You help a guy but he wants more than what you gave him. I had to deal with such a thing at my job and he got on my nerves so much, I told him to get lost before I called the cops. Soo how do you guys deal with those needy bums?
Usually, I try to ignore them, mostly because I'm nearly homeless, myself and can't afford to give them anything!! Now, IF I was a billionaire a few times over and IF they are legit and REALLY are homeless and not into booze and drugs, I'd gladly hand them a few stacks of hundreds and tell them to go buy a house!! Or, I'd commission a bunch of apartments to be built (or bought) where they can live for free, at least until they got a job. If I had places where they could work, I'd hire them myself to help them get back on their feet again!
We have PLENTY of billionaires on this planet!! They can't BEGIN to spend all their money!! They should all give up a couple million @ to a fund that will buy/build these places for those people to live until they can get back on their feet!! Each place will need janitors, there's a few jobs per building right there! Put some kind of convenience store in each building and hire more of them to work at them! Make it for residents only and keep the prices quite low so they can afford it! In another section, have a coffee shop, hire more to work there. I think they'd prefer a hand UP, NOT a handOUT!!
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I used to help homeless people in Philly by giving them food. But 1) they never seemed grateful and 2) half of them legit aren't even homeless. Not "technically homeless by sleeping in their car, but could recover soon." I mean, they have a home and are just con artists.
So that's what I stopped helping the filthy homeless. Let government programs worry about them. There's plenty of shelters and crap out there. In fact, I used to live two blocks down from a homeless shelter in Philly; luckily, none of them ever came up north around my neighborhood.
If I gave a homeless man $5 (which I'd never do), and he asked me for $10, I'd take my money back. I'd punch him, if I had to.
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I was at a large shopping center. At one end of the lot there was a family holding up a cardboard sign. At the opposite end of the lot was another family doing the same.
But in between them, was a cute little girl running her lemonade stand. Guess who was raking in the cash?
I'll get them something, but if they ask for more I just say I can't & they're calm about it. I wish I could refuse outright sometimes cos it's money I worked really hard to get but I'm a bit of a pushover especially after work.
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depends on the person and situation. I'll give you an example. Whenever i see panhandlers who come up to me asking for money I tell them I don't have it. Whenever I see someone come up to me asking money for gas for their car I tell them I don't have it. But whenever I see someone ask me to buy them food or a drink that's when I make the exception and buy them food and or a drink because whenever a person asks for food that's when you know they're really down on their luck and need a helping hand and in those cases I don't mind. Sometimes a person could be standing outside a fast food place and that's when you have to use caution if they got barred from entering the place for causing a scene or commotion or for loitering and not buying food that's when you walk away and don't bother but if a person really looks down on his luck and really could use a meal that's when I buy that person food. It's all how they act and present themselves. If i see a panhandler standing on a fucking freeway or fucking highway or walking up and down the island of a highway and they're drinking a fucking dunkin donuts coffee i wouldn't even give them the time of day and if they tried coming near me i would roll up my window and not even acknowledge them and usually have my knife ready and tell them to fuck off. It truly depends on the situation.
I mean seriously who carries money or change around anyway... if they don't accept credit then they screwed when it comes to me. I think they should make a go fund me page and hang out flyers to people with their sob stories then would do better for themselves and when people go to the go fund me and see the money they have complied its would be game over.
One time I had a homeless guy come up to me at the grocery store entrance and ask me to buy him a boloney sandwich with mayonnaise. So yeah I bought him two loafs of bread, a huge jar of mayonnaise and two packs of boloney.I work as a security officer in the emergency room at a hospital and deal with the homeless on a regular basis. A lot of them are mentally unstable, drug addicts, alcoholics, etc.
Some I have to talk to like a child when they have a hard time following directions.
Some are easily impatient, agitated, or will lash out at you from the smallest things so there's caution being careful what you say to them.
Most of them don't care about privacy peeing or pooping so don't be surprised if they do that near you. Give them distance.
Some are hostile so again, give them distance.
They usually smell like shit living in the streets never or hardly bathing themselves. I use this stuff when working called stinkbalm that blocks odors so I don't have to smell them or other nasty things from patients.
I used to work nights at a gas station. I have bought more food for homeless people than almost anybody I know. Never give them money because almost all of them are going to spend it on drugs or alcohol. Just buy them some food if you can afford it. If they are shameless takers and keep asking for money, tell them to get lost.
I live in a place that has a lot of homeless people even before Covid it had a lot of homeless people. Believe it or not homeless people can be oddly greedy like really really greedy I’m talking the kind of greed where they will rob somebody and then sue you because they Broke their toe while robbing you.
You may think helping the homeless means giving them stuff but if you want to help a homeless person give them a job otherwise you’re not actually helping them you’re feeding into their Laziness and their greed.I don't have much experience with the homeless but regardless..
I think money isn't the problem, so don't think it will solve anything. I think in general with people who are stuck in life, they need opporotunities to start down a new path, some guidance and a hygene do-over. Basically you befriend them, build them up if you can, make sure they shower, get a haircut and some new clothes (manage the impression from others as well as the identity they put on themselves) and then you provide them an opporotunity to get a low entry job or some ways to get going.I may give them a but more but if I don't have anymore then I'll say "Sorry I don't have any more cash on me". I'd be very surprised they could be so blunt because asking for more is socially unacceptable. If they get violent I'll probably just start running and avoid them.
I give them a little money if I can spare it, most people are thankful to get a little help when they need it, otherwise I go for B or C. I used to get annoyed whenever they ask me for cash but now that im working and survived homelessness myself, giving a little bit comes naturally because I know I can afford it and can empathize with them on some level (I was never sleeping rough but was living in a shelter and hostel for 5 months)
You get homeless and you get beggars. A beggar will be choosy and an asshole depending on mood. A homeless will be sorry and thankful for whatever as they don't want to be there.
So if you give something and they turn choosy or asshole, then take it back. If enough people do that they will get the hint.
We have a large homeless population where I live, tbh it depends on a few factors. First, my mood.
If it's a busy intersection, I move along in respect of the traffic.
If I'm coming out of Walmart and someone is there, I'm more prone to hand then some food or water. But if I see one smoking, I don't give it a second thought and they better not even ask me. I did give one guy money once at a gas station and told him he better not buy cigarettes or alcohol with that, lol.If they want more i'd just politely tell them i don't have more money sorry and walk away immediately. i'd also avoid them after that and never give them anything again. like be happy i gave you anything in the first place don't be rude and ask me for more lol
I’ll gladly buy them food and donate slightly used good clothes but not money to buy cigs or beer! But I will never tell them to fuck off unless they’re harassing or violent. They’re people too!
I have a bit of an intimidating presence, so very few people will make eye contact for more than a second and fewer yet will actually engage. So i don’t usually have to deal with such things. When i do, it has never escalated.
I might "accidentally" kick them on the way past. Unless it's a hot chick in which case I'd invite her to come home with me for tea and strumpets.
It depends.
If it is a female, I ignore them because there is zero reason a female should he begging for change with the endless female only support and shelters and funding society has for women.
I also do not acknowledge young people covered in tatts and peircings.
Old men who look like they have been through hell, I am very sympathetic for.
There are too many fake homeless people looking for contributions, which makes it bad for the actual homeless. Because of that, I don't interact with anyone claiming to be homeless.
I completely ignore the homeless. I don’t respond to them and walk right past them. I tell them very bluntly “I’ve got nothing for you” and go on with my day.
Usually I tell them I don't have any cash on me. Once I had one of them come to beg for money while I was getting ready to drive so I told him to fuck off.
Bojangles application... or Taco Bell or Wendy's or Salvation Army job training !!! Have to want to help themselves.
Offer to buy a meal. If he/she declines, then I assume the person is a con artist - I've seen alleged homeless drive off in nice new cars at the end of the day - or is trying to get money for drugs or alcohol. At that point I walk away.
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