
What value can a house husband bring to a home?


Whatever task I got I take it to next level. It's a bit of a shame that a fancy job title and poorly done job is more respected that someone who really piluts effort into something.
I'd spend months researching the best vacuum cleaners and how to maintain them, like cleaning the filters etc. There are people who clean a whole floor of a hospital alone, so if you do it smart probably every task can be done easier.
I'm already quite fucking good at cooking. I sharpen my own kitchen knives, and season my pans. Polish my copper pans. I have three butchers two fishmongers and two fruit and vegetables shop who greet me with my name when I go to shop.
I can also fix many things around the house. But I'd like to learn to build new stuff, even if it's as simple as a pizza owen or wok burner.
I'd have my little kitchen garden with fresh herbs and spices.
I'd watch all the videos about growing fruits and vegetables.
And other self sufficient and sustainable things, like how to make compost from organic waste then breed bloodworms, and feed them to fish, cus ofc I'd have my fish tank.
Would setup an aquaponia, with the fish.
I'd have chickens to have our own eggs.
And finally I'd sell the excess fruits vegetables and eggs to middle class white people for stupidly high prices on farmers market, then setup a little business. Get my marketing friends on brand building thing, get investors, and make more money than my wife, cus I am the MAN and won't make less than my woman.
There is none. A mans value comes from what he can create. If he gets an opportunity with a job that pays enough to live alone or have himself a stay at home wife/mother he'd dump you immediately to have his natural role fulfilled and have his own family with a happy stay at home mother. Career women almost never have children and if they do the children are more likely to have signs of neglect.
Women cannot be equal in today's society. They never will or if they could society would first collapse and begin anew. Women used to be equal when the only thing done was farming and raising a family in your own home and farm land.
Such twisted values.
A man and a woman both can bring money to the house and house take care of said house. Partners. Also of course career women have kids. Most do.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Yeah Sure, Most women with a career don't have children. And Most people don't have a career they have Jobs. Just look up "why you can't have it all." A book writen by a woman about why so many don't have children even If they wanted. If a career woman would have a child 90% of the childs life would be spend with basicaly a second mother. Which makes the true mother basicaly nothing more then a birthing person as the child will never have the same bond like it does to the one who is always with it. The more time a woman spends with her child the better she is as a parent just like the more time a father spends with His child the better he is as a parent. Children of parents who are always at work probably show some signs of neglect. Children need 24 Attention by their parents and not have a mother that works 60 hours a week.
Your view of what women should be able to so is at the expense of the childs wellbeing and development.
Also, I recommend checking out this video: https://youtu.be/Zdch-M8qc8E
Mothers do not have to be with their kids 24-7.
I've watched the video and of course they are right about most. Women or better yet, people in the past never had free time, the thing with today is that people have way too much free time which makes them unhappy or resentful or bored. Our modern technology is what's causing this. Women prior to the technological revolution had no time for anything else because their entire day was filled with chores to do, now that literally 90% of the stuff is done by machines and that our work is way too easy the cracks are showing in our society which was caused by our own technology.
Womens natural work was or is centered around the home and around her children which means she was always closer to it then the father of the children who often went further away to get resources such as meat from wild animals and wood. Our modern society can't function like that anymore which is why there is such a huge hole in it.
I always look at farmers for the healthiest role model in how a family should be. The children help out around the farm and are always with the parents if they are too young the older ones look after the younger ones and if they are old enough they help out. I doubt that a mother would be going alone to get water from a nearby river, she'd always take her children to help her.
@RiseofArtemis it's interesting how the author of that book is American.
Have you heard of "Silent Quitting"? A term used, in the US to shame workers. They call silent quiting when the workers are doing their job, and nothing extra, just the mandatory hours of work, an no extra time. Basically insult those who just do their job well, are competent, but don't give their life to work. That is worthy of insult!
This term even appeared on the news!
In Europe, specially central and north, to leave work after 5 is outrageous! People have lives, capitalism doesn't rule them. So yes, they can and indeed have it all. They also have other policies like men have mandatory parenting leave and for a long time.
Women can be equal. If they are allowed to.
My boyfriend is more of a 'house husband' type, however he does work. In my opinion it brings value, but some of the things I think should be the minimum for anyone in a relationship. Before I list off what he does, I would like to add none of this is forced and I always offer to help.
He washes the dishes most of the time because he knows It's not my thing, which I always appreciate, he gives me feet rubs, and strokes my hair, he cleans up a lot, makes me tea and breakfast sometimes, he puts my meds out, hoovers etc.
I would say he does a good 60% of the tasks, I think his love language is acts of service, because even when I offer, he just doesn't let me, of course, there are times when I bring him breakfast in bed (tbh i love doing that, he's so sleepy and happy.) and will clean up dishes, and overall do my fair share (when he lets me that is!). I do most of the cooking, and baking but I love to do it together mostly.
I think people who like to take on more homely roles do bring value, but it has to be sustainable with income too, that goes for either gender, female or male, if I ever earnt enough after completing my degree I'd be happy for him to only work oddjobs and not need to work full-time, in fact id prefer that, worklife takes away so much valuable time in peoples lives, but we can't leave work as we work to live unfortunately.
I want a guy who will help out around the house, but I want him doing the things I can't or don't want to do like taking care of maintaining the house and yard, remodeling, moving walls, hanging drywall, painting, unclogging drains, fixing electrical issues, stuff like that.
I don't want him doing the laundry. He has "helped" with that on a couple of occasions and he ruined some of my things. I have some items that require special care and he doesn't. He'll never understand how to handle those and I don't expect he ever will.
I like it if he can cook. My boyfriend is a better cook than I am, but I am getting better. I enjoy cooking with him, it can be fun. He's making his chili this morning and I was his sous chef and chopped everything for him.
But most importantly, I need him to have a good job and earn money. A house husband? No thank you. Let's keep it real.
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Well, cooking topless certainly wouldn't be one of them! Ya ever hear the saying "Never fry bacon naked"? Well it also applies to cooking on a stove top top less.
As far as jobs around the house goes, guys are quite capable of doing any of them. From mopping floors and laundry, to cleaning the bathroom and kitchen, to doing yard work, and even delivering kids to school (with their lunches and homework), and grocery shopping. That's IF... you want a guy to stay home while you (as the wife) bring home the proverbial "bacon".
My guess is, with inflation as high as it is, y'all NEED BOTH incomes to support a family, even if it is just two of you. So the idea of a "house husband" (or house wife) is slowly and purposely being destroyed by the left in the US with their idiotic fiscal policies.
Don't consider one of you staying home. Instead, start a serious savings account (s) for retirement now. In 25-30 years, you'll thank your younger self for doing that. This crappy economy won't stay like this forever. Now, that it's in a low part, is the time to pack away as much $$ as you can afford.
The same things a housewife CAN bring (but usually doesn't), plus he can still protect/defend his family in an emergency. He can cook, clean, take care of the kids, etc. but would still be putting in MUCH less hours of work each day compared to someone that works full time/40 hours per week. He'd also be dpoing the yard work, which is somehow still expected of the man regardless if he is the only one with a job or not.
The thing is though, women usually lose respect for a man like that and will either insult him/run him down in front of friends/relatives, and she will either end up leaving or cheating because she won't actually see him as a real man anymore.
I’ve asked the same question to a handful of people, both men and women, and one answer has always stuck with me:
“Men desire respect. If a man had to choose between being loved and being respected, he would choose to be respected because that is how he feels loved. There is something of value in traditional gender roles, including roles within the home. If there wasn’t, these roles wouldn’t have lasted for thousands of years.”
Do you think this statement holds truth? I’m not looking to argue with anyone, I’d just like to hear people’s thoughts.
definitely agree with that quote
Find a women who genuinely feels loved without respect. If I had to go without 1 it would be love no contest. Life without reject is very dangerous. I think people use tropes like men want respect women want life do not consciously consider the meaning in the language nor actual application.
I have been self-sufficient since age 13~16...
every single household chore, I can do it myself
and also, a lot of repairs and maintenance around the house, I can do it myself
and I never learned any of this considering the idea of being a "house husband"
our parents just raised us to be self sufficient grown-ups, as in... adults
In a lot of ways, since we both work at home, I am a househusband. I do the bill paying (mostly) and I generally do the food or other important-but-regular shopping. She is a better cook, so she cooks but I do the evening chores like the dishes.
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You should read "The Power" by Naomi Alderman.
Me and my boyfriend are very similar to you guys! He does most of the home stuff, but I am the better (If I say so myself lol) cook so do most of the cooking, one thing he doesn't have in common with you though, is that I do the shopping, he's quite clueless lol.
It's nice to see a couple similar to our dynamic.
It seems like most guys just don't seem to get a few things. I don't know if it's learned helplessness or just allowed so often that it's taken for granted that men will never to be fully capable of the level of competence in houehold responsibilities. No excuses or any reasons to excuse it but it usually seems to work out that way.
If we’re simply reversing traditional gender roles, then ALL of the inside responsibilities fall on a house husband. The wife, who i’m assuming is the bread winner, gets all of the outside chores and home maintenance, along with all vehicle maintenance and she must obviously be the defender if marauders come calling.
Nah! That’s not what “Nature finds a way.” means. Ell oh ell!
It does fly in the face of evolutionary biology though.
I'm actually looking for a woman who will allow me to serve her, and possibly her male lovers in a scenario fairly similar to this kind of arrangement, but in addition to being her houseboy and personal servant, etc, I intend to provide financial support for her as well.
None, because they are useless bums. You're setting up an unrealistic expectation for young men that they're just gonna get swooped up by women who work, rather than actually having to work their asses off and contribute to society.
MEN must work, WOMEN should stay at home, not the other way around.
I really don’t or am failing to see what the purpose of your question is. What value can a house husband bring to a home? The same as a housewife. If men asked the same question except replaced husband with wife, we’d be called sexist, misogynistic, place your adjective here. Tbh, your question comes off more as though you’re window shopping for opinions that agree with yours or you’re trying to be contentious.
In my case it allowed my wife to go out and earn twice my daily rate (which was not peanuts) doing her preferred job, freelance. It also gave us far more flexibility and time with the children as she could simply take school holidays off work.
Anything without being asked is appreciated and valued. In my home whoever finds a chore first just does it. It’s shared. Even cooking and cleaning up can be fun when everyone pitches in. Less work more living.
Here's a book to fuel your fantasy: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/455566.Porn_for_Women
Cut the shit. This post isn’t about having a guy around the house doing household work.
It’s about having a baby face with nice abs walking around with his shirt off being your eye candy. There’s nothing wrong with that, I’m sure I’d enjoy watching my girlfriend walk around with her tits out, but let’s be honest about what we’re discussing here. You want a pretty boy to walk around the house. That’s real, uh, ground breaking stuff. I didn’t see that one coming. 🙄
Omg I just dumped one a week ago that fits your description perfectly. To be honest, I did want it, al least that's what I though. I work full time and have high income and many outside responsibilities, so my cleaning lady usually does all that stuff. I cook pretty well too, and do it sometimes when I'm in the mood and have time, but mostly I eat out or order.
He moved in with me few months after we started dating, and my fantasy fulfilled only for 3 days. It was an eye candy watching his hot bod around the house all the time, but that quickly escalated into "sugar mommy" issue and it was unbearable for me. That boy did not know how to iron a shirt or peel a potato. He did not clean after himself. He would just chill on the sofa, watch tv and drink beer all day. And play video games. And disturb me during work when I work from home. My apartment soon became very filthy and messy. Talking to him about it did not help. I would pay for everything and I would plan everything. Save to say he was completely useless. He did love me in his on own immature way (he is 10 years younger) and he was so handsome, but I realize now that there is nothing more unattractive then a useless man. Could not even pity fuck him.
it's simple. you do your laundry/dishes and i do my own laundry/dishes. split the actual cleaning 50/50. if you made the mess, you clean it. if i made the mess, i'll clean it.
also, i don't want a house husband. i want a husband with a job.
If I were rich I'd be happy to have a stay-in home, but I'm not, if I'm getting married I don't want to be the only one working.
So I don't see a benefit, the same as stay-in-home wives, that's it.
According to some credible studies, traditional gender roles strongly correlate with mounting frequency.
There's probably more to gender than just a social construct.
My husband is injured, so I've been the breadwinner these past few weeks.
I appreciate when he does what he can: dishes, folding laundry, tidying the house. The home still needs to go on, even when I'm away (I travel for work).
My husband is house husband … I’ll let him know I lent you a picture 😂😂
Repair and maintenance, plumbing, electrics, central heating, fixtures, fire alarms, smoke alarms, monoxide alarms, installation of new appliances and IT.
My husband fixes things around the house, yard work , anything to do with the car and truck and occasionally helps clean inside because he isn’t a slob like some men are.
Fixing your car, cut the lawn, clean garage, kill bugs, open new jars you can't open, take you out on adventures
anyone is capable of learning how to do those things. I do all of those things, I certainly don't need my husband to lol
Yes. Absolutely. I agree 100% that women can. Same thing can say the other way around tho no? What do women bring to the table that a man can't? If you say bring a baby into this world that argument doesn't count lol other then that a man can do anything a woman can but better lol. We are stronger and logical creatures. We don't let our emotions get in the way of our success ☺️
Like I said... women are more emotional which ofc they "are" better at communication and nurturing. Which I doubt they are better because if that was true there wouldn't be so many breakups and divorces. You're the one that started the "debate" I told you what men are likely to do. Ofc they can do a lot more when in the relationship and communicate what each person's responsibilities are.
You can also look online that the majority of divorces being filed is by women. I think 80 percent. That's what the facts show. So I doubt that's true lol women are giving children a broken home. I don't know how that's nurturing at all. You can argue that it could be the man being a peice of shit and I'm not saying there isn't but 80 percent? All of them are shit? Nah I don't believe that. People these days rather quite and restart instead of working hard on the relationship. I know from first person experience with my ex lol I wasn't perfect but I was there trying for the kids.
Lol oh really? That’s funny you should say that mare are less emotional and more logical but science has actually disproven that many times.
Sorry little bud but your personal experience doesn’t discredit Peer reviewed scientific studies
What evidence do you have to support that statement apparat from just opinion?
If you don’t have the evidence to support your opinion, then I’m going to stick with peer reviews research studies performed my scientists. But I’m going to have to with the ncbi on this one..:
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/.../
Maintaining a home is not a full time job. Nothing an adult of any gender should engage in.
True!.. 100%
I AM GOING FOR A RANT!..
Home should not be a full time job!..
People focus too much on making a fancy ass house that needs to be maintained daily and kept perfect!
Absolute waste of time!..
Above it they would add pets to their house!.. And then waste time cleaning their poop and piss!..
Keep home small simple and efficient, by design it shouldn't require much cleaning daily ( except kitchen, Kitchen must be cleaned daily) conserve that time and nurture and spend it with family members and cherishing life..
Instead of getting big ass fancy mansion with dogs to walk and cat litter to scoop and turning into a Neurotic Rapunazel of the Tower (Not just women, even men can turn into a neurotic Rapunzels) if house requires cleaning daily!..
If he's a house husband, then he has to do what a housewife does. When we were younger my dad got off work before my mother. So his job was to take us home and make us dinner.
I want my husband to work and I want to also work. Then we find a practical way to split the house chores that works for both of us.
I would hire someone to do my half while u do urs by urself. Cause ud be poor lmao
Some men help with the house chores, but a lot of men refuse to do certain things because it's emasculating.
None…little bit of fantasy is good for soul though. 😉
Any ''value'' that a woman could ''bring'' as well :)
To husband my own home, it takes me 2 hrs daily at best. I'd feel hugely bored.
He can make it a place where his wife feels at peace where she feels loved and respected - a place she can relax and recharge
I would love to be a house husband if my wife who wants to work can afford me a plush house with a annual salary of 200000 dollars a year which I make. Then I would be ready to do anything at home.
I highly sense misandry in this question. Women find it dangerous when a guy chooses to be a househusband because it's "feminine", but when a guy is hardworking, he'll be labelled as a person who doesn't invest in a relationship. The IRONY.
That would be fun to see him cook, clean and do the laundry 🧺 lol
All the same value as a house wife. It's no diferent
Same value as a housewife.
What difference does gender make?
He can get a job and fullfil his biological role
Biological role? Tell me a race of animals where the female does not bring home food.
Any parasitic insect species (where the larvae eats the host from inside), red fox (where female stays in den with cubs) or the Golden Lion Tamarin (mother only nurses small kids for 15 min every 3h and later once kids can eat bananas, the dad takes care of feeding them fruit).
On the other hand, social insects like ants or bees are composed of female workers only (males just provide the seed and then die or are pushed away).
Similarly, the praying mantis or spiders usually eat their mate after the intercourse as he is no longer needed and she needs nutrients for the eggs.
@Be3Bee didn't know about the fox. I believe they do stay at home for a time but they also gather food for their young.
www.britannica.com/.../red-fox-deer-leg-cubs
Supposedly, the fox father stops feedings the cubs after few months to "motivate" them for leaving the den (after burying some food around the den to teach them how to find food by smell) so maybe that was after the father left them to find their own food and mother couldn't stand to just watch?
@Be3Bee don't know. Either way still brings food home. Females in nature do bring food home. Hunt and scare intruders away. In apes too. We are apes.
Cook
Clean
Do yard work
Pick up kids from school
Do errands
Whatever women can do and probably the dirty jobs women don't want to do as.
Perhaps better dinners! I have dated multiple women that burned eggs! And that's going back to like 2013 before chicks were entirely glued to their goddamn phones. Give a dude a chance.
Imagine asking this question but for females. The comment section would label you as Incel.
I’d definitely be happy to do household repair and maintenance type stuff and grill on the weekends. And if I got home first, I’d cook that night as well.
I'll be a house husband cause if u leave me alimony and child support goes to me lol
All of them. It's out house too and our responsibility to keep it running. Cooking, cleaning, chopping wood, etc are a must.
Value? I guess no more than a house wife would…
Basically, everything because I am able to do that so can’t others?
He can glue to the family, be a loving man to his wife, kids and others , he can help with bills a some mostly all are assholes
Him being in my life is valuable enough
Currently working 7 days a week no house husband here.
Same things as a woman….
I imagine the same value as a housewife.
Same exact way a house wife would.
Clean, shop, take care of kids, renovate, fix
Not as much as most working husbands bring.
If he looked like this…? 😏🔥
Cooking and maintenance.
Same as a house wife.
I actually want one 😩 😭 😫
If you don't know, then I can't help you.
The same as a house wife
I work and love my job. Could never be a house husband id go crazy
I'm good around the house just being stuck at home drive me crazy
Opposites can work well
As long as you're happy that that's the main thing
None.
so you dont think that a stay at home wife brings any value to a home?
We were talking about house husband
No? ?
Stay at home husband can not bring any value and opposite is true for stay at home wife
Why do you think it is opposite? Do you don’t think men are are not capable of what a woman can do?
Yes most men are not capable
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