Some people just don’t believe in it. Some are proud of their given name. And what I see mostly commonly, some are publicly known by their given name so changing it could be bad for business.
@creampiekarl420 Why is having the husband's last night even important? She can keep her last name as long as she's a good wife I don't if takes my last name or not. I've seen a married married couple that are together for 40 years still together and the husband doesn't care she doesn't have her last name. It just seems so derisory. Why do care so much about a last name rather than a successful marriage?
@Wonderwhat because she should want to this really shouldn’t be a discussion why would I wife take her husbands name is a silly question so much so that it is damn near rhetorical you ask why because he is her husband it’s that simple
I see your point and it's a good one, but its just many marriages nowadays end in divorce a lot of times for petty reasons. I've seen successful marriages where the woman is more practical, the man is more naturing, and it works out. Times are changing and yes tradition is great and all, but some traditions are better left in the past. It's worth damaging your chances at successful marriage. I respect traditionalism, but I think it's okay if the man is more naturing and caring and the wife is more practical. It's just depends how the relationship between the man and woman goes.
@Wonderwhat marriages last because of cooperation marriages fail today because people marry till they’re bored with it not death til us part you have no clue what happens behind closed doors in anyones marriage but I guarantee an understanding and agreement on has been made for couples who stay together
@creampiekarl420 she can get a man who leads but she'd rather be the leader in the relationship. compatibility is the most important thing in a successful relationship. she's practical so she has her way of doing her own thing which means she just needs a man to complement her. If the man's a leader her ego and the man's ego will clash and the relationship will fail. It's like on sports team where you have the super star and the people around him who support him. It's like how the doctor needs the nurses. Both roles are important.
@MzAsh bullsht grapes always look sour when they’re out of reach? It didn’t matter if you did prefer them you can’t compete with the women those men prefer
@creampiekarl420 see she likes it when she's in charge. This alpha male beta male thing is bs. Women like men who are naturing and caring. It just depends on the woman. "Women like the bad boy" is mostly bs that they push on internet. Don't read bs on the internet. There are women that will still like you even if you don't lead.
They are weaker because they let women lead them sounds like a mom not a wife women who refuse to submit to masculine energy have to be with lower testosterone men because you can’t handle the high quality ones the most women want uncooperative women have to settle for guys they could cheat on and they would still stay with you because they’re weak and tolerate disrespect like you not taking their name
I would never “mom” my man. I just have an independent mind and I enjoy my career and he needs to be strong enough to handle that he’s not going to be the center of my whole universe.
Thats what overbearing selfish women who raise boys to be weak men say uncooperative women like you have to settle for yes men ass kissers that you’re eventually gonna divorce
It’s controlling because women become independent and marry weak men because they like getting their way it’s all about them men do it for their families women do it for themselves that’s why it’s controlling the minute those women are inconvenienced in any way they bail
Looks like you are the one who is controlling and overbearing as you’ve already been that way in this conversation with me. This is exactly the type of shit women need to never, ever submit to.
A more accurate question is "Why would a feminist get married in the first place"? Marriage is a traditional institution that is not compatible with feminism.
When was the last time a feminist actually made a valuable contribution to society? They're not terribly bright people, otherwise they'd stay well clear of that poisonous ideology.
You do realize that everyone born has to take their Parents name right so you’d be taking your grandpas name and also that’s not what this is about it’s about a wife submitting to her husband
Yes she is it’s like we aren’t together if you had a woman wouldn’t you want everyone to know she is yours and yours alone most men don’t want to share a woman they love we are territorial creatures by nature you say you’re my woman and want to married then take my name
I had plans to take my husband's name but when it came time to changing it I chose not to. I'd rather keep my identity then have to change it just cause I'm married.
This is not a feminist thing. This is for every girl, why should they change their name if they don't want to? If they do, go ahead. If they don't want why should they?
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 you can honor you’re wife in other ways like being faithful and respecting her men are the head of the family we are supposed to lead women find traditional men way more attractive marriage is sacred and serious and in a marriage husbands and wives have responsibilities for one another they have roles to play
Those traditions have value for some, and I respect that, but no value at all for others. To the ones that do not want that kind of power dynamic there is no reason to change names.
Women file for divorce 7 times out of 10 for a reason because a uncooperative woman will have to settle and she won’t like it she’ll only be married for as long as she can tolerate
You seem to think all women want the same. That is completely wrong. People are different. A woman that is not submissive will never want a old fashion man.
When you legally change your name, you have to get new ID with your new name on it. Otherwise, your ID would not have your proper name on it. What would make you think that your ID wouldn’t change if your name did? And what a gynestein?
The fact that I’ve been issued several from government buildings with different names Cus SSA just link names to the number it doesn’t matter if you have the Id or not they already have your information when you get married and I was calling you Einstein ironically but because you’re a woman I called you GYNEstein ( yes I know I’m hilarious)
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Because they see it as a form of submission I suppose.
They don’t want to.
Then they shouldn’t want to be married
They can do what they want.
No they can’t that’s why we have rules, laws and morals no one can do whatever they want
There’s no law here that you have to take your husbands last name.
Why would you get married and not take his name you’re literally planting a land mine in your own marriage 😂
Some people just don’t believe in it. Some are proud of their given name. And what I see mostly commonly, some are publicly known by their given name so changing it could be bad for business.
No it won’t
You’re already shooting yourself in the foot if you’re putting your business before the relationship
A lot of people start businesses before marriage which is most often a smart thing to do.
It’s not always easy to change a legal business name, in regards to taxes. And it kills your SEO.
That’s not a good reason and any business that’s paying taxes isn’t one that has much to offer
Oh yeah how many businesses do you have?
1 and I also have a masters in business administration and cash management
I’d be happy to offer financial advice but I don’t come cheap
Lol no thanks kid
@creampiekarl420 Why is having the husband's last night even important? She can keep her last name as long as she's a good wife I don't if takes my last name or not. I've seen a married married couple that are together for 40 years still together and the husband doesn't care she doesn't have her last name. It just seems so derisory. Why do care so much about a last name rather than a successful marriage?
@Wonderwhat because she should want to this really shouldn’t be a discussion why would I wife take her husbands name is a silly question so much so that it is damn near rhetorical you ask why because he is her husband it’s that simple
I see your point and it's a good one, but its just many marriages nowadays end in divorce a lot of times for petty reasons. I've seen successful marriages where the woman is more practical, the man is more naturing, and it works out. Times are changing and yes tradition is great and all, but some traditions are better left in the past. It's worth damaging your chances at successful marriage. I respect traditionalism, but I think it's okay if the man is more naturing and caring and the wife is more practical. It's just depends how the relationship between the man and woman goes.
Like @MzAsh seems more practical and can take on more leadership roles. There isn't anything wrong with a husband who supports.
@Wonderwhat marriages last because of cooperation marriages fail today because people marry till they’re bored with it not death til us part you have no clue what happens behind closed doors in anyones marriage but I guarantee an understanding and agreement on has been made for couples who stay together
@Wonderwhat it’s contrary to nature uncooperative women have to marry men who support because they can get one who leads
Can’t
Sorry I was eating cantaloupe and my phone is sticky
It’s not that we can’t get a man who leads. We just don’t prefer them.
@creampiekarl420 she can get a man who leads but she'd rather be the leader in the relationship. compatibility is the most important thing in a successful relationship. she's practical so she has her way of doing her own thing which means she just needs a man to complement her. If the man's a leader her ego and the man's ego will clash and the relationship will fail. It's like on sports team where you have the super star and the people around him who support him. It's like how the doctor needs the nurses. Both roles are important.
@MzAsh bullsht grapes always look sour when they’re out of reach? It didn’t matter if you did prefer them you can’t compete with the women those men prefer
So you settle for what you can get
@Wonderwhat why is it more important for a woman to lead than a man?
@Wonderwhat women hate when roles are reversed
I’ve already been with men who lead and it wasn’t an experience I enjoyed.
@creampiekarl420 see she likes it when she's in charge. This alpha male beta male thing is bs. Women like men who are naturing and caring. It just depends on the woman. "Women like the bad boy" is mostly bs that they push on internet. Don't read bs on the internet. There are women that will still like you even if you don't lead.
@MzAsh that’s my whole point you have to be with weaker men
@Wonderwhat who said anything about alpha or beta women want men to be men
They’re not weaker men. They’re strong men. Just a different personality type.
They are weaker because they let women lead them sounds like a mom not a wife women who refuse to submit to masculine energy have to be with lower testosterone men because you can’t handle the high quality ones the most women want uncooperative women have to settle for guys they could cheat on and they would still stay with you because they’re weak and tolerate disrespect like you not taking their name
I would never “mom” my man. I just have an independent mind and I enjoy my career and he needs to be strong enough to handle that he’s not going to be the center of my whole universe.
Thats what overbearing selfish women who raise boys to be weak men say uncooperative women like you have to settle for yes men ass kissers that you’re eventually gonna divorce
It’s not overbearing or uncooperative. He has the same mindset I do and I respect his time and space.
@MzAsh of course he does because you can’t handle strong willed men because you’re controlling
Interesting how when it’s men it’s “strong willed” but when it’s women it’s “controlling.”
@MzAsh it's no point in further explaining things to him he took too many red pills.
Looks like he’s choking
It’s controlling because women become independent and marry weak men because they like getting their way it’s all about them men do it for their families women do it for themselves that’s why it’s controlling the minute those women are inconvenienced in any way they bail
What peer reviewed data do you have to support this?
Wym data women are selfish people by nature
Humans are selfish by nature.
Who contributes more to society men or women?
According to what measures?
Looks like you are the one who is controlling and overbearing as you’ve already been that way in this conversation with me. This is exactly the type of shit women need to never, ever submit to.
Cry me a River are you gonna answer the question or just keep letting your narcissistic ego go into defense mode
Not when you act like that I’m not.
A more accurate question is "Why would a feminist get married in the first place"? Marriage is a traditional institution that is not compatible with feminism.
I almost took my ex wife's last name..
But that's because I'd be Thomas Magnum...
It would have been even better if I'd bought that beachfront condo in Hawaii..
When was the last time a feminist actually made a valuable contribution to society? They're not terribly bright people, otherwise they'd stay well clear of that poisonous ideology.
I would see it as a lack of commitment. If she truly believed in us she’d wanna be mine
I guess they prefer to keep their father's name that their mom adopted.
My ex-wife kept her father’s name because she was the last of her line and the only one to carry on the family name.
Do you know the difference between a Wolf and a Human?
Im not taking questions at the moment get to the point
Wolves Aren’t blinded by emotions. They Hunt And wanna survive. They aren’t Self destructive.
Humans On the other hand are the complete opposite.
Okay
I'm a feminist. I wanna change my name to my mother's. Not because you mentioned it rn. It's just something I've been wanting to do for years.
Name taking is choice. You can't force your name on someone.
You do realize that everyone born has to take their Parents name right so you’d be taking your grandpas name and also that’s not what this is about it’s about a wife submitting to her husband
It's not about submission
I just fucking hate everyone
It literally is what’s so wrong about submission?
Nothing. If you're a woman but western women aremt women
@ugbucket i would like to say you’re wrong but ….
Like i said, it's not submission. It's just me.
You should be happy that if you have a daughter, she'd keep your name
If be happy to know she has a man who will take care of her what’s so bad about submitting
There's nothing bad with submission. I may not be submissive, but i understand the value of submission.
I just hate everyone, that's all.
If a man doesn't take it personally, yes I'll marry him
You shouldn’t be married if you think so little of it
Let the man decide :)
Exactly
Not you. I'm talking about my future husband. You won't be it, and we're both more than thrilled about that.
Good
Why does this bother you?
Because it shows a lack of resolve and respect
From whom?
The husband and the marriage
I thought you meant for whom
So the wife is disrespecting you by not taking your name… Why are you so fragile?
Yes she is it’s like we aren’t together if you had a woman wouldn’t you want everyone to know she is yours and yours alone most men don’t want to share a woman they love we are territorial creatures by nature you say you’re my woman and want to married then take my name
You have some control issues. Im sure you're a good husband. But as your therapist, I’d say look inner…why do you need to control your life partner?
How would that be controlling by claiming her as my own
I had plans to take my husband's name but when it came time to changing it I chose not to. I'd rather keep my identity then have to change it just cause I'm married.
You lost your identity the moment you got in a relationship
I actually lost my identity when I got pregnant and then became "mom" but definitely not in the beginning of my relationship
And I'm not a feminist I just didn't take his name lol
A confession ( your honor this court is adjourned) score one for the boys back home✌️💯
Oh wow. after seeing some responses here from the blues towards the pinks I am surprised how women as a collective aren't starting to hate men yet.
This is not a feminist thing. This is for every girl, why should they change their name if they don't want to?
If they do, go ahead. If they don't want why should they?
Because they’re getting married and it honors the husband
Why does that honors the husband?
And why can't it be the other way around then to honor the wife?
Cuz you're a cuckhold
@ugbucket make it make sense. Give me something logical. A good reason and not just "because I want to have it my way". That is childish.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 you can honor you’re wife in other ways like being faithful and respecting her men are the head of the family we are supposed to lead women find traditional men way more attractive marriage is sacred and serious and in a marriage husbands and wives have responsibilities for one another they have roles to play
Those traditions have value for some, and I respect that, but no value at all for others.
To the ones that do not want that kind of power dynamic there is no reason to change names.
Only a controlling uncooperative woman would settle for a man like that because she can’t get the one type she truly desires
Women file for divorce 7 times out of 10 for a reason because a uncooperative woman will have to settle and she won’t like it she’ll only be married for as long as she can tolerate
You seem to think all women want the same. That is completely wrong. People are different.
A woman that is not submissive will never want a old fashion man.
It can be for professional reasons, easier for kids prior to this relationship, or just to maintain their identity.
They don’t lose their identity by taking their spouses name
In the professional world it is not that uncommon.
Clients know you by 1 name for years and all of a sudden that changes.
I’m sure it depends on the person but maybe they just like their last name more or maybe they done wanna go through the hassle of changing it.
Then they shouldn’t get married
Well, that’s the decision of the couple.
No it’s an individual decision
Don’t you make decisions together when married? I don't know if I was a guy and it was that big of a deal to me I wouldn’t marry her.
No these are decisions that should be made beforehand
I thought they were. I had to tell what I plan for my name to be when we were going to sign up for the marriage license before we got married.
Hey not to change the subject but do you have an eating disorder also
No I don’t
Why bother changing all your ID if you don’t have to? 🤷♀️
Because you don’t want to die alone
I’m gonna die alone because I don’t want to change my ID?
😂🤣😂🤣
I was being over dramatic because that’s stupid you don’t have to change your Id gynestein🙄
When you legally change your name, you have to get new ID with your new name on it. Otherwise, your ID would not have your proper name on it.
What would make you think that your ID wouldn’t change if your name did?
And what a gynestein?
The fact that I’ve been issued several from government buildings with different names Cus SSA just link names to the number it doesn’t matter if you have the Id or not they already have your information when you get married and I was calling you Einstein ironically but because you’re a woman I called you GYNEstein ( yes I know I’m hilarious)
Old shrew
Do feminists get married? Does anyone want one?
It's nonsense that any of them have to take the husband's surname.
Why so?
Because they are kind of crazy lmao