Why does it feel like women are mostly judged on their looks when it’s men that are mostly lonely?

[Anonymous]

Listen, I’m not saying Women aren’t lonely or can’t have rude things said about their appearance by horrible people but I just wanted to ask the question. Why does it feel like feminine positivity is shoved down my throat by the media and how all women are beautiful but it’s not the same thing said about men? Women can bathe themselves in makeup to feel better about themselves (and if that makes them feel less insecure then go for it) but what do men have? If you call a woman ugly it feels like it’s seen as wrong but if you call a man ugly, he’s supposed to get on with it and not feel anything towards it? No matter what a woman looks like, it feels as if there will always be several men out there willing to be your partner but with men, they don’t have makeup to make themselves look better or several women throwing themselves at him unless he’s either incredibly attractive or someone rich or famous. I’m not saying this to be offensive I genuinely just want to know why there is this obsession with female looks wise positivity and men are just expected to be called “ugly” or whatever without any backlash despite 90% of suicides being men and a lot of that down to loneliness…

[sassy_receptor]

because looks standards have always been harder on women than they are on men. women are judged more harshly on their looks and have their femininity questioned based on their looks all the time especially regarding things they can’t control. women are always expected to look good and dress nice and be beautiful while men don’t have to put in even half the work women do into their appearances (though this is starting to shift within the younger generations).



i do agree with you when you say that regardless of size, age, race, etc there will always be several men interested in one woman. but i think that’s because men can be a lot more desperate than women. men will not find you totally attractive or as their ideal version of attractiveness but will be with you because you’re a woman, they want affection/intimacy, and don’t want to be alone. statistically, men live longer and have a higher quality of life when they are in relationships with women because they yearn for that companionship and for someone. the same is not true for women as women usually tend to have a higher quality of life when they’re not in relationships with men and when they are finding joy in their social and career circles. women are more chooses about their partners and are typically less willing to settle just because.

[misogynistic_pig]

Exactly, in fact, I call any woman ugly to hurt her ego, and they actually hurt themselves, even if they are beautiful.

[sassy_receptor]

cool, happy for you

[Anonymous]

Because women have a history of supporting their gender in forms of feminism and stuff. It was absolutely necessary to stand together and support each other back in the days when women weren’t equal to men, to be able to get out of that and become free individuals considered adults to be taken seriously and have full rights. Nowadays this lives on and women are more likely to join together and stand up against shit thrown at the female gender. Create movements and speak out. Men just don’t. You don’t see men getting together and creating mens rights movements or speaking out in media the same women do about various issues. It’s women pushing for this for themselves while men just stay more or less silent about things that negatively affects them.

[GrapeApe98]

Actually, there have been numerous times when they tried to. But everytime they did they got called misogynists, woman beaters, etc and were immediately shutdown. Women have it worse, but at least they have people willing to hear them out and help them. No one wants to help men.

[misogynistic_pig]

Because women's ego is more damaged if they are called ugly, 👇

[misogynistic_pig]

because the value of women lies in their appearance.

[jennifer_bloom]

Good looks is not enough, plenty of good looking women are only able to attract abusers due to poor mental health and many good looking people are being abused at home or have serious diseases and anxiety disorders or financial problems.

[dustybiker]

What I say to all of these types of questions. Adapt or die. It’s a choice to not be happy. To not even try. People can always live a life that makes them happy by doing what they enjoy.