The gaslighting of genuine nice people. You see it don't you?

[CallmeTheKnight]

Nice/kind people tend to get taken advantage of by many people. Whether it's by family, friends, strangers, and failed romantic partners.
We all seen the reactions nice people have when they are tired of being taken advantage of or casted to the side. Telling them, "if you expect a reward for being nice, then you're not a nice person." Is nothing more than gaslighting someone who just wants to be respected. Now I know there are guys and girls who place nice just to sleep with someone, I'm not talking about them. I'm only talking about the genuinely nice people.

If someone is nice to you, you should be kind to them. Everyone is so fixated on having attitudes all the time and lose common sense when it comes to someone being kind to them. Someone being nice to you isn't flirting with you at all.

[HollyK21]

Gaslighting nice people absolutely happens, and it sucks to see that, along with their kindness being abused and taken advantage of. Especially if they recognize poor treatment and tolerate it. As someone who’s genuinely kind, over the years I’ve realized that I need to be a better advocate for myself, and others should do the same. I get wanting to be non-confrontational and having a hard time standing up for one’s self, but staying silent and allowing others to wrong them is how they remain victims. After a point we can only blame outside parties to a certain extent if we aren’t actively setting boundaries with them, or using our voices to stand up for ourselves.

[Blackcosmo]

Yeah it sucks to see it happen. I know when someone is talking advantage of me because I'm so easy going but I just let it happen. I've never been able to stand up for myself and I always let toxic people do what they want to me.

[OddBeMe]

Depends on what level of “common lying” reaches gaslihgting.