what pretty privilege is: Pretty privilege works on the principle that people who are deemed more attractive—based on societal beauty standards—have an upper hand in the world and are afforded many opportunities that us regular folks don't have.
To a point, yes. But if one relies too much on that advantage they don't develop other necessary skills. And when they get older or have some kind of accident then their (perceived) beauty is gone.
Beauty is a potential trap for the possessor and the pursuer.
Beauty is also a test. To see if one becomes an arrogant jerk or if they have character and integrity and kindness... or not.
This is a very good point, and very true. I know of several women and a man whose identities seem to be pretty wrapped up in their looks, but their lives are a complete mess, as looks really only get people so far, especially if they have whacked out ways of thinking and doing things, or are just incredibly self absorbed. I know another woman who has used her looks and sexuality as a way to get what she wanted her entire life, but is now getting closer to 50 and beginning to lose her looks, and I sadly think she will be lost when she no longer has that to rely on. It's actually pretty sad.
Absolutely it’s a very ancient predilection in the human race. It goes back to hunter gatherer times. Many of our behaviors have been determined by the evolution of human society. It stems from breeding and females are and always have been in charge of that particular human need.
You need a certain modicum of physical attractiveness to experience this.
However the real 'secret sauce' of this 'privilege' is self confidence and grace/ graciousness.
So a woman who is a 7/10 physically may go to a 9/10 in terms of pretty privilege with that secret sauce.
A woman who is a 9/10 physically will go down to a 6/10 in terms of pretty privilege if she has no character, grace or charisma - and a 4-5/10 if she had a truly obnoxious attitude.
That said, a woman who is 1 or 2/10 physically will not be able to take advantage of pretty privilege, no matter how much confidence or charisma she has.
I'd say you basically need to be a minimum 4-5/10 physically to even have the possibility of experiencing pretty privilege. But if you are 4-5/10 physically, you need to have an amazing personality for the privilege to kick in. That is, you'll need to bump yourself up to a 7 or 8/10 in terms of pretty privilege.
Someone who has just an average confidence and personality will experience pretty privilege only if they are minimum 7/10 physically.
Yeah I think it exists. It happened to me. I took a karate class back when I was 18. There were only three girls in the class including me. Almost all the guys, even the sensei were into me and gave me special treatment. They were super nice and always trying to talk to me while they straight up ignored the other two girls. I remember this one time I was leaving and one of the guys held the door open for me and one of the girls was walking like five feet behind me and he didn't even hold the door for her he just let the door close in her face. I didn't like how the other girls were being ignored, like I wanted all of us to be treated the same. But dang that was such an ego boost though for me. I had like guys falling all over for me. It was a crazy experience.
that's kinda tough to know 100% if it's because you really are attractive or if it's cause your a 5 but the other two are a 1 and 2. If you don't think there is any logic to my point then play a video game like sports or anything with guns in it and turn on your mic and say hi... try it! lol
@crg253 😮 diss. Well I think I'm attractive. Even though I know you are trying to make a possible situation realistic. But I've never had issues finding dates, not to toot my own horn. But I just don't want to put myself down. I dont want to be one of those people who has zero self esteem and lets other people throw even more dirt on their none existent self esteem. I don't want to do that to myself So no sir I will not agree with you that I am a 5.
Yes of course, people treat you better when you look better. I have experienced this several times in my life and it has remained in my. The first time was when I was a child and I was unpopular and sometimes bullied by classmates. When I entered the early teen years, this changed and the same boys were treating me better. And then this happened later in my life too. I have been lucky to experience both, as my beauty is not exceptional and on same days I don't give to much attention to my appearance and some other days I try to look good. Appearance has a great impact on people and dressing good too. In the days that I'm feeling down I get my hair done and I try to make myself look good.
When I think about this topic this movie and this particular scene comes to my mind:
Definitely and I'm finally seeing it for myself. Back when I worked with all men I always got help and made friends easily with everyone. Now I work for a big company with many extremely beautiful woman manly eastern european women I can't compeat with not many people want to know me. I get some people talk to me but I don't have any close friends and the men that talk to me are either kind old men or desperate guys. There's one really beautiful polish girl at the company I'd say she's the prettiest girl in the company and she's really nice too and all the men flock to help her and she definitely knows she's the prettiest and loves it. Whenever I see her she's got a man following behind
@Bob0077 it's just the way they are. Some are total skip/ pick mes but straight men are just wired to be attracted to good looking woman and there's nothing bad about that.
Beauty comes in the form of the boots no 7 range.. Scrub it off and just the standard bog standard everyday normal looking person there's a reason we have models... Who are privileged because of their looks Then we have insta *models* who whine because they dont have a quarter of the beauty as real model does. there's comes from a tube.
Life is unfair, always has been always will be no point whinging.. Them being as they say fat has nothing to do with it.. Adele was fat ahe was successful, Sophie dahl was fat amd successful, beyonce though isn't fat is a bigger woman is successful... Maybe the girls that are whibing just have to realise there is absolutely nothing special about them, regardless of being fat or thin
It does to some extent. In the long run being part of the pretty privilege can be bad, because when that person is young they get a lot of guys interested without having to do much work. In the long run it can be bad since most of the guys would be interested in the looks rather than the personality. Often times when a privileged person who is prettier than everyone else dates long term or gets married they become high maintenance, high ego and don’t have the people skills and character for a good relationship. Often they don’t learn very quickly in relationships since they get what they want. A unprivileged girl has an easier time figuring out if a guy really likes her and has interest in marrying for personality and finding guys that want to get married rather than be used. It won't always be easy, but there's pros and cons from both sides of the spectrum. Some guys just like having someone who enjoys sports with them.
In Asia and South America I am considered very hot stuff. In the USA I am less than disgusting. Women trash me and run off in the name of freedom to be single moms, drunks and get married 3 times or more. It all depends where you are.
My friend, a very pretty Russian Girl, is Considered super model status in Korea. In Russia, she’s as average as hell. Exotic Phillipina chicks in the USA can often be considered fat, lazy slugs that nobody would come near in their home country.
I've seen it happen, dated a girl who was very pretty and could talk her way out of a 100mph speeding ticket, so long the officer was a man who liked women.
I can't talk myself out of a ticket going 1mph over the limit, but she could break the law all over the place and talk her way out of it.
She also got promoted at work (we were co-workers) way too fast, her knowledge and skills were lacking but she was so cute the managers promoted her into a job she had no clue how to do right.
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No. There is only White privelage. Not everyone can actually be bought over with prettiness.
plus prettiness is so subjective. I have higher standards than most so whatever is pretty to you will probably be a 5/6 to me. I mean for me to say someone is pretty they need to tick almost all the boxes that come under features which determine conventional beauty such as perfect teeth placement, strong maxilla, small jaw/v-shaped jaw, big almond shaped eyes, arched and high eyebrows, plump lips, flawless skin, thick hair, hourglass body... etc...
by your first sentence i personally think you aren't attractive and then i read more and I'm like shallow ummm unintelligent... mean... so now I'm actually thinking you're gonna make some old wealthy guy very unsatisfied someday gummin u down till he trades ya in for the newer year model! 💯🤣
It’s natural that if you look at something, find it cute, it calms and relaxes you, psychologically speaking you then equate it with positives even if they’re one sided positives you can begin to dote on the “pretty” in question and it will lead you to being kinder to them.
which is why people, no matter who they are or what they look like. Will always receive more positives if they’re smiling. People enjoy smiling. some have it naturally, others have to improve themselves through tasks to make their attractiveness increase.
of course it's real. No one said life was fair. It's a brutal existence for many. I've benefitted and also not from it. I notice a big difference if i go outside with a smile on my face vs if i'm just not feeling good that day. Close friends always had my back on that but strangers can be brutal. I had gotten 2 job promotions for my height though. But those were physical. Still better paying and full benefits though. And women seemed to like me more when I was calling the shots.
Of course it exists. Attractive men and women get away with a lot of stuff ugly folks can't. Attractive men can borderline sexually harass a woman and occasionally get away with it, ugly men can be rejected from across a room. When I was 16(?) I was a pretty fat kid (5'6 to 5'8 and around 180lbs or more). I asked my coworker if I had a chance with another coworker and she legitimately laughed at me. Like a hearty, punch to the gut laugh. Probably the worst experience I've ever had with any woman ever. She tried to play it off by saying she had a boyfriend but it was too late and I honestly think if I hadn't expected a no I would've cried my eyes out. I couldn't imagine her laughing at any other guy... so yeah I was pretty devoid of attractive privileged at that point
i get a lot of privilege, not from being handsome etc, as I’m not, but from my accent, showing respect, flirting, knowing how to ask and talk to someone.
I get good discounts on things, I get a table at a full restaurant, etc.
Those who are "deemed more attractive"? No, those who ARE attractive. Don't try to lie and pretend that beauty doesn't have an objective basis in nature, that it's all just what we've been conditioned by society to accept. Pretty priviledge - what a load of malarkey!
I think it can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, yes, attractive people receive better treatment in ways than less attractive ones, but on the other hand, they also get worse treatment from people who are jealous or resentful of them (I've seen this happen a million times, especially between women).
I know several pretty women who said the downside is that a lot of men think they are dumb asses. I don't know why men would equate beauty with being a bimbo.
@Bob0077 That may be true, I'm not entirely sure. I wouldn't know why, either! I think they probably have to sort through a lot of men who only want them for their looks when trying to find a serious partner.
And the problem is that these men will pretend to be their friends just so they can go out with them for their looks. If she finally discovers the truth she will be upset at all the time she wasted.
Absolutely, and I think it’s really obvious. I know I have experienced it many times, walking away from an interaction thinking “that would not have gone the way it did if I were less attractive.” or along those lines.
I have also given privilege to pretty people over unattractive people.
More like there's a spectrum from having zero positives to all the positives. An attractive person with a so/so personality is in the middle of the spectrum. A less attractive looking person with a better personality is higher on that scale when dealing with people who value more than looks. A fugly person with a bad tude is at the low end of the scale regardless of who they're dealing with.
Also -women get more mileage out of their looks because it's mostly some simping or simp catering men who are in positions to give rewards based on looks. You can see that in the legal system where a woman is way less likely to be convicted or do any time for the same crime a man will be convicted of and do hard time. Simply because she has boobs and a nice smile. It's cultural too tho & varies from country to country. Good luck getting an acting job just because you look good in the UK. It's commonplace in the U. S.
Yes, obviously. I also think there's kind of a positive feedback loop to it as well: People are more friendly to attractive people, which leads to attractive people being generally more confident and outgoing, and people are more friendly to confident and outgoing people.
I think it's time to bury the privilege card, we are not born equals and everything we do improve or decrease or odds in different things so life will never ever be fair. I think viewing thing as a privilege is a negative view. It's like it's a bad thing to be beautiful. It should not be. Not handling the perks of being beautiful in a good way is the only negative about it.
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