My relationship with my mother is really bad. She currently would be homeless if she didn’t stay with me and I love my mother dearly but we do not get along. She has a gambling addiction, a cigarette addiction, a toddler-like sense of entitlement, she has a personality that pushes everyone to outcast her, and I feel like I have began to partake in outcasting my mother from the rest of the family. She takes advantage of everybody around her including me, and she is just the complete opposite of a respectable woman. I try not to be like her and yet I get angry at anybody who bullies/outcasts my mother for her horrible personality-including myself. I find that I HAVE to talk to my mother as if she were my child to get through to her. Sometimes she will ask to borrow money that I need for a bill or groceries and I will argue with her for her persistent need to borrow money even though she has a gambling addiction and blows all her money. I absolutely hate the roll reversal we have and I hate that I feel more like a mother to my own mother and father as well as my younger sisters instead of the daughter. My sisters have said that I am almost like the mother they never had in her. She raised us but yet she didn’t. She didn’t teach us much, and she didn’t work to support the family. Actually as children we would frequently end up living with family who had taken us in after my parents failed to provide us with a home or even a daily meal at times. The elders (grandparents/aunts/uncles) in my family accept the way that I am with my parents and don’t find me to be disrespectful as they are aware of my parents behavior. My family has told me that I turned out to be a good person but I feel horrible. It has actually taken a physical toll on me and started to make me feel ill and emotionally drained that I have no choice but to be a parent to my parents. I hate how disrespectful I feel and yet they leave me no choice
How to deal with parents who treat you like the parent?
