women began changing. So men were indeed the problem, and in a way they that promote these behaviors still are. It is just that women have become detrimental to themselves by allowing these behaviors by dating these men, and not holding these men accountable both in and out of marriage. Like nobody has any morals. Do I have to tell a 30+ woman what she needs to do if her boyfriend is acting up? Really? PEOPLE do not need to be dating if they do not have strong morals, principles, and standards. If anybody does anything in that picture, I have news for you people: You have no morals.
I love that image!!!
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I think what you mean is why society views women as the desired as opposed to the one who desires.
And despite what all those liberal sociologists say, it has nothing to do with society but human nature. Women are less visual than men when it comes to physical attraction and women don’t have as much testosterone as men do.Men are naturally driven to take risks, women tend to naturally be more cautious and reserved. That's just how it is.
This makes sense because it's usually men making the first move, and women carefully choosing a mate... among other obvious things we see and hear on a daily basis.Because people for more than millennia thought that men are just better than women. So they had no rights, are over-emotional, had no right to have opinions that people would agree on, it said that they were weaker than men, cannot lead, etc. History, societies, communities, and people of today made it this way.
Because historically, men took charge.
When we lived in caves, men went out to hunt and risk their lives so the women can eat.
When wars broke out, men went and fought so women can live.
If i have to ruin myself for my partner, she better do her part or im goneI think it greatly depends on where you live etc.
Also who you socialise with.
There is not really a ‘Main’ person in a relationship, it should be balanced.
often in some societies it’s not in anyway balanced.Because IRL girls usually don't make the first move. (That was based on your reasoning in the comments)
Because men take care of women, and women take care of children.
Because we aren't. A relationship is an equal partnership
That’s why women get half your stuff in a divorce. Because she’s “not the main person in a relationship”
Give it 20 years and you’ll understand. All these right to equal wages women will either be housewives or bitching about being single on here.
Men do nothing but commit but women fail to commit to anything long term.I feel that today a couple has an equal part of their relationship. Each of you may be stronger in some area's then the other. But it still evens out.
I refuse to be a prison b**** for anyone. I used to think this could be nice. Then I discovered my inner beast and realized I need to be unleashed
Because I don’t know but that is a funny picture and I think we should see more of women dominating relationships or whatever it is you’re trying to get at
Isn't it a common thing that women like it when their partner takes the lead? In a biological perspective it kinda makes sense since those who possess good leadership qualities tend to have greater access to resources.
Probably because women don't want to be the "main" one? Just take a look how many GAG blues would love it if the woman would do the first move.
Because it takes two to tango. I don't see men or women as the main person as the relationship. Both are needed for one
Hunter/Gatherer. Both have value bur which is more valuable? There's no equality in nature, there's difference.
Guys and girls definitely have different roles, but I see both genders as equally important.
If a woman dominates in that way I'm down. But I think it just naturally occurs cuz it's a typical personality of the two in the relationship
its not a society thing. its a biology thing. women are passive
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