Domestic violence (I know, touchy subject)?

[JeffGrey]

my best friend & girlfriend got into an argument, she shoved/slapped him so he called the police, she said look at him and look at me... (he is 6'4 250 lbs she is 5'2 120 lbs... he did absolutely nothing to her, (she claims he chest bumped her and threw her down (no evidence and he denies), HE got arrested, and has a No Contact Order against him so he cannot even see his 3 month old baby boy... HOW in the HELL is this justified? his life is ruined, because he had enough of her BS and called the police ON HER!

They are trying to force him to take a plea of 4th degree DV, 5 years probation, has to surrender his guns and NEVER be able to own a a gun again, go to drug alcohol and anger classes, and pay fines! his other option is to fight it, he will still have the DV charge on his record (win or lose), they are saying they will go after a year in jail and $5k fines, and still srrender/lose gun rights, and protection order stays in place... they are saying If he takes the plea they MAY drop the protection order (that she asked them to drop also), all he wants is to see his baby boy, so he is saying he has to take the plea in HOPES (roll of the dice) that they drop the protection so he can see his baby.

I am trying to convince him to fight it!

I ask... HOW IS THIS RIGHT?

suggestions ANYONE PLEASE

Jeff

[NamerOfStars]

First run-in with the Duluth model? Your story is far from uncommon. If you sit down and decide to actually read through the Violence Against Women Act, then I suggest in the strongest possible terms you first lock up any weapons you have nearby- you WILL want to use them.

It ultimately boils down to the consequences of not holding women accountable for terrible behavior. It's NOT right, and anyone with an ounce of sense damn well knows it, but calling it out openly is political suicide.

That means, however, that the only way it will change is through the courts. If your friend fights it, he'll probably lose. If he doesn't, we all will.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your friend needs to get a referral for a quality Criminal Defense Attorney immediately. The system will railroad the fuck out of him if he doesn't. All Prosecutors care about is getting guilty pleas, no matter the circumstances, which is why they are threatening him so hard.

Your friend is on the front end of a shit storm, and I feel for him (been there). Tell him to HET A GOOD ATTORNEY.

[JeffGrey]

problem is that they are all requiring at least $5k just for retainer

[KrakenAttackin]

@JeffGrey. Yes they will and it's worth every penny. Tell your friend to beg, borrow, steal the money and get an attorney. Otherwise the gynocentric courts will eat him alive.

[DizzyDesii]

This is super sad. Its definitely better to fight since he did nothing wrong but shit i’d rather have probation than go to jail so I don't know

[Billlewis]

Any woman who is outweighed by that much versus her boyfriend, should never get charged with domestic abuse.

[JeffGrey]

That is the problem of society right now, you are saying that he should just take the abuse? Why should he get charged because she was assaulting him? Just because there's a size difference between the 2? She knew how big he was when they got into the relationship.

[Billlewis]

When it's all said and done, yes, that's exactly what I'm saying.

[JeffGrey]

you are a fucking IDIOT!

[KrakenAttackin]

@Billlewis. That's bullshit. I remember a good friend of mine, his BITCH girlfriend threw a glass jar at him hitting him in the lip, requiring stitches.