You need an option 3: if proven beyond a reasonable doubt they should be exposed.
Just a few months ago I found that the one “who I thought got away” actually cheated on me right before we broke up. We were on the rocks at the time so I wasn’t completely surprised she wanted to break up. I didn’t try to talk her out of it. But I never f*cking cheated on her (and I had several opportunities to as well).
It was HOW she treated me during and after the break up. We still had to communicate for business proposes. She treated me like a i was less than human. Couldn’t even address by my name. I definitely didn’t expect her to be nice but this was something much different. It was the feeling of being disavowed which is different than rejection.
Anyway I deduced that she had to self justify her bullshit by seeing me as less than human. The right thing would of been to confess it. I would of been pissed off but it would of been so much easier for me to move on after the initial shock. I could of looked at her as exactly as she is: a selfish piece of shit. But instead I spent years wallowing in regret thinking I was the one who sabotaged the relationship (I admit she put in much more effort than I did when we were together).
Anyway I wouldn’t want her to go to jail but I would like her bullshit to be exposed so her current and future bfs can know not to trust her.
I learned this the hard way. When your girl is cheating, she will try every possible way to break up with you by treating you bad but never admit to cheating. If she is treating you cold and blaming you for things, or making arguments for anything and everything, it’s highly likely she is cheating. Learned this from experience.
@GlassTop I had a serious issue come up a few weeks after she broke up with me. She literally told me “tough luck your an ex”. This absolutely devastated me for a very long time. I really thought she would of thought this through and maybe apologize (she actually over apologized when we dated) but never a word from her.
I trusted this girl 100% at the time. I accepted the break up (she set it up with other people around to make me look like the “bad guy”). But I really thought she wouldn’t do something so shitty.
Anyway the female ego can be more heinous than the male ego in many cases. Also women do reach out to other women who are dating their ex to “warn” them about this bullshit their ex did. But do guys ever do that? Of course we don’t. That would make us look absolutely pathetic.
Honestly I wish there was a way her current boyfriend (possible fiancé) could find about this. She deserves every inch of pain and discomfort trying to explain that bs to him.
If a spouse, then a few months in county, like 3 max. Enough to send a message. Adulterers in ancient cultures could be put to death for it. So by that standard, even I am being lenient.
Now, if no one in the incident is married, then jail for that reason alone is excessive. If the cheater's doing so somehow really had a bad impact, like negligence of a child they were supposed to watch led to a dead child, then slap the cuffs on. If it's something less but still damaging, maybe make them pay a fine. But make the cheating partner pay a fine as well. If Barry cheats on Carrie with Sherri, and doesn't answer the phone, doesn't tell Carrie something important, and Carrie gets fired because of it, then Barry and Sherri both get fined. And their offense remains on their permanent record. So any employer can find out that Sherri is a homewrecker.
No. Logically, it's an unrealistic punishment for poor choices made by both parties.
Wait, what? Both parties? Yeah. Cheaters are garbage and at their core they are selfish or cowardly, many of them can be diagnosed with narcissism, BPD or both; but that kind of behavior isn't created over night, they've been like that for years, behavior that was constantly overlooked until it was normalized. You chose and agreed to date/marry that person, thus going against whatever red flags you may have had in the beginning stages that were silenced by the benefit of the doubt, lust, and lies by him/her or to yourself.
The best punishment to any cheating ex is happily moving on.
No, but I wished that we had a system where every cheater would be displayed. That we could check beforehand if they had a history of cheating or not. That way, they would be avoided by the majority, leaving them alone.
Yes, that would be good too
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u The cost of prosecuting and imprisoning convicted cheaters would be prohibitive.
I’ve been cheated on. I know the feeling. It’s like heart death/murder. I can understand why the victims would want the cheater exposed and Jailed. I’d say no to jail because it would completely overwhelm the jail system and it wouldn’t serve a purpose because jail is for rehabilitation unless they commit crimes that should prevent them from entering normal society. I would say that cheating should terminate any spousal benefits or alimony upon divorce if proven, such as video/text/voice in a legal binding marriage. Then again, we do have prenups for that. STDs are so widespread, the courts can’t enforce it. I’d like to see cheaters pay a fine. It doesn’t make sense that defamation is highly lucrative and illegal but someone giving you an STD is no big deal. I personally would prefer government to not get involved with relationships at all. No marriage taxes or tax cuts. No benefits. Marriage is supposed to be between the couple. A religious ceremony. That’s just my opinion.
When you get into a relationship with someone that person puts his or her full trust into you. When you break that trust by cheating or manipulation or humiliation or dishonesty and disloyalty or divorce, that person needs to be punished severely for falsely loving a man or a woman and any type of relationship. Because when people cheat it leads to some severe thanks such as depression or suicide or mass and homicidal Revenge murder. Because that person has been with you while nobody else give the damn about that person and that hurts then cheats on the only person that actually cared about.
Yeah the act of cheating in itself should not be a crime, but I’m on board with lawsuits for STD transmission. Emotional abuse can be argued for many of aspects in friendship too, but it’s simply too hard to prove (and opens the door for all kinds of fake persecution and bullying, especially if someone has the money to sue). As long as a person wasn’t cheated out of money or their health, they should just dump the other person and be done with it.
@jahaims I agree with the STD policy. I mean emotional abuse can be argued in connection with that - it often is for other crimes like kidnapping.
But just for cheating? Some people feel emotionally abused for being dumped (instead of cheated on). So if I dump someone instead of cheating on them and they are upset they can sue me? I don't think that is a road I want to go down. Does this apply to friends who were lied to as well? Either way, people need to have some personal accountability for their relationships, otherwise, no one will be dating or befriending anyone because it's too risky.
@jahaims Yeah, from what I know "adultry" laws (and this is only in the case of marriage) aren't enforced anymore, so you'd have hard luck just punishing people for cheating alone. You can divorce them, however. If you have a prenup and lots of assets, you can get the last laugh that way? Lol.
No. Cheating isn't a crime but it's still awful and inconsiderate. Besides, if everyone who cheats is put in jail then prisons would be overloaded. We should reserve prison for people who commit actual crimes.
No, because cheating isn't really a crime. Do I agree that it is a very shitty thing to do and can cause a lot of heartbreak and possible diseases if it went that route? Yes, I do.
People who were cheated on should get tested and split up with their partner.
If you watched the true story movie "Tinder Swindler" you will understand why I voted YES.
Its just not about physical harm/damages for someone needs to be in jail in regards to cheating. The emotion, mental/psychological, social and financial aspect that damaged needs to be in consideration too.
Yea but his issue wasn’t really just cheating it was conning women out of money.
Lol yea but the average guy cheating on his girlfriend isn’t conning money out of other women in the side. That’s a whole other crime.
@annabananna exactly.
I remember studying that it used to be illegal here, but then people were accusing the other of cheating all the time to try and get divorces and send them to jail, when they hadn't actually cheated.
I vote no, cause there are many kinds of relationships now days, people living together, married man with one wife and other wives not married to, polyamorous relationships, open marriages, etc.
I'm Sorry , quite frankly its a ludicrous question , jails are not big enough , there is no such thing as " Cheating " in a free world , this is a Muslim hard line action , wouldn't work , can't work.. and just NOONE could afford to enter into any kind of relationship , let alone a marriage - CRAZY STUFF , LAUGHABLE , and the fact that someone 32 years of age is asking such a question is frightening itself.
Okay you see this is what I’m convinced I’ll never understand. Whether you get caught or not - why do you want to sleep with someone besides your partner? I don’t get it. It feels dirty and it complicates your relationship. If you’re into polygamy just be single.
Can I ask you a question
Could you date a great guy that only has a average penis size
You need a big dick energy, not a big dick.
Confidence and drive in your own life and dreams man.
First of all, there's technically nothing legally binding if we’re talking about boyfriend and girlfriend. Being girlfriend & boyfriend or any kind of non marital relationship is not legalized by any sort of document, so really cheating is only breaking a spoken commitment, which does not break any laws.
As for marriage, it is illegal to cheat on your spouse in 21 states which could result in jail time or a fine probably depending on how bad or how long it’s been going on.
As for me, if I was cheated on I wouldn’t want them arrested, I would just want both of us to move on and be happy. Cheating isn’t something that deserves jail time to me.
It speaks poor of someone’s character, but emotional damage hardly deserves massive punishment.
Why should our tax money go to keeping them locked up and feed? Besides first you must define cheating, is it only for married couples? Because that is the only people with a legal contract. I think cheating would void the contract and they have to pay a fee for breaking it. If you want a binding contract before marriage you have to get your partner to sign it, good luck with that.
Jail time should be an option for guys that do both abuse and cheating combined together... abuse comes in many forms: verbal, mental, physical, financial, etc... cheating can also cause the spread of bodily diseases as well... so in my opinion if a guy has cheated and abused he should pay the consequences...
now if a guy only cheated and was dishonest about it and gave the woman a disease then yes most definitely he should pay for it...
so overall yes cheaters should be charged or sued for any serious harm they cause
For only cheating, no. That is a relationship issue, not a taxpayer issues. Time wasted is unfortunate. As for STDs, there are already laws on the books when it comes to transferring an STD to a partner without them knowing beforehand. In some states it is a separate offense, in others it falls under some type of assault, assault with a deadly weapon, etc.
Some states actually do have laws on the books that can punish someone for cheating on their married partner.
But it's on the books as a class 4 misdemeanor in Virginia. That means it's in the lowest category of crimes. It can be left on your permanent criminal record. And has a max fine of 250 dollars.
So no jail time. But it will cost you money. But this is only for cheating in a married couple.
Not jail time but financial penalties or penalized material distribution of assets. I know a cheater who lost over 90% of his assets in a divorce when he was the only one in the marriage with a job.
Every man loses that to women even if she cheats. Good try though women enjoy special privilege in a biased against men court system.
No!
The idea of bringing the state into relationships and the bedroom is despotic and shows no understanding if how relationships (and human sexuality) work.
Anyone who thinks that making adultery a criminal offence should move to one of the shitholes in the Islamic umma.
They should have their names put on internet anonymously to give would-be suitors the heads up that they can't be trusted.
No, in my optimism of what should happen is this hat they cheated on should get counted against them. Not them being kicked from whatever it is but whatever they did cheat on like for example 5 questions on a math test that those 5 questions ether get marked as wrong or they can redo those 5 questions without cheating.
I’d rather kick a cheater in his balls. We don’t have enough jails for all the cheaters out there.
Women don't have balls though😗
I think such law would overwhelm every justice system.
Then we'll have to instruct cops that punching a woman in the neck, arresting her for asking how soon she can pay a friend's bail, then jailing *her* for "aggravated battery" is wholly unacceptable. Because if more cops understood and respected that, it would result at minimum in the women's jails being slightly less overcrowded. If we bring back state mental asylums, the crazy patients won't be wasting time in jail, leading to the jails being safer and much emptier. Suddenly, we have more room for cheaters.
I don't know about jail time, but if proven beyond doubt, they should lose everything in the marriage. The other gets it all, seems like a better punishment. Otherwise we would need like ten times more jails in the USA.
You see the problem with society lies in accountability. Yes. Noone is abliged to be loyal to anyone else and they don't owe them any devotion. But on that basis noone should be allowed to express any nonsense about any dumb ass "love" when they don't grasp its terms and conditions. In terms of punishment cheating is a civil matter not a criminal in the eyes of law and the law don't give a shit about feelings or "love".
i think cheating should be a crime for seral cheaters, if you do it once you should get probation, but how else would anyone know what they did was wrong.
i bet someone would see things far different if they sat in jail for cheating.
No. The problem is you would either end up with innocent people getting convicted as guilty, or you would end up with no sexual privacy. So while cheating is horrible, enforcing punishment on it is even worse.
Yes they should if they're married. It is a violation of the sacred institution of marriage and disturbs social and public order as it can shatter families.
Yes, since having multiple official partners in marriage is illegal in most countries, so should be cheating (ie. unofficially having multiple partners).
I don't think it should be criminal. Perhaps a personal lawsuit if there were actual harm, but not for just for wasting someone's time.
Nope I don't think relationships should be watched over by law
Well domestic violence, chil abuse and such are already punishable by jail time
It would still go under fraud
Well yes, would work "better" with marriages.
As somebody who is married for 11 years. It's not hard to avoid cheating.
Breaking up is fine, behind the back double life etc is pretty shitty. And so far nothing is done with it, while it creates many real issues.
While smoking a little joint gets you locked up
What do you think would be a suitable punishment for a cheater, or do you think should be left without one?
Their conscience is so far outside of the norm I doubt jail time would have much more effect than countless slammed doors in their faces.
Nope. Why reward them with free room and board and free health care for the duration of their stay out of our tax dollars. Just leave them.
I believe they should have a law where people cheat on someone they should have to pay for cost but cheating isn't a crime
We have bigger problems in world. When u fix them then yeah sure try addressing cheating
There are already consequences for cheating in a marriage... like spousal support, court expenses and possessions being divided…
Breaking someone's heart should not be a crime. Though, getting a fine if you don't let someone know they might have an STD from having sex with you seems fair, but should not be limited to marriage.
No, that would be about locking them up because people are angry and not because they're a danger to society. It would be a waste of resources.
Monogamy is not followed by everyone. It shouldn't be the default
Open relationship isn't same as cheating though.
The only people who say no are the ones who have been manipulated into thinking their cheating lover actually loves them, or they struggle with cheating themselves 😂
I would say yes but then again we don't have enough prison to put all the cheater in it.
No they shouldn’t maybe a huge fine but not jail time
No, it’s a bad thing to do but not a criminal offense. It would be a waste of resources to send someone to jail for that.
30% said yes? Must be libtards. I don't condone cheating, but that's just lefty rhetoric non sense while they murder babies upon birth.
I said yes, while i also think abortion shouldn't be a thing, unless medical emergency.
Maybe you should make less assumption based nonsense 😗
I vote no. I think it is unnecessary. There are plenty of criminals until it comes to cheaters. These criminals must be punished first.
No, just cut them out of your life and be done with it.
Nah the government shouldn't get a say in what consenting adults do in their bedrooms.
You can move to KSA if you want a chastity police.
The prison system is already overcrowded, do you really want to add to that?
Not everything that is immoral has to be illegal.
Good god no, our prisons are already too full as it is, and it's not up to the government to tells us who we can and cannot have sex with.
Cheating too much in free and liberal society, like USA, UK, and other European countries as compared with Muslim and Asian countries, I support to punish the cheaters
A certain political group destroyed the power of the marriage contract to be enforced as a contract so unfortunately there is no legal obligation against adultery any more.
Sure! I’m all for more government regulation in our lives. 🙄
No, it's a personal matter, law has nothing to do there.
I'd rather just get monetary compensation from them and have them sent to court mandated therapy.
They haven't before even if they do go to jail for it how can you really prove that someone is cheating on you unless they get another woman pregnant.
Proverbs 30:20
This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong
Ecclesiastes 7:28
while I was still searching
but not finding—
I found one upright man among a thousand,
but not one upright woman among them all
Proverbs 5:5
Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell
I can keep going this isn't hard
Maybe a fine if they're married...
For wasting a persons time and destroying their trust.
Ask the military, you'll get chaptered out quick. Worse than jail time
Cheating for a homeless man in your system = free shelter, clothes, food, bed, blanket, pillow.
No, not a chance. Their time will come. All of us will when we get judged.
No, I do not want the government involved in my sex life thank you very much.
But then there wouldn’t be any room for the murderers
No no they should pay you fines monthly. Like 1000 a month.
Not only the cheater and their partner.
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