What would you do as a father if your daughter found men of your race beneath her?

[Anonymous]

A big problem among the Asian community is that a large percentage of Asian women are turning their backs on Asian men and going for white males due to their inferiority complex.

With a lot of these women only ever considering Asian men in their mid to late 30's, when they are burnt out from being pump and dump from white males as shown below.

Example - https://www.reddit.com/r/asianamerican/comments/soge80/i_stopped_dating_white_men/

The main reason for this has to do with heavy social media influence which often paint white people as the ideal standard of beauty with other races being viewed as 'exotic'.

Another psychological factor has to do with the fact that in many movies/tv shows, the white male is painted as the ideal balance of both masculine, intelligent and romanticism with other races often having some character flaw.

For example-
1. Black men are often stereotype in media as either comic reliefs in films or hyper masculine but less intelligent than men of other races. In addition, media often like to associate black men with unfaithfulness (aka player).

2. Asian (include Indians) are often painted as more intelligent than their white counterparts but often way less masculine (except for martial art films). Many roles cast Asian men in support roles where they back up the main character that is often white.

3. Hispanic men are often either placed in roles of comedians, criminals or passionate lovers/masculine men similar to black males. However, Hollywood tends to not attach infidelity as much or associate them with low intelligence.

Going back to the main question, what would you do as a parent if your Asian daughter was only going for white guys and looked down on Asian males? Would you intervene and give her advice or confront her on the issue?

[jshm2]

You're confused.

People are getting more liberal and dating outside their race, faith and nationality more and more.

It's not necessarily a bad thing.

[Asker]

I am not confused. You are just being willingly dishonest or ignorant.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say she found people of any race beneath her. I mean it’s a preference she has. What could you do? “No loving white man! Go for Asian guy.”

[Asker]

there is a fine line between preference, and fetish due to self hatred.

[Opinion Owner]

How would you know it’s self hatred?

[Asker]

You can probably guess there is underlying issue if your daughter only ever goes for white males (people naturally are attracted to people of their race). Other ques to pick up is if she only tries to integrate herself into white social circles and or dye her hair blonde.

Another big clue is again watching what race is promoted as most attractive by the media and its effect on dating and looking at the global trend in behavior of women of your race. If the vast majority of Asian women are dating white males when it comes to interracial dating then it no longer can be viewed as just preference.

[OddBeMe]

Sounds like bad parenting.

[Asker]

Children are influence by both what their parents taught them and what society says as well. You could be a good parent to your child and still end up in this scenario.