Do you think suicide is selfish or not?

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ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

On the surface it seems so, however when you live with it, experience it, it’s often not the case.

a decent article here.

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/is-suicide-selfish#wanting-attention

I think on the lines of that article that at first glance Suicide appears selfish, however I have a fair bit of first hand experience if it.

It often comes down to how much before thought went in to it.

i had friends who have decided enough is enough and sought the best way out for them.

Im not sure the article mentions it or not, however there is a survivors guilt thing with suicides among friends and family, where you feel fucking shit that a friend has taken the “easy” way out.

then collectively you chat to their other friends and family, a picture emerges of where they have tried to talk about it, get help, made plans that you knew about at time but never joined the dots. Once you realise exactly what the signs they gave are, you feel guilty as fuck for not helping more, or trying to stop them or talk it through more.

i am in double figures on people I know who have committed suicide, some were close friends.

I think it’s easy to say yes it is, however by saying this it directly hits those with suicide ideation (passive / active). It also has a knock on effect on the overall mental health view of things.

https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/survivingmentalhealthstigma/2021/9/is-suicide-selfish-if-it-is-so-what

Depression, PTSD, Suicide Ideation, other mental health problems are a nightmare for some to deal with daily, each is often their own little version of hell. Yes counselling etc does help in a lot of case, with coping strategies, etc, however a brutal fact is it does not with all.

downtowndiner · Accepted Answer

I used to think that but actually I believe it's the opposite. We are only thinking about ourselves and how it makes us feel. Imagine being the one who takes their own lives and how they ended up feeling so bad that they wanted to harm themselves so much they DID take their own life.
Stigma about mental health should be lifted and treated like any other physical health issue. Taken seriously.

ohsheeT · Answer

In many ways yes it is whether you believe it or not we are very magical human beings I believe there are things that we can do that we don't even know we can do if you look at this planet Earth and if you have done any traveling it is one of the most beautiful places you've ever seen everywhere the way things are made so tuned and timed and just the way everything works hand in hand with each other no matter how we believe we are created we are special

I know tons of people I know so many people just unreal and I know two people that live in two different states they don't know each other or they didn't know each other but they both try to end their lives and for a few minutes basically way longer what they did took their lives and when they got to where they're going there were thousands and thousands of people crying and everybody was in a cage people could walk by and see them but they could not hear them no matter what you did they could not hear you so both of these people told me the exact same story they pleaded for their lives they pleaded to come back to earth they pleaded to get help they pleaded they would do anything and these two people were lucky because they got to come back they both tell the story of who you are what we are what we're supposed to be doing here and when you were giving a life and just because you can do it and take it doesn't mean that it's right everybody has a destiny everybody is one and if one of us screws up it just makes it harder down the road for everybody else but we all get through it I could go into a long detailed story about why you shouldn't take your or anybody else if we are energy and we live forever which energy does that means you take your life you're coming back but meanwhile until that time happens your locks in a cage and since you had no respect for life that's the kind of like that you will lead and you will live in misery because that's what you put on people and you took this life for granted

I guarantee you 99 out of 100 people once they took their life regretted a lot of times people that take their lives just because they feel sorry for themselves and they end up brainwashing themselves thinking about it over and over every day that's no way to live it's usually something so very simple that you just don't see it in that moment and then the way our brain works you say it so many times in your brain whether it's in a week a month or year you start to believe it and the way I bring works the more you think about it the more you're going to think about it until you either make a choice to do it or not I would recommend that because if you did I guarantee it within 30 seconds you wish you were back you wish you would have never done it so if you're talking about yourself I mean if you ever want to chat please send me a message because there is a way through this and it's actually very simple there's just a couple things you have to do I know I didn't answer your question but I felt there was something more important so please if you ever want to chat I don't care about what I will chat with you if you want to vent come see me you can vent to me

GurlMaster40 · Answer

No! At times it might seem like it. All the people you can hurt from committing suicide but, honestly it isn’t selfish to want to end their pain. I get it. People who commit suicide are referred to as cowards. But, if those people who call those people cowards, then shouldn’t they try living in a so called “cowards” shoes for a day. See how hard it is to be thinking those thoughts and feeling so depressed you want to end your life. Those who commit suicide while might be in fear, are not cowards!

Xrynx · Answer

Difficult question to go in depth really but to make it short i will say that its your choice, i dont reccoment it but it could depend on the situation say being really old and in bad health suffering constantly, assisted suicide is a thing in some places and i think its a right choice, though if its because of depression no, i think suicide is a very awful thing not a coward but it definitely at the lowest of point feels like nothing gets better.

But i personally dont mind dying sometimes hoepfully doing something risky and fun😉

AlanJ17M4F · Answer

I personally think, this subject is in the category along with 'Ab', it kinda depends in my opinion. Who are we to judge really anything someone else does? But, there are things to consider, baggage? Is it the only answer? Proper eddicate? Location? I guess I'm saying if it's the last resort type feeling, you are not leaving children in a bad spot, or it's not just for attention and you really feel it's the option then I say to each their own. I mean we make our own minds up for almost everything else, and if someone has a difference in opinion we usually come up with our reasons.. hope this is helpful

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Yes, I personally believe that it is selfish! You may have problems that even seen insurmountable, but if you only talked to those who truly love you, they may be able to help you out… but killing yourself? That just leaves behind an entire network of friends and family in unbearable pain, left wondering “why didn’t I see the signs, I loved this person, but how could I not see that he was in so much pain? Why didn’t I do something to help him? You took the easy way out, a permanent solution for a temporary problem! That’s selfish and cowardly!

PJH359 · Answer

I’m on the fence. Because on one hand yes it is extremely selfish. You leave your family forever in shambles and might even set a terrible trend (sometimes suicide can run in a family). Just ask the people who have to clean up after a shotgun blast to the mouth in the bathroom or in the car. No one can ever unsee those images. But on the other hand, one has to be extremely mentally ill to actually go through with the act of killing oneself. So maybe they can only be held partially responsible.

Anonymous · Answer

I think everyone has different upbringings and that definitely shapes our thoughts and feelings towards life. Some people can handle the heat of the unstable world we live in and others are more sensitive. I cannot judge it as selfish because that one person out there has probably gone through difficult times that may or may not relate to mine. Life is really a pressure and is always punching when you less expect it. The challenge is skipping those punches and if you get hit, then the challenge becomes to pick yourself up. We have to understand that not everyone has the same mentality and strength to deal with life.

Anonymous · Answer

No, and yes I've had loved ones who've passed that way but they were anything but selfish people. I think it's selfish to judge them and give them expectations like forcing them to live against their will and telling them to "get over it" or "suck it up" and having little to no understanding of what they're going through. Also, it kind of takes a lot of guts to put a gun to your head or jump from a high place. A coward would take no action at all. Anyway, blame the problem/situation not the person!

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its not selfish but its the easy way out. Its the wrong way out. People need to open up to someone, anyone who will listen and is willing to help. there's always at least one person willing to help. And Sometimes its best to talk to someone else who almost hurt themselves but decided to stick with living because that person understands the most what the other person may be going through

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think with the exception of someone who's married or has children, the selfish ones are (sometimes) the people who say that.

Some people are insufferable and there's nothing you can do to help them.

Some people just need someone to give a shit and help them up. And people don't help, they continue to hurt the person and exclude them and then they kill themselves and everyone goes "what a jackass" and I hate seeing that.

IJhonnyI · Answer

If you have people that care about you, in a way yes it is selfish cause if someone ever ends up committing suicide they were never thinking about how it would be for the people that actually cared and stayed on earth while he/she took the easy way out

Apulu_Imback · Answer

No it isn't selfish, crying isn't selfish. Suicide is not selfish too. Why to live when you don't want to? However it maybe selfish incase there are people willing to listen to you genuinely. Suicidal people aren't coward too, it's just that world was too harsh on them. Being suicidal isn't wrong. Not becoming lively again when you can is wrong.

MCheetah · Answer

No, I do not think suicide is selfish. If someone is in pain, they're not thinking about other people before their own pain. I think it's selfish to make other people do things they don't want to do, like live in pain and suffering everyday. Besides, many people, if not half, that attempt suicide, don't have anyone that'll miss them, anyway. That's kinda of the rationale.

menina · Answer

Not at all and I hate when someone says that suicide is selfish. Only the person who's suffering knows what they're going through. It's their pain so we shouldn't judge them.
Nobody commits suicide because they want to or because they don't care about the people who love them. They do it because they want to end their suffering.

Sarahr123 · Answer

It takes a lot of strength and to keep living and face your difficulties

It may seem like it is the easy option to run away but usually when people decide they want to die then it is because for a long time they’ve felt like they have nothing left to live for anymore.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes. I think it's more an issue of being unfortunate that person gets stuck trying to solve some complex emotional problem with insufficient support. The answer is probably getting out of whever they are, to somewhere else, with help to surpass the snag. For life is filled with them when not properly equiped for ones personality.

Cherry234 · Answer

It can be if you have people in your life who depend on you. Other than that, it is your decision and no one can really force you to live if you don't want to. Even if people want you to live you're still going to find some way to die. I mean you in general.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Yes but I sympathize greatly with them. Their life became so miserable they could no longer see a worthy future to live for and here I am with so many dreams and aspirations. Their family and friends will be heartbroken and I'm sure the people of the past who committed suicide all wish they didn't. If they could have another chance in this world they would take it without a doubt.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Not to those who are suffering and just want it to end. But they are not always in their right minds either.

InsideBeauty · Answer

There are situations were it would seems selfish like suicide because he/she can't take care of a family member that has advance alzheimer or severe autism, but the truth is that however things has to be very hard for them to suicide. So I think we are not anybody to judge them.

fonduegirl · Answer

Never. Even if the person was under debt and left it off to family and just ended his life. Because the reason was big enough that they left EVERYONE and EVERYTHING, it's selfish to force them to live when they don't want to.
#thisisntasuicidepromotionopinionitsjustmedontmindplease

Slartybartfast · Answer

After my divorce I thought long and hard about it. As difficult as it is I'm sticking around until my mom passes. It would have been a lot easier on me if when she told me she was leaving i found a rope and a Stout tree. I could have avoided years (decades) of extreme suffering. But I had obligations and responsibilities , taking the easy way out wasn't an option.

I was honestly very hopeful when covid first started , but I didn't get so much as a sniffle

Crafteroon · Answer

It can be. But given the circumstances their self view can often be so low that they honestly don't see their act as selfish.

If you see yourself as thrash, getting rid of the thrash isn't selfish. The guilt on friends and family being unable to help you isn't a possibility in their mind, because that is not how they see themselves or their situation.

Deathraider · Answer

I wouldn’t blame the person committing suicide of doing anything wrong. For people who say it’s selfish to leave behind family and friends, what do we expect? For them to suffer through their pain for the sake of others.

FinneasWilson · Answer

It all depends on how you look at it

From the point of the person who wants out then no as their suffering and suicide is one way out no more pain no more suffering.

But on the other hand you have the people that are left behind wondering what they did wrong what they could have done to stop you doing it,

And your pain and suffering then turns into their pain and suffering.

So really it can be taken either way.

Zeus_66 · Answer

An actual, legit question on GAG worth answering.

I honestly don't believe there is a right or wrong answer. I am sure some are for selfish reasons. But not everything selfish is bad. I can understand why someone with terminal cancer in constant pain wants to die on their own terms. At the same time, I can be empathetic towards people with serious mental health issues, including depression. So I don't think the question can truly be answered. There will always be a debate about it.

Friendzoned1970 · Answer

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If You are still alive then You are still alive for a reason and it would be selfish to go against the reason you are still alive. Think about how it would hurt your loved ones if You take Your own life.

Vendela · Answer

I think it's selfish when the loved ones of someone who commits suicide claims that it was selfish.
People treatment mental health differently because they can't always see it... Imagine if a loved one had cancer and was in so much pain and suffering, would you expect them to stay alive just to benefit you? Of course not. So why do you expect someone who is suicidal to do the same? They are clearly hurt and suffering, you just can't see it...

sage2021 · Answer

I don't think it's selfish because sometimes life is just too darn hard for some people to handle.
The only thing that would stop me is going to hell and not heaven. I don't want to end up in the 🔥 firey pit.

exitseven · Answer

Everyone says it is but maybe it is selfish to make somebody live when they are getting no enjoyment out of life and would rather be gone.

In_Trance · Answer

Everything it this world can be selfish if that's how you look at it. Including suicide.

I think it's selfish of anyone to look at someone that's contemplating suicide and think "that's so selfish, how could they do that to everyone that loves them?"
That in itself is someone only caring about themselves

Anonymous · Answer

No I don't think so, if I have the right to live then I also have the right to die.

There's nothing wrong with it. But that's a huge step and I discourage it if your problems can be resolved. Because once you take that step there's no comming back.

Forget about this religious bullshit of sin so far I have noticed most religious preachers are sinner themselves they openly do sins like rape, murder etc and still get away with it.

Sour-rose · Answer

Eeeehehhhheeehhhhh... nnn... yyy... I really can't say. Some cases, it is and sometimes it's not. Like robin williams, he said fk it because he was being used by his family and I think he had enough of it. But what do i know, I haven't tried suicide

RedStealthOperative · Answer

It's selfish, but understandable. No one knows the amount of inner turmoil someone who's gone through with it went through in their lifetime. Yet, it does leave a great deal of pain behind to the ones who truly cared for them.

jshm2 · Answer

Yes. Nobody wants to have to literally clean you up, because you were feeling a bit too lazy to get help. As my old mate Brabo used to say : "Suicide is for cowards, fight back and test fate instead".

ChrisMike1919 · Answer

Suicide equal with being coward. No matter how hard is life, you must go through it. Choosing the easy way will only let others to carry your burden into their lives, something that they don't deserve it.

Anonymous · Answer

You know--I always found it really odd that people would try to talk folks out of suicide by pointing out that it's "selfish." Like--the dude is fucking thinking about killing himself. My guess is it's NOT because the world has been super great at looking out for his interests. So if ANYTHING he's probably in a bit of a selfish mood!

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I think so. But then again, you don’t know what that person is going through. And if the people around them didn’t check on them. Then can’t really expect too much

Ninania · Answer

I think it's selfish to judge other people's suffering.

tefbrown · Answer

I am a suicide survivor. I attempted suicide twice, it was tough to be honest. But the point is suicide is a way to end the pain we're going through.

Suicide is selfish because there are many people tied to you. And you're going to let them down if you kill yourself.

It is sad our society don't really care, but there are people who love you. Stay strong. And remember living each day is courage. You are strong!!! I am proud of you. ❤️

FictionalCharacter · Answer

It depends. Cause you gotta understand, why there is suicide. It’s from depression. Depression and stress is a strong emotion, that it affects the body emotionally and physically.

CA4444 · Answer

Killing is the absolute forbidden rule in life that no one should cross because we all have been blessed with life; and that includes taking your own life

glennos89 · Answer

It iss kinda selfish because commiting suicide means that you don't wanne suffer anymore but the consequences of that is that you are going to make the peopleel who are closest to you suffer for the rest of their lifes

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I think it's horrible and I hope you don't feel that way. Not really I feel horrible to see some people at such a low point they think that is the only way out.

bootieclapper9000 · Answer

I do not blame people  cause this place is not the most fun  but the human race was bought with a price by the most high  no one should kill themselves

Sonorous · Answer

Suicide is one of those things that can be spun to be a number of different interpretations depending on ones narrative.

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Not, people got a lot of things they want to go right on their way. If someone wants to take his/her own life it seems they already gave up on everything, like there is no help. So being selfish doesn't mean somebody will commit suicide.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

It’s not selfish but it’s sinful and cowardly and wicked

Snakeyes7 · Answer

To the outward observer, it definitely looks like it but to the suicidal person, they think they are doing everyone else a favor by offing themselves.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

You don't owe your life to anyone. It's yours, to do with as you choose. But remember, once it's gone you don't get another.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap, and nothing wrong with that. The world didn't help ease the pain, so one does what one can to do so.

Marianna546 · Answer

When you commit suicide you make your family suffer. This is very selfish

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Of course, your family suffers, there's many more solutions to problems

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

I don’t think it’s selfish. Is it the easier way out? Yes but it’s not selfish bc I truly believe people only commit suicide when they truly can’t take whatever they’re going through anymore.

888theGreat · Answer

More stupid , since that person will go straight to Hell and be there forever and whatever the problem was , it will be 1000 x worse in hell. So , he or she is getting rid of one problem and just adding more problems.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

For legal reasons I'm going to say it's a selfish bad thing and nobody should do it

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It depends. There is no one size fits all to this question.

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

Ask this: if the suicidal person shared that one thought what might happen? There is your answer.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Only if you have a family that you've created... Kids or a spouse who loves you and made their plans based on you... Other than that it's not

HandsomeAndBald · Answer

People who have suffered so much and have no hope of salvation commit suicide.

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