What would you do if you are in a domestic violence relationship?

[Ginger1907]

[CalmUntilAbused]

Well... Since no one will believe me, because I'm a man (and even if someone believed me, they wouldn't care - not any police officers, at least), I'd take my leave. However, knowing that if I leave, I might be accused of domestic violence by my abuser and never be able to come back withput risking incarceration, I'd plan it thoroughly. First, I'd gather whatever funds I can salvage from the abuser. Since I have a private account, I might be able to do with the regular savings there, but I'd make sure they are large enough to allow me to live somewhat comfortably. In the meantime, I'd make a few "business" trips to Latin America that I would make my abuser believe to be scheduled by my company, trying to find a potential job there. Once I land a job that is paid enough to survive, I would say my goodbyes to all my colleagues at work, leave my job, pack my trunks with all my treasured possessions and depart for the country in Latin America that I landed a job in beforehand, never notifying my abuser about the fact that this leave is permanent, disguising it as yet another business trip instead. It might be hard to pull off, but I think the very thought that I'm rebelling my abuser under her very nose and she's none the wiser would probably give me enough motivation to push through with the plan.

[ohsheeT]

Get out don't look back love yourself and understand you're not supposed to be there the reason why that person came into your life was to show you what not to put yourself through in life to learn all the signs that this is what kind of person it is it wasn't meant for you to stay there and be beat up bullied are treated that way it was just a learning experience now get out of there you've learned your lesson you learned why get out of there you have to love yourself more than anything in this world to understand everything I just said and I know you do so get out and go to the person that's looking for you

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The rational answer would be to leave, but it’s rarely that simple. Many people stay in domestic violence because they’re afraid to leave, either because of what their partner will do to them or what they will do to themselves. Lots of abusers will threaten suicide to manipulate their partners into staying. There are also plenty that threaten to kill their partners or their children or their pets if they leave them. It’s never as simple as “just leaving” even though that seems like the obvious response. I couldn’t tell you what I would do in that situation, I know it would feel easy to be used to a sense of no control over my life and just let the other person override my needs because of that fear.

[MrOracle]

Actually, it's USUALLY that simple (to just leave) - it's the EXCEPTION when the abuse is to the levels you are talking about, and in those cases, you have to involve outside people to help you. But even then, to get in with someone that deep, you usually had to either endure or intentionally ignore lots of red flags and warning sighs over months or years before you find you are in that deep.

Feminists WANT women to believe that every example of an abusive situation is the man abusing the women (real case workers actually say it's more common the other way around) and that nearly every example is a "worst-case scenario" but that's just not the rule - it's the exception. In most cases, the person CAN simply walk away and the drama largely ends right there.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@MrOracle
What the hell is wrong with you?
Bringing political views in the middle of what could very likely be a testimony of domestic violence?

[MrOracle]

The politics got involved in Domestic Violence before I was born. It shouldn't be that way, but it is, and has been for a long time.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@MrOracle
Probably, regardless, my point was to address how tremendously offbeat it is to answer with politics when presented with possible distress

[Anonymous]

Probably get law enforcement involved

Probably capture any proof of that on video

Probably make a scene to ensure the entire world knows his actions

And hopefully get him locked up for life

Cause the longer I stay in there I am in danger

[AI Opinion]

Ah, darling, that’s a heavy heartbreaker! First and foremost, prioritize your safety. 🚨 Don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family, or organizations for support. Every person deserves a loving environment filled with respect, not fear. Remember, seeking help shows strength, not weakness. Stay safe, and believe in brighter days ahead! 💪❤️

[Lesson82]

As you are asking this question then you and many others myself included because we love the other person we stay into an abusive relationship hoping it will change or have been threatened an are afraid to leave. And they say sorry and that they love you every time but there is no excuse to put your hands on your partner or even call them names because it hurts The moment that happens they definitely don't love you and it will happen again and again. And I have restrain my girlfriend and if I wanted to I could really hurt her so it's tough because I'm a man and it is really embarrassing because at times I can't stop her and I do lose. If anyone is dealing with a Domestic we don't deserve that and leave right away and call the cops and make him answer to it.

[CheeseMonster]

I would reach out and ask for help from someone I trust, either in directly getting out of the situation, or in finding other/more resources to help me get out without potentially alerting the abuser by searching certain key words or phases on my own devices where they may see it.

The main concern would be finding a place to stay with my pets until I'm able to move into a new apartment (maybe only a few days or potentially a while longer).

[TonyMetal___86]

Me in a domestic violent relationship? 🤣🤣

Woman, i guess it's me who makes violence in a relationship, if i want to but ofc i won't, but asking me what will i do if i had a woman who is violent with me? Smh

I'll run away and hide like a mouse 😂😂

If i catch her arm with my hand and press it i'll transform her bone into powder, is this enough? 😏

[FreyaRed]

Primarily, I wouldn't go in one. Even if somehow I would have a weeks long amnesia or mental black out and would land in one, I would end it instantly by first smallest threat. If he goes ape sh*t you call the cops.

[Seangreen]

You get the fuck out of that relationship that's what you do don't even question anything just get out leave if you're being abused it's not going to just stop so get the hell out of there as fast as you can

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

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[buzzword]

Choke her out, throw her in a trunk and drop her in the middle of the wilderness.

[Nikki1989]

It wouldn't last for long. I have too many friends.

[genericname85]

get the fuck out of that relationship without any hesitation.

[motownplayer2000]

Leave. Not a woman alive that would scare me into staying

[onedarkcloud]

Get the hell away as fast as I can ABUSE IS NOT LOVE NO MATTER WHAT BULLSHIT HE SAYS.

[Jerre]

I would never let it go that far. If it did, I would not be in that relationship anymore.

[Cheerfull009]

I don't have domestic violence at all, we are under the control of elder member of the family

[NathanDavis]

I would not place myself, in one

[DishLady]

Leave...

[MisterWack]

Break up!

I ain’t taking that shit

[WhitneySnow]

Get out as soon as I could

[PolishedMonkey]

Get out of it.

[exitseven]

I would not hit her. Eventually I would leave

[DrPepper12]

God I hope not!!! Haven't yet!!

[Yannae]

I leave. I have zero tolerance for that.

[Nifrayu]

I would get out of the relationship.

[jahaims]

I'm not a moron so I wouldn't be in that situation

[Pohjolan]

Get the hell out of dodge.

[msc545]

I would leave.

[beefcakebradybatson]

GET THE F*** OUT !!!

[cavedweller1973]

Get out of it quick fast and in a big hurry

[Taniisokay]

Leave?

[SweetJoyGirl]

Leave.

[Agape93]

End the threat.

[Unit1]

Leave, duh

[Dongie]

Walk away.

[Staximus]

Leave

[sirderpsalot123]

Leave her

[dudegreat91]

Easy, I'll end it

[Bklynbadboy12]

One word... Leave!!!

[eagle1951]

call the cops

[Anonymous]

Leave.