I’ll never miss my child being at either stage. When he was an infant I only slept 2 hours day, barely ate and was sleep deprived and depressed. Now that he’s a toddler (who most likely has autism and/or adhd) my life is officially ruined and many days I wish I never had him. I do believe that when he’s around 8 years old I’ll like being around him a lot more and less angry, bitter and full of resent.
I absolutely understand.
I have no kids of my own. Not sure if yet belongs to the previous sentence, I never wanted children, mostly because there is no need to bring another poor lost soul into this dying world.
The moment I am able to start liking any child is whenever they get developed enough to express clearly and in an easy way to understand hunger, tiredness, pain and need for toilet. Preferably audibly and in at least one word.
Babies are probably the most confusing for me, since their limited experience and development allows them only to cry and leave the guessing of "what the hell is it this time" up to the mother. They also have about zero sense of object stability, so what they can't see does not exist for them, which is a bummer.
It's a difficult time, especially if you have little to no support. It helps a lot to just have someone to talk to that can make you understand that your feelings are normal. As difficult as it was, now that they've grown into 2 amazing young men, I look back and miss them being that little. I know it feels overwhelming, but try to find moments to enjoy it, and reach out for support if you can.
Depends in the kids. Mine were fine. My neighbours on the other hand scream and cry all fucking day. The parents never tell them no or to stop crying they just redirect them.
I always ask over the fence after an hour of shrieking if everything is ok I’m hearing death shrieks for awhile now. I do it everytime they squeal.
I have a 2 yr old and 1 yr old. Not sure I've slept a full night in 2 years. Now they are getting bad at going to bed so don't even get respite in the evening. To be fair the 2yr old was doing pretty well on sleeping, but we've moved recently, has disrupted him a bit. Need to reestablish a routine
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My Mrs much preferred them as they got older so you may find it easier. If he has autism or ADHD it'll be a voyage of discovery and likely he'll be emotionally younger than his actually age. Young kids are quite mechanical in their requirements. Keep the faith, you'll get there.
I don't hate it, I definitely wouldn't want to do it again. Other people's toddlers drive me crazy and that's not even true. Is their parents for not making them mind.
Most women go through a feeling like that. Talk with people though! You can't hold stuff like that in. Get into a mom support group, pass some childcare off to the hubby sometime; you don't have to go through this stuff alone.
" I do not remember mine... so I don't feel qualified to render a response ;-)
Probably not, most mother's would probably confirm that it's the time in a child's development that causes the most hardship or stress on her body.
Maybe you need to ask somebody who is better at parenting for some advice
Mother of the year here. Let me guess, you are single mother?
Did u ever smoke weed during your pregnancy?
I’d hate every stage. Why I’m childless.
Please don't have more children
Sooooo is daddy not around or...
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