In your opinion, what are the best solutions to combat domestic violence?

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worldscolide · Accepted Answer

There aren't good answers here. And it's a problem with both genders not just women. What's sad is a child born in an abusive family is more likely to both accept it and commit it later in life. I was born into it my mom and my dad were both abusive to each other and to me.. Later I was in a relationship where I accepted her actions as normal. I have the scars on my face, where she chose to slice me up for kicking her out. I promised my self I would never permit that kind of thing in my life again. The problem is, the people who accept it into their lives accept it over and over from multiple partners because of past experiences, and they foolishly stupidly belive they can change the abuser. My sister in law is dealing with this. Her husband broke her arm.. Came to live wirh us for a day. Left, staying she can change him. We washed our hands of her.. Refusal to accept help is one of the classic behaviors. I and her brothers politely explained to her husband that if it ever happened again, there would not be enough for the cops to find. Beyond that she is on her own. There is only so much help one can give before it becomes not worth it in my opinion. If you keep making the same choices over and over.. It shows stupidity..

Williams28Jao · Accepted Answer

Starting off don’t get into a relationship that has toxic people in. People that have sex all the time with everyone they meet they are the ones that get hurt the most. If you see that someone has a short temper and you still are in a relationship with that person your denying the inevitable. That person will if not act out in aggression. They aren’t stable people and full of toxicity. The best solution is to get out of the relationship. If your married to that person run. Get out. Divorce. There is absolutely no reason to stay with someone who ends up causing injures to another person

Wintergrace · Accepted Answer

I would say more education on emotional regulation for all people. So maybe having an entire course of mandatory therapy specifically on how to handle your emotions would be amazing implemented in schools. If more people learned how to control themselves when they were younger, DV should naturally wain. I also feel that sometimes we allow our friends and family to isolate in a relationship and consider it a “cute honeymoon phase.” However, sometimes it’s not just a couple being happily obsessed with one another. So we should be more vigilant about spotting those signs on our friends. It’s not good for someone to completely lose themselves in a relationship.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Don't get into a relationship with someone just because he has a big dick. You may get a big dick but you may also get big black eyes and fat lips. There has to be some reason women pick these Turkey pot pies to begin with. Sex from bad boys is the only thing I can come up with. Didn't anyone ever tell these girls that the only thing a bad boy will do is treat you badly?

sunflower00 · Answer

As a whole?

Education from a young age for girls and boys, the justice system taking domestic violence cases seriously (not brushing things off, serious consequences for abuse, etc.), safe places for people to go who are experiencing it, better training for staff in lots of different areas so people can better recognise it and try to help. I don’t really know, it’s such a difficult issue!

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Stop rewarding violent and aggressive behaviours with relationships and sex. As long as this is seen as a successful dating attitude it will continue. In other words, leave if a relationship becomes violent, and if you're attracted to violent, see a therapist to work out why and try and change your mindset.

(Obviously discounting anything agreed and performed safely between two consenting adults in an S&M scenario)

Desconhecida · Answer

A good start would be giving reassurance to women who suffered violence to seek help. Most of them tend to be in a violent and abusive relationship because they are afraid, embarrassed or dependent in any way. We should show them every voice is heard and by speaking up, more women might be brave to do the same.

dustybiker · Answer

Bring back the public whipping post. Humiliation and pain. I say this with sarcasm, because little will change a person in this modern age. Nobody cares enough about rehabilitation. It’s stick them in a box and release them after a certain amount of time.

noamazia · Answer

having the victim set up a hidden camera and hide a taser nearby. after that once the offender starts the violence, taze him (as self defence), get the camera/footage and go to the cops. they can't say no to evidence of that level.

other than that. there is not alont that can be done, the victims need to know that they have a way to change their reality, and they need to want that change. 3rd parties can really do much without that.

cosmicallyinclined · Answer

it starts when you tell little girls that the boy bullying you is doing it cause he likes you and wants your attention.. so stop teaching that love can be shown through abuse. also porn is a big one and is detrimental to the kids who find it at a young age with all the popularity that showcases violence against mostly entirely women during sex (but of course the whole industry is also just horrible).

Bluemax · Answer

Get it before it starts... and by that I mean in childhood. You teach children that violence is wrong unless threat of life and limb are involved. You teach them problem solving strategies that minimize conflict (compromise, looking for win-win, etc.). Moreover, model a great working relationship between partners. Worked in the case of my parents.

lrina · Answer

i'm thinking of maybe a brief course that all students will have to go through in 11th grade in highschool maybe, that educates students on what that is, and what's the best way to act, as well as ways to recognize domestic violence. not sure how effective that'll be, but i think it'd be a good start.

OneNineZero · Answer

The women would say - Kill all menThat's what i think Actually my soon to be ex wife actually did said that and I never harmed her I know being a guy people would never belive me over a female but thats ok I dont care what someone has to say about me it's all too meaningless for me

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

More reporting of domestic abuse crimes, more of those reports taken seriously at the ground level, and more severe sentencing for those found guilty of domestic abuse. And victims should document as much evidence as possible, even if its just a written timeline of events to help keep their story from being undermined under cross-examination.

gabby100 · Answer

Know your man, before you let him close. I have one bad experience with a guy. He seemed great sober but a couple of beers he change into this mental case. But after trying to hit me , he got a taste of my baseball bat, . He said sorry but that was the end no second chance not when it came to violence. He could have cheated on me , we would have talked. Violence never.

Staximus · Answer

I've been dealing with violent kids or adults attacking me since I was 7 years old and I'm almost 45. The only way to stop a violent person is to make sure their violent actions have consequences that will make them not want to do it again. Like when a bully picks on the wrong person and gets their ass kicked, they never bother that person again.

ODC2112 · Answer

Choose different partner. If you choose a partner who is violent with others, you have a high probability that he will be violent with you too. If you choose a partner who is not disillusioned you have a high probability that once the bubble of illusion has burst, there is a violent person behind it. This is true for both genders.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Women who have been abused should leave their abusive partners immediately and report every physical abuse to police. But lot of women enjoy the victims status quo, thinks "if he beats me, he loves me" and enjoy makeup sex after violence, this addiction leads to escalation which end sometimes bad.
Sorry to say that, but some girls are a part of this problem because they encourage and reward violence in relationships until escalation goes too far.

OddBeMe · Answer

Mental health services
Better tracking of domestic abusers. Possibly even a public record like sex offenders.
Better system for cops to take statements from women. Regardless whether she’s telling the truth, stats say victims are easily frightened by men interrogating them.

Adam1978 · Answer

For men, don't be afraid to hit back hard the first time they do it. For women don't accept it and break up, there is no excuse for voilence in a relationship ever. And don't forget to spread the word.

Stargal · Answer

Divorce Suing the abuser at court of law Public shaming  And most importantly breaking silence and getting out of such toxic relationship. Realizing that we are better alone.

LemonsAsks · Answer

Get the fuck out and dont talk to them. My mom did that were good now. He stalked us for a bit, occasionally gets a hold of us through the internet but other then that. Were good.

Umair19917 · Answer

i have noticed it starts from bed while having sex, and than slowly it became very dangerous. well it shouldn't be apply if you disagree or dislike someone act than you must talk to them try different ways to convey your message domestic violence should be stop

Frank-Martin · Answer

If my girlfriend or wife will abuse me, I will put her in her place. As for a woman who isn't my wife/girlfriend or family member, the best I can do is to probably talk to the victim so that I can get permission from him/her if we should call the cops on her/his abusive partner.

Uncoveringshadows · Answer

Not to combat actually.
To make self self awareness that there is something within that attract that.
Such as perversion or fear.
And to stay away of that. Avoiding.
Changing the pattern by laughing , stepping away, not entering the drama

ibodi · Answer

I just watched YouTube about cheating in the world. I decided that go silently if I am in. because hate in heart ruin my health instead. So open mind let it go.

Anonymous · Answer

For young girls and boys to be taught about it. 40% of domestic violence is deliberately instigated by women. Men are such fragile creatures that one bad bitch can break them inside. My mother was such a bad bitch.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Increased firearm ownership and cheaper higher quality recording devices to document evidence. Some people are so far gone they can’t be saved, and it shouldn’t be the taxpayers fault or problem.

skytatoe · Answer

Guns! If you have more guns you'll have a lot less frequent domestic violence since the people who are violent will end up shooting their victims or being shot. Guns solve everything, even world hunger lol

Anonymous · Answer

The guy should learn to fight back if she is abusing him. In this gender-neutral, "women want the same rights as men" world... both genders need to know how to defend themselves against aggressors. If they can't... then they leave themselves vulnerable to abuse.

Anzhus · Answer

Once you sense that slight aura. (The aggressiveness in your partner) then try to keep people around at all times. And when alone with your partner try to act cautiously

anton_dee · Answer

Take a stand. Let people know what you are facing. Speak to local parish priest.

At home, hit back, talk back.

However, remember one thing. If you are wrong, accept and say sorry. If you are right, stand your ground.

anylolone · Answer

Depends on the type of DV.

One good preemptive measure is stable two parent households with good relations with extended family and community.

Parity on the legislation is key as well. The biggest risk for DV is practicing DV.

SignedAutographs · Answer

Not more domestic violence, that's for sure

That'd be like solving alcoholism, by putting bottles of alcohol in the house where the alcoholic lives and sleeps and telling them it's not ok to keep drinking

melanieeeB · Answer

Raising awareness and for people who are in a situation like that, to leave and start new.

Juxtapose · Answer

Shoot him. Do you think I'm trying to be funny? I'm dead fucking serious, shoot their asses. You're not going to have a chance fighting them unless you have a weapon or good training.

Wade12345 · Answer

Every woman needs to be taught how to throw a good throat jab.

Hanrej · Answer

To build away domestic situations. Plan your societies on the principle of men and women having their own space rather than have to deal with eachother every day.

Gloree · Answer

Separation. The abused should grow a backbone and quietly, if possible, stealthily leave the abuser. Simple.

Eleni1989 · Answer

By when first time it happens leave. I had ex starting become verbally abusive. I got out before it got physical.

Anonymous · Answer

Ensuring that housing is affordable so that people are not trapped living in unhealthy situations.

JuanVeIasco · Answer

Imprisoned serial killers, terrorists and rapists receive thousands of love letters from women.

dragoblack · Answer

Leave the relationship. For some, homelessness ends up being the alternative, but it's better than being assulted on a regular basis

cookiecrusher · Answer

Prevention. Pick better partners. Teach kids to know what is abuse and how not to get locked in a relationship.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

The garunted way to end domestic violence is to get a gun. It's hard for him to run the hands on you when he has a bullet between his eyes.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

God. He is literally everywhere all the time. He will help you if you do your part. Even a Bronze player can do it

notwoke · Answer

conscript all women to provide sex to men in need while they are between the ages of 18 and 24. this way men will be clamed down and non violent

Surely · Answer

An eye for an eye would be fitting for some of the abusers.

Mothon77 · Answer

Beat the abuser with the crowbar as a defense and leave. Mostly leave

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Don't marry a scumbag and if they did just leave them behind.

Sabretooth · Answer

self-defense training and for parents to stop leaving their daughters vulnerable by leaving them weak and naïve.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing. You can't fix stupid people. If someone chooses to be with an abusive person. You just have to throw your hands up and say "oh well".

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Regularly meet with people who aren't your spouse. That way alarms can be seen more easily.

Shamalien · Answer

Teaching your kids how to use a gun. The gun is the great equalizer

msc545 · Answer

For men - don't get married, don't live with women, and don't have children.

kevypa · Answer

I think a woman should be brave and love and try change the her husband  A woman shouldn't hesitate anyone abusing her right infact no one should

Anonymous · Answer

Go to a women's refuge , change your number and don't ever go back

DevinAM · Answer

Get rid of homes, you can't have domestic violence without a domicile. Yes this is satirical but you know I'm right.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't cheat, or do anything very disrespectful.  Or call the cops

Sonorous · Answer

Eliminate all of humanity

dorksided1 · Answer

Leave after the first time

Gringothegango · Answer

Become the offender than no arm to you

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Have dinner ready on time.

Blackcupcake · Answer

don’t be quiet about it or hide it…

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