Men need to do this and men need to do that and it’s mens fault for these bad things. Men have fallen behind by almost every metric because our society has spent decades building up women and blaming men for all of its problems. Now that men are no longer good enough for women, it’s still mens fault and the solution is “men need to do better”. Nobody even knows what that means anymore. There is nothing remotely “equal” about this. There is no incentive for men to date. No incentive to get married or have children and there is no one to be a dad to these impressionable and lost young men and show them how to be better versions of themselves. Occasionally someone will come along like Jordan Peterson, but because he talks about the real problems he’s labeled as a misogynist and demonized. Until society as a whole and our media companies stop spreading misinformation, it will continue to get worse and worse.
As the number of single men increase, so does violent behavior such as rape. Eventually, the number of men perfectly willing to commit rape is so high, the government will not be able to prosecute them. Women will eventually be unable to leave their homes without armed security guards, which of course will be men. Some of which will ne single... Society will eventually collapse.
Women in our society already have unrealistic expectations. You see women who gave nothing of value to offer demanding crazy things from men. The bottom line is these women will in the end be having sex. They just need to decide if they want to do this the easy way, or the easier way.
I think the fundamental problem for men in the US is that there are relatively few single women out there who don’t have one or more of the following dealbreakers:
1) Are a single mom
2) Have a large amount of student loan debt or other financial problems
3) Have psychological problems from previous relationships or suffer from mental illness
Women that don’t have those issues are rarely single unless they have impossibly high standards.
Sure, better communication and relationship skills help, but not with balancing the checkbook or dealing with a crazy person.
The math doesn't work out with that assessment. Straight women are pickying themselves into the mid-life crisis of finding themselves alone with few hopes of settling down. It's not like men outnumber women, much less to the point where women can let a large number of men remain lonely without being lonely themselves.
I know quite a few women who are in their 30's and 40's, lonely and constantly cry about it, yet refuse to "settle" for a man who doesn't meet their stringent standards. To make matters worse, they themselves couldn't measure up to their "real man's" standards even if they could find one (but that's just because of societal beauty standards so its men's fault).
You ladies are being programmed. And yet here we see the perfect example of pointing the finger at men for not being good enough instead of addressing the unrealistic expectations women have of men.
For many men such as my self I found that living your life around trying to please a woman is a stressful chore that I can do without. I want to live my life doing the things I like to do. Why would I try desperately to improve myself to help me obtain something I don't want? Men hate commitment for a reason so maybe women need to learn how to keep a man happy and perhaps she could find a 1 in 100 single guy that still wants to be married, She may need to be flexible on his IQ level though. No smart man looks to put himself at that type of risk.
I understand this, you have to understand for every guy who finds pleasing a woman stressful and burdensome, there is someone who does this willingly. Women can learn to keep a man happy but only when they don’t find keeping her happy a chore first.
If she appreciates the effort you put into pleasing her then it would be a rewarding experience especially if she tries to enrich his life as well I guess.
I guess what I'm saying Is there might be more men on the dating scene, But there are lots of men that have low standards for something casual and very high standards for marriage. If you want to pick up a different woman every week then men might need to work on how to be more attractive to women but women need to stop investing their time in players and learn how to keep a man for the long haul.
Most of these guys just have no common sense, and it’s hard to help them because they rarely ever listen to good advice.
For many people, including some women, they prefer not to improve themselves. They feel like that’s unfair and that the opposite sex should love them just the way they are, and if not, the opposite sex or “society” is entirely to blame.
It has never been easier to get laid than it is today. All you’ve gotta do as a man is not be out of shape, not dress like shit, not ask the same boring interview questions that every other guy asks a girl, and just have a pair of balls.
The author of the article is speaking about online dating - most guys on there are only there because they have no idea how to talk to women face to face.
Ell oh ell! It’s no surprise that someone is still peddling this nonsense. Unfortunately, they’re going to go hungry because only women are buying it. Men are lonelier, for sure. But what we need to work on isn’t our value to women, it’s our value to ourselves and each other. Men are not more likely to be single. Women outnumber men. So if everyone paired up heterosexually, there would inherently be more single women. Unless women are resorting to polygamy where men are not, that’s simply not possible. How many quality women do you know that are willing to share a man at all, let alone a quality man? Ell oh ell! It’s also important to note that anyone who holds “round table type discussions” with only one sex, is getting only about one-third of the whole story. Anyone who would publish that third without denoting incomplete and inaccurate information is a charlatan.
The biggest pieces of advice I can give to a man are these:
Intelligence is sexy. If you can make me want to lick your brain, you'll win me over. This doesn't mean you have to be right, but instead be obviously willing to be wrong so you can learn more.
Care about your appearance. You don't have to be Shemar Moore, but if you don't care enough to brush your hair before you go out, then thats sad. If you can't respect yourself, how can you respect me?
So not bring your phone to dinner unless you're a dr
Since everything has gone online. It was better when there was only one option, get your ass up and ask them out, These dating sites, apps, social media have killed the confidence of walking towards anyone and ask them out. Back than it was simpler, you ask them out and they would say Yes/No, nowadays most of us lack the confidence of doing things face to face.
If you like someone, just ask them out. Here's what will happen, 1) They'll say Yes or 2) They'll say No, they are not going to stab you with knife or shoot you. It's very simple just smile and ask, "Hi. Do you wanna go out with me? For a coffee, movie or dinner?" It's not creepy or funny or fancy, it's just simple and elegant with only two possible outcomes, Yes or No.
Modern women are on crack. They think being part of some harem os equivalent to them getting a relationship. I cannot tell you how many stories I’ve heard of women “dating” men who are actually just using them for sex and sleeping with other women. For a woman to find a faithful partner in this day and age is just as rare as it is for men, because for every woman in a relationship with a man, there must be a man. It’s 1:1. The only way you get past that logic is if a woman is in a harem (which many are).
Lol that’s a big difference in attitude change from your original post which reads something like “men are struggling to find good relationships but women r doing fine” 🤭 I think we both know what’s really going on. Women are finding dick easy and relationships hard, men have a harder time finding hookups, but finding a relationship is just as hard for them as for women in this day and age. Sooo many women are settling to be a side chick these days, that’s the real epidemic
That’s part of what I help women with, securing a relationship they’ll be happy with long term where a man is enthusiastically devoted to her and only her.
Yeah that’s good, when women settle for less it means they will get less. Of course, they have to be worth what they are asking for, and there are good reasons why men are hesitant to invest in a single woman these days. Dating culture has been destroyed by hookup culture, at least on the west coast of north america. Fuckbuddy or hookup is way easier to find than a legitimate partner
And dating for men isn’t supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to be a challenge and healthy men embrace that. If a man is looking for easy, then he should look in the gutter.
I said dating for men is to be a challenge, though achievable and not impossible. Lazy men or weak men want easy. And when it’s not easy they throw their hands up and say it’s not worth it or that it’s too difficult.
I've never cheated, never hit a woman, been hit defending a woman from a drunk man twice, polite to the best of my abbility though i am awkward and you know what woman have done for me? Laughed in my face, cheeted on me less than 24 hours after taking my v card, emotionally abused me and my first girlfriend sexually assaulted one of her own female friends in highschool on a daily basis while we were dating. There are bad men yes but so far I've met many good honest men but so far the only woman in my life who haven't hurt or betrayed me are my mother sister and my good friend J, im her support buddy for giving up on alcholism, there are bad men but i sure have met far many worse woman than men in my day. Bad woman exist too this is a two way street neither side is free of fault, to say that men alone are the problem and only men need to improve is downright sexist
We have every advantage over people in the 1860s, we're making more than 10× what they were inflation adjusted, far less crime, more opportunities, slavery, segregation and systemic racism are long over, the only bad part is a ton of regulations came about since then.
Yet we can't even stay in the home when we chose to be irresponsible and ended up creating life to take care of them. We can't make a marriage work, we can't build bridges to our political opponents, and we can't mind our own damn business, always thinking about how we're going to make life hard for people who disagree with us.
It's long overdue that this all stops and we start being decent people again
Single does not = lonely. I have no plans of dating or getting into relationships. I bet that article completely ignores the massive numbers of men that are single and perfectly happy. dating apps are a scam... any man still using them needs to have his head scanned.
I’m sure there are men who are happy being single, but that percentage isn’t what I would call “massive,” especially considering the rise of criminally violent incel culture.
I'm not suggesting that there are not large numbers of lonely men but there is another side to everything reported in that psychology study but It's ignored like it doesn't exist because it does not fit the narrative of incel culture and depressed divorced men. Anything outside of that is ignored.
Well then I just must be attracting the wrong types of females, because they absolutely need to work on themselves and up their A game. I'm single right now, fresh out of a horrible relationship. I plan to stay that way for a very long time. I may even CHOOSE to die alone. That's how bad my experiences are with women. The only good women I have ever known were simply friends with benefits. The second you start a real relationship with them, their true self comes out and it's completely hideous.
So pretty much, that article you read doesn't seem to come from somebody who is based in reality. It's a completely one sided view. Maybe PEOPLE need to up their standards, and not just men. Because women are pretty damn trashy too.
I think the question should be if they care. Womens standards are raising but they raise to an extent where anyone wouldn't be able to reach it. Social media and women's day celebrations have made some women think of themselves as above everything. And at that point why should anyone even try?
It has many exceptions. Not every person who's single is "lonely" or "yearns for a relationship". I say one has to improve themselves, lower their standards, be more accepting if and only if they're looking for a relationship... If not, nobody has to change. I respect these studies but in exam I've written short notes on it, research psychology, how some studies tend to be narrow-minded or one sided.
yes we acknowledge there are higher standards for men (but not for women)
if you are a guy it’s tough luck. If you are a woman just continue to embrace your advantage.
But this is NOT a zero sum game. Mother Nature intended to bound men and women together for companionship and reproduction. Modern feminism makes women miserable and unhappy in the long run.
I find it odd how this article is saying it's just a problem for men. Given that there are an equal number of men and women, a roughly equal proportion of them are heterosexual (c.90%), and women typically prefer men their own age or older - who exactly are all the women dating, if not men? What's the difference between a man who uses a dating app but fails to find any decent women, and woman who doesn't bother using a dating app because there aren't any decent men on them anyway?
If something isn’t working a person needs to change/adapt to trying new angles. Hold far less beliefs learned through others and not personal experiences. Behaving better. Bringing less baggage along. Looking at self and realizing they wouldn’t want some of those issues in another either.
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Men need to do this and men need to do that and it’s mens fault for these bad things. Men have fallen behind by almost every metric because our society has spent decades building up women and blaming men for all of its problems. Now that men are no longer good enough for women, it’s still mens fault and the solution is “men need to do better”. Nobody even knows what that means anymore. There is nothing remotely “equal” about this. There is no incentive for men to date. No incentive to get married or have children and there is no one to be a dad to these impressionable and lost young men and show them how to be better versions of themselves. Occasionally someone will come along like Jordan Peterson, but because he talks about the real problems he’s labeled as a misogynist and demonized. Until society as a whole and our media companies stop spreading misinformation, it will continue to get worse and worse.
As the number of single men increase, so does violent behavior such as rape. Eventually, the number of men perfectly willing to commit rape is so high, the government will not be able to prosecute them. Women will eventually be unable to leave their homes without armed security guards, which of course will be men. Some of which will ne single... Society will eventually collapse.
Women in our society already have unrealistic expectations. You see women who gave nothing of value to offer demanding crazy things from men. The bottom line is these women will in the end be having sex. They just need to decide if they want to do this the easy way, or the easier way.
I think the fundamental problem for men in the US is that there are relatively few single women out there who don’t have one or more of the following dealbreakers:
1) Are a single mom
2) Have a large amount of student loan debt or other financial problems
3) Have psychological problems from previous relationships or suffer from mental illness
Women that don’t have those issues are rarely single unless they have impossibly high standards.
Sure, better communication and relationship skills help, but not with balancing the checkbook or dealing with a crazy person.
The math doesn't work out with that assessment. Straight women are pickying themselves into the mid-life crisis of finding themselves alone with few hopes of settling down. It's not like men outnumber women, much less to the point where women can let a large number of men remain lonely without being lonely themselves.
I know quite a few women who are in their 30's and 40's, lonely and constantly cry about it, yet refuse to "settle" for a man who doesn't meet their stringent standards. To make matters worse, they themselves couldn't measure up to their "real man's" standards even if they could find one (but that's just because of societal beauty standards so its men's fault).
You ladies are being programmed. And yet here we see the perfect example of pointing the finger at men for not being good enough instead of addressing the unrealistic expectations women have of men.
For many men such as my self I found that living your life around trying to please a woman is a stressful chore that I can do without. I want to live my life doing the things I like to do. Why would I try desperately to improve myself to help me obtain something I don't want? Men hate commitment for a reason so maybe women need to learn how to keep a man happy and perhaps she could find a 1 in 100 single guy that still wants to be married, She may need to be flexible on his IQ level though. No smart man looks to put himself at that type of risk.
I understand this, you have to understand for every guy who finds pleasing a woman stressful and burdensome, there is someone who does this willingly. Women can learn to keep a man happy but only when they don’t find keeping her happy a chore first.
If she appreciates the effort you put into pleasing her then it would be a rewarding experience especially if she tries to enrich his life as well I guess.
Yes, indeed
I guess what I'm saying Is there might be more men on the dating scene, But there are lots of men that have low standards for something casual and very high standards for marriage. If you want to pick up a different woman every week then men might need to work on how to be more attractive to women but women need to stop investing their time in players and learn how to keep a man for the long haul.
Most of these guys just have no common sense, and it’s hard to help them because they rarely ever listen to good advice.
For many people, including some women, they prefer not to improve themselves. They feel like that’s unfair and that the opposite sex should love them just the way they are, and if not, the opposite sex or “society” is entirely to blame.
It has never been easier to get laid than it is today. All you’ve gotta do as a man is not be out of shape, not dress like shit, not ask the same boring interview questions that every other guy asks a girl, and just have a pair of balls.
The author of the article is speaking about online dating - most guys on there are only there because they have no idea how to talk to women face to face.
Ell oh ell! It’s no surprise that someone is still peddling this nonsense. Unfortunately, they’re going to go hungry because only women are buying it.
Men are lonelier, for sure. But what we need to work on isn’t our value to women, it’s our value to ourselves and each other.
Men are not more likely to be single. Women outnumber men. So if everyone paired up heterosexually, there would inherently be more single women. Unless women are resorting to polygamy where men are not, that’s simply not possible. How many quality women do you know that are willing to share a man at all, let alone a quality man? Ell oh ell!
It’s also important to note that anyone who holds “round table type discussions” with only one sex, is getting only about one-third of the whole story. Anyone who would publish that third without denoting incomplete and inaccurate information is a charlatan.
The biggest pieces of advice I can give to a man are these:
Intelligence is sexy. If you can make me want to lick your brain, you'll win me over. This doesn't mean you have to be right, but instead be obviously willing to be wrong so you can learn more.
Care about your appearance. You don't have to be Shemar Moore, but if you don't care enough to brush your hair before you go out, then thats sad. If you can't respect yourself, how can you respect me?
So not bring your phone to dinner unless you're a dr
Since everything has gone online. It was better when there was only one option, get your ass up and ask them out, These dating sites, apps, social media have killed the confidence of walking towards anyone and ask them out. Back than it was simpler, you ask them out and they would say Yes/No, nowadays most of us lack the confidence of doing things face to face.
If you like someone, just ask them out. Here's what will happen, 1) They'll say Yes or 2) They'll say No, they are not going to stab you with knife or shoot you. It's very simple just smile and ask, "Hi. Do you wanna go out with me? For a coffee, movie or dinner?" It's not creepy or funny or fancy, it's just simple and elegant with only two possible outcomes, Yes or No.
It's not that big of a deal.
Natural selection is happening people need to get over it.
Some men don't deserve happiness with a mate.
They can't out-compete females let alone the men. Talking fincically or physically
Or don't wanna date the females post wall.
If we really believe we are animals then the weak inferior genes are not being reproduce
I actually respect some of these men not dating women they don't want.
I suggest flying out the country and date or have sex over there where you can come.
We all know women don't really care about you unless you are attractive to them.
It has very little to do with emotional availability.
These men are fat, short or broke or average to ugly.
Also isn't there more women in the USA than men. So the math sknt make sense unless women are sharing men. which I think they are
I guess
Modern women are on crack. They think being part of some harem os equivalent to them getting a relationship. I cannot tell you how many stories I’ve heard of women “dating” men who are actually just using them for sex and sleeping with other women. For a woman to find a faithful partner in this day and age is just as rare as it is for men, because for every woman in a relationship with a man, there must be a man. It’s 1:1. The only way you get past that logic is if a woman is in a harem (which many are).
your logic sucks mz.
If a woman knows what she’s doing, it’s not difficult to find a relationship with a decent guy. Same with men.
Lol that’s a big difference in attitude change from your original post which reads something like “men are struggling to find good relationships but women r doing fine” 🤭 I think we both know what’s really going on. Women are finding dick easy and relationships hard, men have a harder time finding hookups, but finding a relationship is just as hard for them as for women in this day and age. Sooo many women are settling to be a side chick these days, that’s the real epidemic
That’s part of what I help women with, securing a relationship they’ll be happy with long term where a man is enthusiastically devoted to her and only her.
Yeah that’s good, when women settle for less it means they will get less. Of course, they have to be worth what they are asking for, and there are good reasons why men are hesitant to invest in a single woman these days. Dating culture has been destroyed by hookup culture, at least on the west coast of north america. Fuckbuddy or hookup is way easier to find than a legitimate partner
Like why would I as a man invest in a girl that gets shitfaced downtown at 1am? Forget it. I could never trust that
Living on the west coast is your first problem lol.
And dating for men isn’t supposed to be easy. It’s supposed to be a challenge and healthy men embrace that. If a man is looking for easy, then he should look in the gutter.
“If a woman knows what she’s doing, it’s not difficult to find a relationship with a decent guy. Same with men“
So which is it?
I said dating for men is to be a challenge, though achievable and not impossible. Lazy men or weak men want easy. And when it’s not easy they throw their hands up and say it’s not worth it or that it’s too difficult.
I've never cheated, never hit a woman, been hit defending a woman from a drunk man twice, polite to the best of my abbility though i am awkward and you know what woman have done for me? Laughed in my face, cheeted on me less than 24 hours after taking my v card, emotionally abused me and my first girlfriend sexually assaulted one of her own female friends in highschool on a daily basis while we were dating. There are bad men yes but so far I've met many good honest men but so far the only woman in my life who haven't hurt or betrayed me are my mother sister and my good friend J, im her support buddy for giving up on alcholism, there are bad men but i sure have met far many worse woman than men in my day. Bad woman exist too this is a two way street neither side is free of fault, to say that men alone are the problem and only men need to improve is downright sexist
My heart goes out to you for what’s happened to you. However, I don’t believe it’s only men that need to improve.
Decency, family and loyalty need to come back.
We have every advantage over people in the 1860s, we're making more than 10× what they were inflation adjusted, far less crime, more opportunities, slavery, segregation and systemic racism are long over, the only bad part is a ton of regulations came about since then.
Yet we can't even stay in the home when we chose to be irresponsible and ended up creating life to take care of them. We can't make a marriage work, we can't build bridges to our political opponents, and we can't mind our own damn business, always thinking about how we're going to make life hard for people who disagree with us.
It's long overdue that this all stops and we start being decent people again
Single does not = lonely. I have no plans of dating or getting into relationships. I bet that article completely ignores the massive numbers of men that are single and perfectly happy. dating apps are a scam... any man still using them needs to have his head scanned.
I’m sure there are men who are happy being single, but that percentage isn’t what I would call “massive,” especially considering the rise of criminally violent incel culture.
www.mintel.com/.../all-the-single-ladies-61-of-women-in-the-uk-are-happy-to-be-single-compared-to-49-of-men
That report was 2017, things have changed drastically since then for men.
No it hasn’t www.psychologytoday.com/.../the-mental-health-struggles-single-and-divorced-men
I'm not suggesting that there are not large numbers of lonely men but there is another side to everything reported in that psychology study but It's ignored like it doesn't exist because it does not fit the narrative of incel culture and depressed divorced men. Anything outside of that is ignored.
Well then I just must be attracting the wrong types of females, because they absolutely need to work on themselves and up their A game. I'm single right now, fresh out of a horrible relationship. I plan to stay that way for a very long time. I may even CHOOSE to die alone. That's how bad my experiences are with women. The only good women I have ever known were simply friends with benefits. The second you start a real relationship with them, their true self comes out and it's completely hideous.
So pretty much, that article you read doesn't seem to come from somebody who is based in reality. It's a completely one sided view. Maybe PEOPLE need to up their standards, and not just men. Because women are pretty damn trashy too.
It's a competitive market. Less women, more men.
You can either improve yourself, your offering to women and compete with other men for the rare resource.
Or you can focus on yourself, building a life that please you, and step away from the meat market.
Seems to me there's more potential in the former but it's riskier, but the latter has more power and control.
I think the question should be if they care. Womens standards are raising but they raise to an extent where anyone wouldn't be able to reach it. Social media and women's day celebrations have made some women think of themselves as above everything. And at that point why should anyone even try?
It has many exceptions. Not every person who's single is "lonely" or "yearns for a relationship". I say one has to improve themselves, lower their standards, be more accepting if and only if they're looking for a relationship... If not, nobody has to change. I respect these studies but in exam I've written short notes on it, research psychology, how some studies tend to be narrow-minded or one sided.
Yup you hit the nail on the head.
I just like how this article says:
But this is NOT a zero sum game. Mother Nature intended to bound men and women together for companionship and reproduction. Modern feminism makes women miserable and unhappy in the long run.
I find it odd how this article is saying it's just a problem for men. Given that there are an equal number of men and women, a roughly equal proportion of them are heterosexual (c.90%), and women typically prefer men their own age or older - who exactly are all the women dating, if not men?
What's the difference between a man who uses a dating app but fails to find any decent women, and woman who doesn't bother using a dating app because there aren't any decent men on them anyway?
If something isn’t working a person needs to change/adapt to trying new angles. Hold far less beliefs learned through others and not personal experiences. Behaving better. Bringing less baggage along. Looking at self and realizing they wouldn’t want some of those issues in another either.